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View Poll Results: Is there any hope for an independent successful life for a sex offender?
Nope, sorry to tell you! 10 31.25%
Yes, but it won't be easy, if reachable at all. 3 9.38%
Maybe, but it depends on your willpower and drive. 5 15.63%
It depends on the type of charge, your age, the way you look and the way you carry yourself. 14 43.75%
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Old 07-20-2020, 08:40 AM
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This is my first charge. I have to do three years in TX. I would never do anything to anyone, never have and never will. I never thought my life would turn out this way. I think very highly of myself, I'm attractive, I'm very intelligent, I'm very strong and I have high standards and morals for myself. I don't want to be looked at as some freak or something when I know I'm not.

I also feel like the registry is very degrading and de-humanizing and it should have never been established because studies show all it does is hard humans, and communities. It doesn't make anything safer for anybody. All it does it create more recidivism (unfortunately), and it really makes being independent and maintaining shelter very difficult. I need my independence and I don't want to be homeless.

It's bad enough I'm going to have to surrender my beautiful car, which is scheduled to be paid off 10/2021. I just don't think that I should have to loose my social media accounts which I use in a strictly regular, legal way. It has always been that way.

Does anybody know about social media accounts, because on Tender is says you're not supposed to have an account is you're a sex offender but on some websites I saw them saying that if you're not on parole or probation that you can apparently have any social media. I need help with that and any other information. I'm not even a fighter and have no intentions of causing any bodily or physical harm to anybody so this type of environment is potentially very detrimental to my mental and physical wellbeing.
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Old 07-20-2020, 10:40 AM
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Hate to have to say this, but it sucks, I had prostitution charges that turned federal and they tried to hit me with the sex offender shit, my attorney fought to have this taken off. My codefendent on the other hand, not so lucky, he will struggle and face battles for the rest of his life, and in my mind he is not a sex offender (and neither was I).

I was banned from internet and social media during pretrial, I could use email to speak with my lawyer. Is your social media restriction part of your probation or is that lifelong???
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Old 07-20-2020, 11:45 AM
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I think you probably have more to worry about than your car and social media. Is part of your sentence to be registered for life?
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Old 07-20-2020, 01:53 PM
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My husband was sentenced to 15 years serve 3 years and he is set to get out hopefully before Christmas which will end up being only 16 months.

He will have to register though. He is a lot like you described. My husband is VERY attractive, very athletic, he has a masters degree and an associates degree, he went to law school, he made very good money and I did not have to work he supported me and my two daughters. None of those things mater anymore.

He will be labeled in our small town as a sex offender. We try not to focus on that though. We cant! At the end of the day its not about what the world says about you that matters.

As far as tender and social media. It depends per state I have been told. Depending if your charge was for something internet based or not. If it was then you will probably not even be allowed to have access to the internet at all. You may even have to get an old flip phone that does not have internet access. Our case was not internet based so as far as we know my husband may be able to have a phone. It will be up to the parole officer. Some parole officers will not even allow you to have a relationship at all with someone. I have even heard of some married couples not being able to be together while on parole. They look at a lot of different things to make the rules.

My best suggestion to you before you go in is to read the list of rules that are on this site about what to know before you go. As I state my husband is highly intelligent and yet no one he is serving with knows that. He stays quiet, he doesnt brag about anything, he doesnt let people know that he has money or that he has an education. It comes across as being better than everyone else. So you have to level yourself with those you serve with unless you want trouble.
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Welcome to Prison Talk.

Each social media platform has their own "membership" rules. While you are under supervision (pretrial, prison, parole or probation) you are also required to comply with any, and all of their rules.

Cases handled in the US federal courts use "boiler plate" restrictions, the same for everyone including during pretrial, which forbid any computer use at all. They police your compliance with lie detector tests.
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Welcome to Prison Talk.

Each social media platform has their own "membership" rules. While you are under supervision (pretrial, prison, parole or probation) you are also required to comply with any, and all of their rules.

Cases handled in the US federal courts use "boiler plate" restrictions, the same for everyone including during pretrial, which forbid any computer use at all. They police your compliance with lie detector tests.
This is so interesting to me. Our case seems to have been COMPLETELY different from any cases ive ever hear about. My husband was arrested and released on bail in October and was able to use any and all electronics and also was able to live in the home with me and my two minor daughters until he went to court and agreed to his plea the day he left for prison in June (* months later) . We even went on a cruise during that time frame. The more I read peoples stories the more I realize that so many cases are so different.
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This is so interesting to me. Our case seems to have been COMPLETELY different from any cases ive ever hear about. My husband was arrested and released on bail in October and was able to use any and all electronics and also was able to live in the home with me and my two minor daughters until he went to court and agreed to his plea the day he left for prison in June (* months later) . We even went on a cruise during that time frame. The more I read peoples stories the more I realize that so many cases are so different.
Let me also add that he was a general manager for Apple stores so he was around electronics all day long. So crazy! Also thankful that he didnt have to quit his job. He didnt leave his job until a week before he left and he just put in a two week notice they never even knew about his charges.
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That also happened with me, I got a job on pretrial at Publix, and put my two weeks in once I got my self surrender date. My charges were from advertising prostitution services online, so for pretrial I could not be online. Once I was on probation, no one cared about social media, but I also was not found guilty on sex offender charges, and you are right, everyone's cases are so different, you can't judge your time and situation based on someone elses

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Let me also add that he was a general manager for Apple stores so he was around electronics all day long. So crazy! Also thankful that he didnt have to quit his job. He didnt leave his job until a week before he left and he just put in a two week notice they never even knew about his charges.
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My wife was denied bail after her arrest. She's been either in jail or prison for 26 years.
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My husband was sentenced to 15 years serve 3 years and he is set to get out hopefully before Christmas which will end up being only 16 months.

He will have to register though. He is a lot like you described. My husband is VERY attractive, very athletic, he has a masters degree and an associates degree, he went to law school, he made very good money and I did not have to work he supported me and my two daughters. None of those things mater anymore.

He will be labeled in our small town as a sex offender. We try not to focus on that though. We cant! At the end of the day its not about what the world says about you that matters.

As far as tender and social media. It depends per state I have been told. Depending if your charge was for something internet based or not. If it was then you will probably not even be allowed to have access to the internet at all. You may even have to get an old flip phone that does not have internet access. Our case was not internet based so as far as we know my husband may be able to have a phone. It will be up to the parole officer. Some parole officers will not even allow you to have a relationship at all with someone. I have even heard of some married couples not being able to be together while on parole. They look at a lot of different things to make the rules.

My best suggestion to you before you go in is to read the list of rules that are on this site about what to know before you go. As I state my husband is highly intelligent and yet no one he is serving with knows that. He stays quiet, he doesnt brag about anything, he doesnt let people know that he has money or that he has an education. It comes across as being better than everyone else. So you have to level yourself with those you serve with unless you want trouble.

How was your husband allowed to get out so early? did you fight his case in prison or was it due to the corona pandemic? if you don't mind sharing the hows and whys I would be ever so grateful. Thank you
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You might try posting in the laso forums
http://prisontalk.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=101
(be sure to scroll waaay down the page to see the whole forum)
Lots of info there as you prepare for prison.
Poke around in there and check out some of the stickys....


In answer to your poll, (which I didnt participate in) its gonna depend on how well you get thru the next period of time as far as completing your term and whatever supervised release (probation/parole) afterward.
For me and my hub, it was parole that was the hardest part of all of it.
The registry has not been a huge issue, nor is the social media parts (for him) He does not do facebook or any of the other things.
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