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Old 01-18-2008, 10:38 PM
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*sorry for the typo in the poll, supposed to be "ever", not "every"*

I felt so helpless tonight. I got a surprise phone call b/c he's only allowed one per week and last week it was Sunday, tonight is Friday but it definitely made my night.

Before I get totally into it, let me say he's in shock incarceration which is a program in NY for non-violent felons. It's basically boot camp through prison. They take classes, do all the boot camp physical stuff including COs in your face, screaming (slapping, he's got smacked in the back of the head. A guy got smacked across the face for fighting), it's a rough program but it lets him come home in 6 months flat instead of his 1-3 sentence.

He calls me and says hey baby and we talk (he's only allowed 10 minutes) like how are you and stuff and I ask him and he stops short... pauses and then he starts bawling basically and saying baby this is the hardest thing I've ever done. (Big change from Saturday, he was all enthusiastic) "I NEED to see you tomorrow, every chance I need you. I've been crying every day" I told him I'd try and then he absolutely broke my heart when he said "No you won't, you never fail me. You ALWAYS find a way. You will be here, I know it" (Keep in mind, he doesn't get money or anything b/c I can't afford it)

His mom was supposed to take me but she has to work and was short on $$. I have money but her working prevents it. So I found this out after we talked. My mom's car is... in rough shape and it's a 90 mile round trip so I was unsure about taking it. I didn't think I was going so I just went into my room and bawled... and bawled.. and bawled into my pillow. At 9 I came downstairs and talked to my mom and she said it will be fine, that I need to go see him (esp after I told her how our phone convo went). We're young, we're only 20 (me) and 24 (him) so this is really hard on me... moreso than it should be but I love him and in a short 6-7 months he'll be home. Thankfully I'm going to see him for 6 hours tomorrow now.

Does your man cry to you on the phone or ever tell you he was? It seems like a lot of women here have big tough guys who don't show emotions and my baby is on the complete other side of the fence, he's an incredible softie. What do you tell them? Tonight I told him I'd see him tomorrow and he'd have 6 hours of bliss to help... *sigh* It's mixed emotions, I hate seeing him hurting and can't do a thing to help it, it seems. On the other side I'm bouncing off the walls cuz I'm going to see him tomorrow.
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He's never cried to me before while inside, if he did I'd say yeah, sucks doesn't it. Think about that the next time you wanna take something that isn't yours....
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He's never cried to me before while inside, if he did I'd say yeah, sucks doesn't it. Think about that the next time you wanna take something that isn't yours....

LMAO!!! But my man has never cried to me while in jail. Yes he has been upset but nothing really happened to him that would cause him to break down and cry.

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He's never cried to me before while inside, if he did I'd say yeah, sucks doesn't it. Think about that the next time you wanna take something that isn't yours....
I feel you on this one exactly!!!!
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My fiance will hardly even complain to me... he always says that he got himself there and he will deal with it. But, I tell him I know you got yourself there and all that bs but you are only human and we all have emotions. I tell him it's perfectly fine to complain to me b/c he certainly don't have to like where he is. We all make mistakes and they are paying for their crime so why be a bit*h about it when they are having a hard time? A little understanding and compassion can go a long way.
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Girl...mine started out a tough guy. Then the deeper and deeper into this 2nd bid, he is just upset and he keeps saying im tired, they brought it to me this bid. He has done and actually participated in the programming and has worked on a lot. He broke awhile back and just said, Im tired, i cant do this sh** anymore. So I can see where youre coming from, even with that convo, when I went to see him to make him feel better, I was more excited about just holding his hand! UGH this stuff never ends. You know those boot camp programs bring it to you also, im sure he is exhausted.
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My guy would only cry if something bad happened to a loved one. He can handle anything the DOC tosses his way.
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Just wanted to clarify, he knows what he did was wrong and he's not saying he shouldn't be paying for it but I don't think it's harsh to offer support and a shoulder for him. I mean he does it for me, why shouldn't I for him? Besides, it's not what he's crying over it's the fact that he is and I can't do a thing to help him out. He is human after all..
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Just wanted to clarify, he knows what he did was wrong and he's not saying he shouldn't be paying for it but I don't think it's harsh to offer support and a shoulder for him. I mean he does it for me, why shouldn't I for him? Besides, it's not what he's crying over it's the fact that he is and I can't do a thing to help him out. He is human after all..
It really is okay to cry.Many men won't allow themselves.I'm sure it is really hard when he is in there and for many reasons he can't let the other guys see him tear up.I'm glad you are there for him!
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If he cried to me it would break my heart. I sympathize with you and Im glad you get to see him. He hasnt cried and would never cry in prison as showing a weakness like that can be dangerous. He is the one who is always strong for me and my rollercoaster emotions.
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My baby would never cry, one time I was crying on the phone with him , when he was getting transfered out of state, he said baby..please don't cry your going to make me cry...and kept on begging me to please stop crying. I made myself stop crying and he sounded so sad but he has never actually got real emotional except for that one time. He's my rock and my positive reinforcement that keeps me going strong. Just tell your man to keep his head up and keep with it, that it will pay off in the long run.
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If he cried to me it would break my heart. I sympathize with you and Im glad you get to see him. He hasnt cried and would never cry in prison as showing a weakness like that can be dangerous. He is the one who is always strong for me and my rollercoaster emotions.
Ditto. Mine hasn't cried to me. I know that he has come close to it, but no he hasn't cried. I can barely get him to blow me kisses on the phone cause he someone may here him and it may mess up his swagger . But if he did cry, it would kill me.

I know two people who went thru the shock program in NY and its no joke. That program sucks big time. But tell him to just hold on. It wont be too long till he is out of there.
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Ditto. Mine hasn't cried to me. I know that he has come close to it, but no he hasn't cried. I can barely get him to blow me kisses on the phone cause he someone may here him and it may mess up his swagger . But if he did cry, it would kill me.

I know two people who went thru the shock program in NY and its no joke. That program sucks big time. But tell him to just hold on. It wont be too long till he is out of there.

You know why the call it 'shock'? For the shock and awe factor.
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If he cried to me it would break my heart. I sympathize with you and Im glad you get to see him. He hasnt cried and would never cry in prison as showing a weakness like that can be dangerous. He is the one who is always strong for me and my rollercoaster emotions.
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If he cried to me it would break my heart. I sympathize with you and Im glad you get to see him. He hasnt cried and would never cry in prison as showing a weakness like that can be dangerous. He is the one who is always strong for me and my rollercoaster emotions.
my hubby is the same way..that would be too dangerous...but his eyes get watery when he tells me how much he loves me and sings a love song to me..But no he never cries esp. not in prison..I don't think any man in there would..I think only if they were alone with their loved one..And it be assured no one was around or would be at all.
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He's usually the strong one for me too, I'm the extremely emotional one in our relationship and he's the optimistic rock so to speak. It's a bit of a change but I figure it doesn't kill me to just strengthen every so often and be his rock. We are a partnership after all. I like the emotional side, it shows he's human. I've never seen him cry in front of anyone but myself though.
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Mine only cried once and it wasnt a sad cry. I told him I was going to go get his mom and take her to come see him because she had been sick and he was really worried about her. Was only 3 hours out of my way but it really touched him. Was cool too, because she was there and had been sick his councelor extended our visit
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He nevers cried to me, but he always tells me he cried cuz of somethin i said or after he saw me he went an cried, never seen or heard it
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My husband used to cry everyday that he was in the county prison. Since he has been in pre-release, it has slowed down. Well, thats what he tells me. But just recently, he has admitted that he has his moments like every other day where he lays on his bed and thinks about home and looks at our wedding pictures and he gets depressed. That in turn goes into him crying. There are also times when he is dreaming about us or our wedding day and when he rolls over to cuddle with me and does not feel me there, he wakes up and is depressed. He usually cries himslef back to sleep. I feel really bad because my husband is pretty strong but can be a softie. But this is the most I have seen or heard from him. But he will try not to cry or even shed a tear in front of me because he knows that it will make me cry and he does not like seeing me cry. So he holds it in until visits are over. But hopefully we won't habe to wait too much longer until he comes home.
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Well I don't get calls so he hasn't actually cried to me. I do get letters from him that tell me he has been crying or is. It isn't because of stuff that is going on there though. Usually it is because he is missing me. As for other stuff I let him vent away in his letters if something is bothering him. He knows that most of the time I can't really DO anything to help but it makes him feel better to tell me about it. I would rather have him vent, cry or whatever to me than blow up at another inmate or a guard and have him catch a case.
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There is nothing wrong in showing raw emotion and asking for support from the person sharing your life. If he can't be real with you, then who with? I encourage him to tell me what he is feeling. Chances are, I already know, I just need him to verify I am on the right track. Life is hard in there and also on us out here. We deal with it the best way we know how. There is no shame in showing emotions.
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There is nothing wrong in showing raw emotion and asking for support from the person sharing your life. If he can't be real with you, then who with? I encourage him to tell me what he is feeling. Chances are, I already know, I just need him to verify I am on the right track. Life is hard in there and also on us out here. We deal with it the best way we know how. There is no shame in showing emotions.
I hear ya there dwfighterva....me and mine...well we talk about everything...the good the bad and the ugly..it's the way we stay so connected and keep the passion goin and mainly it keeps up that level of trust...he knows no matter when he calls i'm right here....but the depth of the conversations and the emotion that flows thru is just what we both need to keep each other close where we belong...in each other's hearts
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Mine has cried to me before he went and a few times after. The last time I saw him he was waiting for them to come get him from up here and we both spent the whole 45 min visit crying.
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He cries to me alot. It makes me so sad and I just want to hold him and take away all of his pain. He is the most sensitive sweet man that I have ever met.
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