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Old 04-14-2019, 07:20 AM
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Default Today is Dad's birthday.

It's been almost 5 years since he died.

There are times I miss him terribly, and there are times when the rational side of my brain says that lung cancer was probably an easier way to get out of prison than post-release supervision would have been.

The little girl in me still wants her Daddy back.

The adult in me still has not quite gotten all the way through the grief. I still have times out of the blue when I get smacked with the grief all over again.

'Anniversary' dates usually are the hardest. I finally took his birthday off my calendar so I didn't have to see it every year.

I wonder how many years it will be before these things quit jumping out of the bushes at me.
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Old 04-14-2019, 09:49 AM
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Never. Although it does happen less frequently and with less intensity as the years go by. My Daddy passed away in late 1999, just after Christmas - his favorite holiday. I still miss him. I think its the hardest when something triggers a memory...a song, a smell or something someone says that Daddy used to say. And I still wonder why we didn't say all those things that went unsaid.

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Your feelings are normal feelings you have lost your Dad. I lost my Dad 44 years ago and those feelings have not gone away. They are just easier to live with now. I grew up without him and when he was around he was normally drunk but we had some happy times and miss him , his laugh and what we could have had if things had been different.

As Patch said when you feel this way do something nice for yourself , look after you.
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I lost my Dad on this day in 2000. I was at the Neal unit in Amarillo. Someone else died on this day in history aswell...... Abe Lincoln was assassinated April 14th 1865
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I've flirted (painfully) with losing my father a lot recently. I fear it. Even though we've had a major shift in our relationship and how I view him as an adult, it doesn't change the growing up years where he was my hero, my best friend and the cool dad. I suppose it's about finding a balance-- mourning your loss while honoring their freedom from earthly suffering. But probably easier said on this side of things than felt when on the other side.

Thank you for sharing a vulnerable topic and I do pray you find some peace in this day.
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