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Old 05-11-2019, 09:05 AM
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Wow, the last month has flown by!

I met my MWI back in 2015 on a pen-pal site and we later found out that prior to his arrest we only lived 2 miles apart and his grandma had actually been a coworker of my mom...small world! So yeah we both believe we were meant to be...cheesy I know!

We spent over 3 years having our relationship consist of visits, phone calls, letters, e-mails, cards, pictures...just waiting, missing each other and dreaming of our future together.

He then got to spend 2 months in a halfway house which helped ease the transition of our relationship from prison to real world. He was allowed a cell phone so we got to talk more and actually go on real dates. The transition has surprisingly felt very natural and we are very comfortable together!

Then, on April 11, 2019 he was officially released and is now on supervised release for the next 4 years. It's been amazing and overwhelming! There is a lot that goes into the reentry process especially after a decade of incarceration!

So far he is doing great and I'm so proud of him! He gets along with his PO and is doing everything required for his supervised release: going to group therapy, individual therapy and AA/NA meetings weekly. He got health insurance, he got his drivers permit and has been taking care of his medical needs that were neglected while in prison. He is looking for a job and also a new place to live since his current living arrangement is temporary. He has also just been reconnecting with family and adjusting back to everything in the real world that he didn't have in prison. So yeah he has been busy and productive.

As far as our relationship goes, we are both very happy! The intimacy is incredible and we are very compatible. We both share a great sense of humor and enjoy our time together. It all just feels so right and yes 1 month isn't enough time to say we are a success story but right now I can say I'm happy I found him and waited.

He has quickly learned that although the real world is better than prison, it's also not all sunshine and rainbows. Outside of prison there are still problems, stress and obstacles to overcome. Things haven't been perfect his first month home...like when I drove him to a job interview and got a flat tire on the highway or when he was supposed to come over my house for Easter but instead we spent it in the ER because he had kidney stones! But we've learned we can handle bad stuff together and later laugh about it! Sure we occasionally bicker like most couples but no major arguments and majority of the time we are just two goofy lovebirds trying to figure out life.

This upcoming Tuesday he has a court case for something from before I knew him, he is planning to plead not guilty and take it to trial. So right now I'm praying we keep prison out of our life and continue with more monthly updates of our homecoming...

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Congrats and thanks for the update. That was a fast month! Hard to believe how fast time goes by once they are out, isn't it?

Just stay positive. Sounds like he is doing everything right! That's all you can ask for at this time. Good luck to both of you!!
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Congrats and thanks for the update. That was a fast month! Hard to believe how fast time goes by once they are out, isn't it?

Just stay positive. Sounds like he is doing everything right! That's all you can ask for at this time. Good luck to both of you!!
Thank you so much, I really appreciate it! and yes time has been flying since he has been out, when he was in there were times when it felt like time stood still!
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Thanks for the update and it's great that everything is going so well for both of you.
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Great news!! He sounds like he is serious about setting up a good foundation out here. He is also lucky to have you!
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Always enjoy reading your posts and particularly happy to hear that things are going well for you guys! Hoping for the best re. his court case and wishing continued happiness going forward
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ANOTHER UPDATE: He has been home for 45 days now!

We recently went on a date to the boardwalk which was a lot of fun!

He took and passed his drivers test last week so he now has his license!

He is continuing to do the right things he needs to be doing to stay out of jail!

He got to meet his niece who was born while he was in prison.

I got to meet his mom for the first time, she was super nice, gave me a hug and thanked me for taking such good care of her son! Both his parents seem to like me a lot!

We went to his court date, he plead Not Guilty, and is due back in court on June 12th.

Our relationship is going really well, we are learning more about each other, growing closer and are still crazy in love.

Currently experiencing a bit of a hiccup though...his initial housing was only temporary since he was staying at his moms rental beach house helping her do repairs to get the house ready for summer renters. Well the renting season has begun so he had to move out. We thought we had housing for him but it turned out to be a scam. Right now he is staying with his mom in Pennsylvania, 3 hours away from me, because that's the only place his probation officer would approve. He is making sure to do everything right so he doesn't get violated but it sure does stink to have him so far away. Today he was suppose to come to a family BBQ I'm hosting but now he can't...just goes to show you life isn't perfect outside of prison. He is under a lot of stress but is handling it as best he can and I'm so proud of him! Hopefully we will find him housing in New Jersey soon!

Life is crazy but we are getting through it as best we can together and finding moments to enjoy it too, it'a not all good but it's not all bad! At the end of the day, he loves me and I love him, we can figure out the rest little by little.

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Good to hear things are going well for you guys. I hope you are able to resolve his housing situation soon.
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Great things are going so well apart from the housing hiccup. Hope it will be resolved quickly for you both.
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Sound all fairly good with the exception of the housing situation.
Glad at least he's got someplace to stay. Housing and jobs are the two big ones usually.
Hiccups are to be expected, and it sounds like they have been temporarily worked out.
Fingers crossed for a good outcome in court.
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UPDATE: So, we are only a week away from hitting the 2 month mark of him being home!

Let me just say that I am a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason! In our last update I shared about the housing situation which resulted in him going to Pennsylvania to stay with family while I've stayed in New Jersey. He does not want to stay there long-term and is planning to return to New Jersey.

Well, while in Pennsylvania he has been attending AA meetings frequently and ended up meeting a guy and they got to talking and long story short it resulted in this guy offering him a job at his company! Cool thing is that the company also has an office in New Jersey! So for right now he is doing his job training in PA and then once he has a place he will switch to working at the NJ office!

He is so happy that someone is giving him a chance and it's a type of work he has done before and enjoyed! I'm so proud of him!

Crazy how things work out
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Your posts make me so happy! This is great. I'm so happy for you. Everything will work out! Thanks for sharing
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UPDATE: Today marks 2 months of him being home!

We are definitely still happily together! He is doing very well, working a lot and was happy to get his first paycheck

He is still temporarily living in PA, but honestly it's working out for the best since he got a job and can see his family more there. Tomorrow he has court here in New Jersey so I will get to see him! Hopefully court has a positive outcome..

He recently posted this on Facebook....cheesy I know, but I'm a sucker for cheese LOL

"Have I mentioned to anyone lately how much I love this grl?
How much I adore this woman?
How amazing she makes me feel every day?
To sum it up, No one has ever made me happier

Have I told anyone how, after already being away for twenty-seven months, I met her? And then for the next three and a half years, while I sat in Federal Prison, she was by my side, through thick and thin, through good times and bad, and only asked that I share my life with her?
Even though for over three years I could not even spend more than six hours at a time with her. We couldn't go to the movies, or for a walk on the beach. No spot for her to lay in my arms while I held her close.
Yet still, she toughed it out. She showed me love and support and dedication and devotion.
She let me know that I matter when I was at my lowest.
She became my best friend, as I fell in love with her

And all these years later she still looks at me like that...
I hope you always see what you see in me

I Love You Lauren! SOOO Much!"



Here's to hoping the positive updates continue! Thanks again for everyones support!
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Oh my word....I am NOT the weepy kind but reading about his FB post just...just....



Good luck to court tomorrow & so glad to always see your updates!
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He really appreciates you hun!! That's super sweet what he wrote on his facebook about you. Thanks, for the update and I'm praying everything goes well for him in court! Continue to go strong and keep positive through it all.
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Very sweet!
Congrats on 2 months!
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Congrats on his homecoming. Glad things are going well. Hoping the same for this new court case. And here's to many happy years together.
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Things are going really well, he is working a lot, but was able to spend my 29th birthday with me which was this past Thursday. He made it a very special day and we both had a great time!
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Things are going really well, he is working a lot, but was able to spend my 29th birthday with me which was this past Thursday. He made it a very special day and we both had a great time!
Aww, love seeing your updates. And happy belated birthday!
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