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Old 06-08-2019, 06:53 PM
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I just really wanted to say hello and a shout out to all the parents that I regularly wrote and posted with. Its been a long time (since last year sometime) since I've logged in.

My son started with 15-30 years, he is down to 9 years and 9 months to go until he is eligible for parole. (Eligible at the 15 year mark). He is more adapted to prison life now (something that I never thought would be a positive thing). He's staying out of trouble, he has access to the day room and yard because he has been write-up free for a year.

I've worked very hard on self-help and counseling in the last year, and started a sewing business on the side, in addition to working full time. I am enjoying hobbies more, and depression is down to a minimum in my life. And, because I want my life to CHANGE, I decided to undergo bariatric surgery. I'm 9 days post op and feeling great. This has all been a process, and I've had to be patient, but I believe in looking ahead and creating a good future. I try to impart that to my son every chance I get.

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I have a cousin that had the bariatric surgery a few years ago. The weight loss changed her life. Her health improved significantly. I hope you have great success with your procedure.

Your new goals are impressive. The stress we as parents of incarcerated children have is mind boggling. I am very happy for you that you are on a positive path.
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Good luck to you. Your post is full of hope . Thank you.
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He is more adapted to prison life now (something that I never thought would be a positive thing). He's staying out of trouble, he has access to the day room and yard because he has been write-up free for a year.

I've worked very hard on self-help and counseling in the last year, and started a sewing business on the side, in addition to working full time. I am enjoying hobbies more, and depression is down to a minimum in my life. And, because I want my life to CHANGE, I decided to undergo bariatric surgery. I'm 9 days post op and feeling great. This has all been a process, and I've had to be patient, but I believe in looking ahead and creating a good future. I try to impart that to my son every chance I get. Tatonkawia
Congrats on all the changes you have made for you. It is so difficult for us to do that for ourselves.

It is such a strange thing and feels very counter-intuitive, but when they have a longer sentence, it seems they do better when the adapt, accept the rules, and figure out the system - less problems for them. Congrats to him on staying free of tickets for a year. It is not easy to do, as it's not just following the rules but a guard having a bad day can just choose to make any inmate a target.
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Congrats on all the changes you have made for you. It is so difficult for us to do that for ourselves.

It is such a strange thing and feels very counter-intuitive, but when they have a longer sentence, it seems they do better when the adapt, accept the rules, and figure out the system - less problems for them. Congrats to him on staying free of tickets for a year. It is not easy to do, as it's not just following the rules but a guard having a bad day can just choose to make any inmate a target.
Thank you Lizlizzie. This is a process. I decided, rather than end up in a wheelchair because of bone-on-bone arthritis in my knees, I would change the trajectory of my life, and, in the process, be standing there waiting for a hug from my son when he is out on parole someday. In the meantime, I'm not willing to suffer any more than I already have. My health is not all I have, but it's currently one of the few things I can control, within reason.
I think you are right about inmates learning their way within the system and keeping themselves as safe and drama free as possible. I'm so proud of my son for making that effort, and I can't wait to see him in another month when I can visit.

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Thanks for the update. There are few people other than those that frequent sites like this that understand that if you adapt to prison, your life inside is better.

I get it. My son too has adapted as he had too and drama-free, doing your own time is the best way.

Glad you are taking your health back
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