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Old 06-08-2018, 12:23 AM
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My husband and I have been married for 3 years and have a 9 month old child together.

My husband is currently at Alhambra waiting to be assigned to a prison. His going back to prison was something we have been trying to do for nearly a year as probation had become impossible for us--from being told we can't live together, to not being allowed to see our son, and the list goes on. Prison was our only option, as sad as it sounds. He'll be able to see myself and our son more in prison than he was able to on the outside.

We're starting to settle into our new normal--whatever that ends up being
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So will it start all over when he comes home??
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That is a very odd arrangement, but if it works for you guys congrats!

So when he completes his sentence, the situation will resolve and he can live with you guys???

Apply for visitation/phones as soon as he gets to his new home, some yards take 3 months to approve, some are really fast.

Does he have a prison inmate number yet?
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Welcome to PTO. If this was a domestic issue, get into counseling now. He should also seek it while inside. It will hopefully be able to help you all become reunited when this is said and done.
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That is a very odd arrangement, but if it works for you guys congrats!

So when he completes his sentence, the situation will resolve and he can live with you guys
Yes, prison is in lieu of his lifetime probation sentence. We figured a few years in prison was better than a lifetime of probation and being treated like dirt, being told what he can and cannot do, who he can live with, etc. Our son is young enough he won’t even remember dad was in prison.

Once he’s out of prison, he’s free. Forever.
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It wasnt. His crime was from over 15 years ago, long before we met.
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Yes. Hes still at Alhambra so I cant put the visitation/phone application in yet.
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It wasnt. His crime was from over 15 years ago, long before we met.
I'm sorry, but at least you have the right attitude about it.
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Lifetime probation? Are you sure he won't still have lifetime supervision after a few more years in prison? Is he on the registry?
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Lifetime probation? Are you sure he won't still have lifetime supervision after a few more years in prison? Is he on the registry?
Yes, I am absolutely positive he wont have probation after prison. Parole? Yes. Probation? No. Its spelled out in his court documents signed by the judge. We spent nearly $20k for the best lawyer to ensure we did this right. The state fought HARD in court against our petition to revoke probation because he will have a relatively short prison sentence. He will leave prison having his sentence of lifetime probation completed as time served in prison.

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Update: found out from another prison wife that he was assigned to CACF. I actually got to talk to him this morning for 5 minutes. That made my heart happy. Visitation and phone call apps already submitted.
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Update: found out from another prison wife that he was assigned to CACF. I actually got to talk to him this morning for 5 minutes. That made my heart happy. Visitation and phone call apps already submitted.
My son is at CACF, and we are visiting this weekend. Contact me if you have questions.
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I messaged you. Thank you for reaching out!
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Yes, prison is in lieu of his lifetime probation sentence. We figured a few years in prison was better than a lifetime of probation and being treated like dirt, being told what he can and cannot do, who he can live with, etc. Our son is young enough he wont even remember dad was in prison.

Once hes out of prison, hes free. Forever.
I know this is a very old thread but I found it by searching for CACF and saw your post. I met my LO after he was on Early release and Lifetime Supervision. He had talked about going back and killing his number from the time we met but it was a battle for him being in our relationship.

Our situation wasn't as bad as yours, so I won't pretend to say I know what you went through. My kids were older. But I do relate to being treated like dirt, group was shaming as hell, and the PO felt like microscope of writeups. After his 1st arrest, he was reinstated,

We fought like hell to make probation, jobs, housing, emotional and mental health, lack of social contacts outlets, fear of being found out, keeping the unpredictable gps charged, probation and group fees, all of that work, he was older and but could only find manual labor willing to hire him and was suicidal.

In the end, but his 2nd arrest last month he wasn't. I kinda suspect that partially a little subconsciously he is on the emotional side of it, relieved to be back inside and also of course now he will be able to, like you guys, be released on parole and never deal with probation again.

He was placed in CACF on the 7th of June and I haven't been approved yet. So I am behind you guys, by a year. and you might not see this. But hopefully you will.
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so glad you found us! I am sorry your partner has had such a hard time with the probation/parole system. My son has been there 2 years and has grown a tremendous amount. He is seeking out the classes that help the guys learn why they offended, and what they can do to prevent further offenses once they are out. I hate having him in prison, but it is the right place for him, for now. I hope your loved one does well. Hope that approval comes through soon, mine took 3 weeks. If you visit, be very conservative in dressing, and have spare clothes in the car. They are VERY strict at the visitor intake area.
Let me know if I can help with any info.
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Really is a shame when prison is looked at as a better option than living with probation. They make it almost impossible to simply live. My husbands probation was basically house arrest. Not even exaggerating. One thing we are happy about him going back to prison for is being off papers after a short time of parole. Then we can finally go out and do family things.
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