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Old 09-07-2020, 09:05 AM
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Default Husband is Home - Our Update

Hello everyone, itís been a very very very long time since Iíve been active on PTO like I once was but as much as Iíve gotten out of being on PTO, the encouraging words and the things I have learned, I thought it was only right that I came back and gave an update to what all has happened.

As a quick recap, my husband and I MWI in 2012 when we were babies lol, I was 18 he was 21. We got to know each other for over a year through letters and eventually phone calls. I finally went to go see him in Texas from Tennessee where I was in college at the time and we knew in that moment what we were feeling for each other was real and we genuinely loved one another. We never broke up, never separated even though we had our ups and downs admittedly (like any relationship). I was graduating college in 2015 about to move to Chicago to start my career, he was always beyond supportive of me even when it came at the expense of me distancing myself and focusing way more on myself vs. our relationship. Things werenít the best, then boom heís caught with a cellphone and on his way to high security. While I hate that this is what it took it brought us back together to be stronger than we were before. In 2017 I made up my mind that I was going to move to Houston to be closer to him and our (his) family. As soon as I secured a new & better job and told him Iím coming to Houston he asked me to marry him, unprompted and caught me by surprise, but a good surprise. He said he wouldnít let me make that move for him as just his girlfriend. After counseling and getting a lot of things understood we married a year later in 2018. Through a stressful parole process and waiting an additional 2 months past his original answer date, my husband was granted parole November 2019 with completion of a program on his first time up on a 25 year sentence.

My husband changed a lot of his old ways to become a better man holistically, from the way that he would think, react, how he spent his time, everything. Iíve watched him grow into his own man, and heís done this all on his own accord because he wanted to. Not once did I ask him to do anything different and I think this was a huge factor in our success as a couple, he wanted to be the best for me and I wanted to be the best for him. Everything he said he would do, heís done.

Fast forward to now, my husband was released to a HWH in May and because of COVID we were only able to see each other twice while he was there. After sooo many years we envisioned everything so differently. From me being able to pick him up to him coming straight home, and being able to move around without wearing masks lol. But he was released from the HWH in July and has been in our home ever since.

I know we hear a lot of things, especially on this board, but everything has gone even better than I could have expected. While it did take us a few weeks to really adjust to being with each other longer than 4 hours at a time it was not a hard or difficult adjustment. All it took was us continuing to communicate and share how we were feeling about things. Now itís like we have always been on these sides of the gates. My husband has come home and has done what he said he would do which is what I know we are most scared of, especially being MWIs. I cook, he cleans, he cleans up after our dogs messes lol, he gets me Starbucks in the morning while Iím WFH, takes on the home projects Iíve saved for him, we joke we play we laugh we love. Itís beautiful. We are starting our business, he bought a truck for it already outright, every dollar heís gotten since being out has been put in our joint account, heís been open about whatever.

Yes, we are two months in, but when you know you just know. And I want whoever is reading this to keep that in mind. It can work, it can be everything you want it to be. You can have the life youíve always wanted. Just be honest with yourself and your partner and assess the relationship. I am beyond grateful that we took the chance on each other, we now have something beautiful to show for it.

Happy to answer any questions or share more, give advice, whatever! Yíall have done the same for me so itís the least I can do
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Old 09-07-2020, 01:16 PM
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Congratulations on the Homecoming. All you can do is take one day at a time like anybody else. There will be hills and valleys, but that is life for anybody. It can be done. May you both continue to be blessed on your journey together!!
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Old 09-07-2020, 01:19 PM
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Always good to hear updates! And when it's a happy one, all the better.
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Love this beautiful update. Thanks for sharing and I’m so happy for you both.
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Congratulations on the homecoming and thank you for sharing your story. We went through pretty much the same journey. My husbandís been home in our house for about a month now.

Did your husband also have the hardest time remembering to turn off lights and lock the door?
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Congratulations to you both. That is such a beautiful update. It really gives hope to some of us out here waiting for our husbands
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This was very nice to read. I'm very happy for you!
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