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Old 07-19-2017, 07:42 PM
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Hello my name is Shyrell i'm looking for support and encouragement My son was neglected in Polk and now he's in a mental facility, i don't know what to feel or how to feel.
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Old 07-19-2017, 09:22 PM
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That sounds terrible. Can you say a little more about what happened? But in any case, one of the worst things about jail is that those on the outside feel, and mostly are, so powerless to help. Sorry for your troubles.
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Old 07-19-2017, 09:34 PM
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That doesn't sound encouraging, can you say more about what happened? Possibly this move was to protect your son from further issues at Polk and that was the closest and available fact to get him to. As agreed the worst feeling is being helpless and powerless but we know how you feel.
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Old 07-19-2017, 10:37 PM
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The unknown is the worst. We can usually find a way to deal with the rest. I'm sorry your son is in such a bad situation. I'm hoping you'll find out more info that will help you understand what's going on. Have you posted in the state site for your son's location? There may be someone in that forum who can help you find answers. Stay strong & update us.
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Old 07-20-2017, 04:59 AM
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Welcome to Prison Talk Shyrell. I'm sorry for what your son, and you are facing in the NC prison system. Take care of yourself so you can continue to support him.
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Old 07-22-2017, 09:40 PM
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Welcome and so sorry for what you are going thru. Mental health issues are so misunderstood both in and out of prison. I hope if your son needs help he is getting it.. I have many people in my life both in and out of prison with mental health issues. NAMi was very helpful to me and if they are in Your area please look them up and take a few,classes . also when my son want i to prison NA was a great help because a lot of felons also have both mental health and drug issues. They seem to go hand in hand sometimes. Stay strong and take care of yourself first . For me that meant going to my own mental health care specialist for awhile Good look and I hope your son is doing o
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Old 07-24-2017, 06:35 PM
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Wow I feel for you and your family it seriously makes me cringe whenever I think of what you must be induring.. I will be praying for you and your family.
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I'm so new and I'm having this grief all alone.
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Old 10-22-2017, 08:41 PM
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Hi. My son just got sentenced to prison. I feel as though I am going through a death in family. I just cant not dwell on this..
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You are grieving the loss of your son, but hopefully not for a long time. An internet search for "prison grief" will show you that what you are experiencing is shared by many other families too.

I agree that the beginning of the prison nightmare is absolutely the worst time for everyone. Be sure to take care of yourself so you will be able to support your son. It may not get much easier, but it will become your new normal, and less difficult on everyone.
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It's a terrible feeling, isn't it? I told someone that it is like a death & it is. It's the death of life as you knew it. But there can be a "resurrection" once you are able to go through the process of grieving & start focusing your energy on what you can do, not what you can't. That's why I became an advocate for reform & am doing everything I can to make a difference. It keeps me busy in a positive way & may help someone who is suffering like we are.

It's easy for it to consume you so do everything you can not to let it. If there are advocacy groups in your area, reach out to them. They get it & often can help you through it. And take care of yourself. Your son will need your strength & believe me, being their "cheerleader" is exhausting.

We are here if you need support or advice. The journey can be long & lonely but the people here have been on the same road so they are a big help.
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Thanks for letting me know that there is going to be a positive outlook and I will learn how much I am not alone in all of this
I sure relate to your situation and I will pray for you to get some relief from the worries and the uncertainty of having to deal with the "justice system "
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Old 10-22-2017, 11:12 PM
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I'm so new and I'm having this grief all alone.
Welcome to the site. I'm sorry you have to go through this & there are so many of us here that understand what it's like. Please let us know how we can help walk you through things. It does help to have someone to listen that has gone through what you're dealing with. We don't have all the answers but being able to vent sometimes helps most of all.
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Old 10-23-2017, 10:30 AM
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Thank you all so much. How do i file a lawsuit against a NC jail
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Old 10-24-2017, 08:34 AM
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Old 10-24-2017, 08:43 AM
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Ive spoken to 12 and denied i feel like they are working together. One had the nerve to tell me if my son is alive then i should let it go um No! I reside in Charlotte NC if someone knows a lawyer i really will appreciate it
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I'm so new and I'm having this grief all alone.
I hope You will reach out for help..I did when this journey of incarrceration hit my life.and Yes it is very much grieving. .I can tell You for sure that there is support out there. Myself I've joined several Facebook groups:Incarcerated Loved Ones, Mothers with Incarcerated Sons..There is also State by State Inmate support pages on facebook..Also I belong to a Christian Prison Ministry called Kairos..We are in most States..www.mykairos.org
thru this community I've found Hope Peace and Strength.
Hang in there & PM me if u want.
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Old 11-27-2017, 05:43 AM
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Thank you so much for your reply. I have joined mother with incarcerated son and would like to find a support group locally here in Tampa. I would like to especially join a Christian group. I'm not bro anyone at the moment. I'm still trying to find my way back to life. Thank you again.
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Old 11-27-2017, 02:42 PM
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Thank you so much for your reply. I have joined mother with incarcerated son and would like to find a support group locally here in Tampa. I would like to especially join a Christian group. I'm not bro anyone at the moment. I'm still trying to find my way back to life. Thank you again.
I'm glad you're trying to stay strong. There is a Christian ministry group in Florida that might be of help to you. I believe they're based near Tallahassee but might have someone near you. They are the Kairos of Florida. Here is a link to their site. They work with those inside & outside too. http://www.kairosfl.org/index.html
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The last time I was in here making comment of Coleman II not having any Christian Church service available for prisoner. Shortly after my son informed me that they started a Catholic service. I was happy that Good answered my prayer. And soon after that the prisoners were in locked down again for something unknown to them and or someone somewhere got in the fight and all prisoners are locked down. As a result no church service. They have no church service, no programs, no activities, no exercise, no sun lite, nothing but sit in their cells day after day because someone did something somewhere.
If the guards are complaining of men fighting daily, well, with all the testosterone locked up together without any activities r an outlet, then the system is setting the prisoner up for failure. They will fight from frustrations and pin up anger. They were told they were not to go outside untill after the holidays, until 2018. Why? Are there not enough guards? And what are the guards dirty when the prisoner are in daily locked down for days and days at a time? Should they not be send home in paid instead of sitting around and do nothing, spending good earned from our taxes?
I drove to see my son just to get stopped at the door that they're will be no visitor because the men are in locked down since the night before. I called the night before and the recording said visiting are open. I called the morning before u left and was told by the recording the visitor is open. No human answered the call to tell me differently untill I got there. A guard told me they can't stop the recording since it is set up at some Central station. So many family and loved one showed up just to be turned away. Where are the guards and what are they doing that they can't answer the phone, especially when the prisoners are all locked down?
Can someone tell me how I can help and where do u write to? Thank you. I feel so helpless.
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Old 12-05-2017, 06:01 AM
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Another question for me is, are the prisoners in there too be rehabilitated or are they in there to continue to be torture do that once they are released they will have everyone and everything or mentally damaged. How will they succeed when the system is setting them up to fail. What are the warden doing in the office day after day?
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The last time I was in here making comment of Coleman II not having any Christian Church service available for prisoner. Shortly after my son informed me that they started a Catholic service. I was happy that Good answered my prayer. And soon after that the prisoners were in locked down again for something unknown to them and or someone somewhere got in the fight and all prisoners are locked down. As a result no church service. They have no church service, no programs, no activities, no exercise, no sun lite, nothing but sit in their cells day after day because someone did something somewhere.
If the guards are complaining of men fighting daily, well, with all the testosterone locked up together without any activities r an outlet, then the system is setting the prisoner up for failure. They will fight from frustrations and pin up anger. They were told they were not to go outside untill after the holidays, until 2018. Why? Are there not enough guards? And what are the guards dirty when the prisoner are in daily locked down for days and days at a time? Should they not be send home in paid instead of sitting around and do nothing, spending good earned from our taxes?
I drove to see my son just to get stopped at the door that they're will be no visitor because the men are in locked down since the night before. I called the night before and the recording said visiting are open. I called the morning before u left and was told by the recording the visitor is open. No human answered the call to tell me differently untill I got there. A guard told me they can't stop the recording since it is set up at some Central station. So many family and loved one showed up just to be turned away. Where are the guards and what are they doing that they can't answer the phone, especially when the prisoners are all locked down?
Can someone tell me how I can help and where do u write to? Thank you. I feel so helpless.
I believe this link might have already been posted some time ago but I would reach out to this office http://www.dc.state.fl.us/orginfo/families/
It's the FL Office of Citizens' Services. They are the go between for issues related to those incarcerated. There are several ways to contact them listed on that site.

Hope you have good luck. Stay strong because what you've said happens is wrong to be allowed.
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Old 12-05-2017, 09:52 AM
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I believe this link might have already been posted some time ago but I would reach out to this office http://www.dc.state.fl.us/orginfo/families/
It's the FL Office of Citizens' Services. They are the go between for issues related to those incarcerated. There are several ways to contact them listed on that site.

Hope you have good luck. Stay strong because what you've said happens is wrong to be allowed.
Coleman is federal not FDOC!!!! State would have no bearing on what happens in a federal prison.
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Coleman is federal not FDOC!!!! State would have no bearing on what happens in a federal prison.
Thanks for clearing that up. I'm not very familiar with Florida prisons so didn't catch that this was a federal one. You might reach out to the BOP regional office that handles Florida. It does list that prison as being under their watch. https://www.bop.gov/locations/regional_offices/sero/
They also have an online form to contact the BOP about inmate concerns. https://www.bop.gov/inmates/concerns.jsp

Have you reached out to any advocacy groups? The Florida Justice Institute might be able to help. https://www.floridajusticeinstitute....soners-rights/
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Hello my name is Shyrell i'm looking for support and encouragement My son was neglected in Polk and now he's in a mental facility, i don't know what to feel or how to feel.
I'm so sorry to hear this. My mom's heart was broken when I went to prison many years ago. How could I support you in any way? I have been out of prison for 20 years now crime free and spent 30 years in prison.
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