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Old 03-12-2013, 02:57 AM
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Question Do I tell him or not worry him?? Need help please!

`I spent the night in er just got home please me should i ntell him so he dosebt get mad later or wait so he dosent worry feedback please!!!
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Old 03-12-2013, 06:25 AM
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If you are okay tell him what happened and assure him that everything is okay. My boyfriend and I don't keep secrets and when I go to the hospital he likes to know. I tell him.and make sure I fill him in on what happened and what the doctor said.
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Old 03-12-2013, 06:29 AM
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I didn't keep secrets either, so when I went to the hospital or was in the hospital he knew.
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Old 03-12-2013, 08:06 AM
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I'd let him know what is going on.
I tried to keep some info from my hubby re: his mother. He got very mad when I had to tell him she had cancer. It was complicated and I didnt want to worry him either until we all knew more.
that was a mistake.

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Honesty is always the best policy. Beyond that, some feel the need to "protect" their men as though prison means they need coddling. The truth is if they're big enough to go to prison they're big enough to deal with what life throws their way.
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I really never get these posts of “Do I tell him...”

When you are partners with someone aren’t you supposed to share the good and the bad? Don’t people’s vows usually say in sickness and health, for richer or poorer?

All I know is I would be PISSED if I found out later that my partner had been keeping things from me.
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Old 03-12-2013, 09:06 AM
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I told him thank you the only reserve i had was im gettin ready 4 back major surgery and hes worried cause he wont be here now i have this its call neuralga its the nerver in ur right side of ur face it comes one day with no warning and it is non curable its not constant but can have a attack any time without warning i guess it can be dibilitating so im gettin an appt to find out options as soon as they open.
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I tell my man everything, it may not be what he wants to hear but i know it's better then keeping it a secret. Plus I know personally I'd feel so guilty for not telling him.
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Originally Posted by bdavisgirl8980 View Post
`I spent the night in er just got home please me should i ntell him so he dosebt get mad later or wait so he dosent worry feedback please!!!
Would you want to know if something happened to him? I believe you would....tell him, he will worry no matter what.

Why would you want to do something or not do something you know will make him mad? That just does NOT make sense to me.

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I'm glad you told him. It is always better for him to hear from you than from someone else. And as your partner, he needs to know what is happening. Are you dealing with trigeminal neuralgia? If so, feel free to PM me. I have been dealing with this for YEARS and have gone through MANY different treatment approaches. It is really imprtant to have support for this, and for your man to know. One of its nicknames is the "suicide disease"...so please don't isolate, particularly from him!

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