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Old 05-10-2012, 07:44 PM
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I was really considering whether or not I should post but figured i should vent . i haven't been on PT for some time and last time I was i posted on some dumb ass drama that happened with me and my man and his ''ex''. long story short: it was about me finding out through him that he was married to her but didn't ''think he was'' cuz of some paperwork and so thats why he never told me before ( sure...but anyways) Blah blah blah, he told me after i stopped getting any letters from his ass so I went to pay him a visit and thats when he told me ( we were supposed to get marrried but apparently couldn't cuz of this ''marriage'' ) Anyway i stayed with his ass, I stopped writung him for a while , he started writing me telling me he knew he was an ''asshole'' and how i made his ''soul happy''. During the visit when he confessed he asked me to wait for him and to let him sort it out. I told his ass ''wtf am i gonna wait for, so you can break my heart again and for nothing??'' anyway like i said stopped writing him. he started writing me and it all went back to ''normal'' (my dumb ass.... I don't even want to think about it and why I stayed) anyway fast forwrad this past Monday.

I get a letter from his old cellie, who's since been transferred to another prison way up north. He was transferred maybe two months ago. Anyway i knew nothing good was to come of it...common sense ya know. Anyway I only read the first page and in it he asks if i remember who he is and tells me who he is (as if i didn't know) he then goes on to say he's wondering if we can correspond and trade ''artwork'' since he's an ''artist'' and he know I used to send my ''man'' tattoo patterns and art thru the mail (my man did tell me he used to get tatted by him) I flipped to page 7 (YES it was a long ass letter) and I see my man's ''Ex'' Name on the page, so I'm like ''Hold the f**k up let me read this page, in the page he says ''I tried to let him know what a good thing he has with you , but he's stuck on ___. I've seen pictures of her. So then after I read that b.s I read the whole damn letter. My blood was boiling at that point, i felt as if my insides were shaking.

Anyway, the whole damn letter was about art, and what he likes to draw and tattoo and what he looks for in drawings and how it could be a ''tradeoff'' so I would be ''gaining'' something out of it (such as art for bday cards , etc) just b.s . So while i'm reading this I'm like ''get to the damn point already'' so th eletter goes from talking about tattoos to how he likes ''women with confidence'' cuz it's a big turn off when ''a woman doesn'T try to be sexy but just is'' then he insinuates how there's ''something'' about me that he can"t explain but ''it's like when u meet someone that stands out and has that 'thing'' but you can"t describe'' and then goes on to say How I would be a perfect model and goes on to describe a specific pic I sent my man, it wasn't sexual or nudie just sexual tones. And goes on to say how he likes my pics from my blog ( I used to send my man pages and pics from my blog site...just random stuff) he goes on about how he would love to draw me and blah blah. He asks for pics of this one model my man likes ( i used to send pics of her to my man) and then has the damn audacity to say "i hope you don"t get mad or freak out on ___(my man) he continues to tell me that my pictures were ''pretty f**kin hot '' and how he see me as a "hot exotic model'' haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
And then he takes the cake by telling me ''I was only able to get a couple of your pictures, it wasn't easy but there was a couple that I really wanted but to no avail was able to get (huh?? so you were able to get em or not don"t understand his writing in that one page)in that same page he tells me about how my man is stuck on his ex and has seen the pictures .He then insinuates that maybe I should break up with my man. He doesn"t come out and say it he just says ''maybe wake up and realize what he's got'' so 1+1 equals 2 ya know. he goes on to say that '' I wouldn't give a dam on worrying about something that may or may not be there when he gets out'' He ends it by saying ''I don't mean to ramble on but that was my dr phil advice for the day'' and then goes on another rant about how he listened to a couple of calls (phone sex calls) me and my man had and all he could think about was a ''smoking hot latina'' and how every now and then he thinks about the calls and glances at my pictures.He also said that he could go on (about my man and his ''ex'' but would leave it at that (I guess he's doing me a favor)and then he shuts it off by saying ''BUT if your interested in trading he art that would be cool if not i totally understand and adds ''I hope u understand and know in my way to you that this was my way in some inorthodox way of giving you some compliments (IDK made no damn sense so I just guessed what he was trying to say..sorry) I hope I didn't offend you( WOW really) You got it going on , I finally had the nerve to say it ( insert smiley blush face...dumbass)

yeahhhhhh so that was the start to my week, what I woke up top on monday morning. I can go on to say what I think but I'll save it. There's too much going on in my head. I'm pissed off at this weird ass fool but It's all my ''man's'' fault and TRUST me I'm equally just as pissed at him. I feel like I could stomp his face out. He was supposed to call Tuesday but didn't so I was so pissed then...thats okay tho cuz he's just adding more fuel to the fire.
Anyway that was my rant , I had to get it out and I wanted to come on here cuz I know some ladies are unfortunately in the same situation as me and can understand. Not looking for advice or anything, I know what to do and what I should have done but I'm stupid what else can I say. Thanks girls.
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Old 05-10-2012, 07:59 PM
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I was really considering whether or not I should post but figured i should vent . i haven't been on PT for some time and last time I was i posted on some dumb ass drama that happened with me and my man and his ''ex''. long story short: it was about me finding out through him that he was married to her but didn't ''think he was'' cuz of some paperwork and so thats why he never told me before ( sure...but anyways) Blah blah blah, he told me after i stopped getting any letters from his ass so I went to pay him a visit and thats when he told me ( we were supposed to get marrried but apparently couldn't cuz of this ''marriage'' ) Anyway i stayed with his ass, I stopped writung him for a while , he started writing me telling me he knew he was an ''asshole'' and how i made his ''soul happy''. During the visit when he confessed he asked me to wait for him and to let him sort it out. I told his ass ''wtf am i gonna wait for, so you can break my heart again and for nothing??'' anyway like i said stopped writing him. he started writing me and it all went back to ''normal'' (my dumb ass.... I don't even want to think about it and why I stayed) anyway fast forwrad this past Monday.

I get a letter from his old cellie, who's since been transferred to another prison way up north. He was transferred maybe two months ago. Anyway i knew nothing good was to come of it...common sense ya know. Anyway I only read the first page and in it he asks if i remember who he is and tells me who he is (as if i didn't know) he then goes on to say he's wondering if we can correspond and trade ''artwork'' since he's an ''artist'' and he know I used to send my ''man'' tattoo patterns and art thru the mail (my man did tell me he used to get tatted by him) I flipped to page 7 (YES it was a long ass letter) and I see my man's ''Ex'' Name on the page, so I'm like ''Hold the f**k up let me read this page, in the page he says ''I tried to let him know what a good thing he has with you , but he's stuck on ___. I've seen pictures of her. So then after I read that b.s I read the whole damn letter. My blood was boiling at that point, i felt as if my insides were shaking.

Anyway, the whole damn letter was about art, and what he likes to draw and tattoo and what he looks for in drawings and how it could be a ''tradeoff'' so I would be ''gaining'' something out of it (such as art for bday cards , etc) just b.s . So while i'm reading this I'm like ''get to the damn point already'' so th eletter goes from talking about tattoos to how he likes ''women with confidence'' cuz it's a big turn off when ''a woman doesn'T try to be sexy but just is'' then he insinuates how there's ''something'' about me that he can"t explain but ''it's like when u meet someone that stands out and has that 'thing'' but you can"t describe'' and then goes on to say How I would be a perfect model and goes on to describe a specific pic I sent my man, it wasn't sexual or nudie just sexual tones. And goes on to say how he likes my pics from my blog ( I used to send my man pages and pics from my blog site...just random stuff) he goes on about how he would love to draw me and blah blah. He asks for pics of this one model my man likes ( i used to send pics of her to my man) and then has the damn audacity to say "i hope you don"t get mad or freak out on ___(my man) he continues to tell me that my pictures were ''pretty f**kin hot '' and how he see me as a "hot exotic model'' haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
And then he takes the cake by telling me ''I was only able to get a couple of your pictures, it wasn't easy but there was a couple that I really wanted but to no avail was able to get (huh?? so you were able to get em or not don"t understand his writing in that one page)in that same page he tells me about how my man is stuck on his ex and has seen the pictures .He then insinuates that maybe I should break up with my man. He doesn"t come out and say it he just says ''maybe wake up and realize what he's got'' so 1+1 equals 2 ya know. he goes on to say that '' I wouldn't give a dam on worrying about something that may or may not be there when he gets out'' He ends it by saying ''I don't mean to ramble on but that was my dr phil advice for the day'' and then goes on another rant about how he listened to a couple of calls (phone sex calls) me and my man had and all he could think about was a ''smoking hot latina'' and how every now and then he thinks about the calls and glances at my pictures.He also said that he could go on (about my man and his ''ex'' but would leave it at that (I guess he's doing me a favor)and then he shuts it off by saying ''BUT if your interested in trading he art that would be cool if not i totally understand and adds ''I hope u understand and know in my way to you that this was my way in some inorthodox way of giving you some compliments (IDK made no damn sense so I just guessed what he was trying to say..sorry) I hope I didn't offend you( WOW really) You got it going on , I finally had the nerve to say it ( insert smiley blush face...dumbass)

yeahhhhhh so that was the start to my week, what I woke up top on monday morning. I can go on to say what I think but I'll save it. There's too much going on in my head. I'm pissed off at this weird ass fool but It's all my ''man's'' fault and TRUST me I'm equally just as pissed at him. I feel like I could stomp his face out. He was supposed to call Tuesday but didn't so I was so pissed then...thats okay tho cuz he's just adding more fuel to the fire.
Anyway that was my rant , I had to get it out and I wanted to come on here cuz I know some ladies are unfortunately in the same situation as me and can understand. Not looking for advice or anything, I know what to do and what I should have done but I'm stupid what else can I say. Thanks girls.



WOW! Now that is some crazy shit girl. IDK If I would be Completely believing ex cellie and all but there is something strange going on. I hope you atleast get to the bottom of it as you decide how to handle the situation. You are not stupid, some people just completely lack morals and class. BIG HUGS!
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umm wow... what assholes they are.you are not stupid you just love the guy.i hope things get better. ((((hugs))))
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Yikes I dunno how I would take it.
At first.. I thought it was kinda nice he was letting you know whats up... but then he got a little creepy to the point where I don't know if you should believe him or not.

Something similar happened to me!
I have had THREE of my fiancee's cell mates write me letters or one of them called me when he got out & told me that my man loves me and he talks about me 24/7 & that I have nothing to worry about.
But then as soon as my man got moved to another facility two of them acted like I needed to move on & one even suggested that we go to the strip club & casino & NOT tell HIS girlfriend. I was like wtf?!

One of them went as far as memorizing my hubbys social or whatever they use to call us & my phone number! CREEPY.
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That sounds like a crazy physcho stalker! I would be really nervous! It would freak me out to know he stole my pics AND has my address! You already know nothing good can come out of this and as for your ex or man (?) .....he definitely should have been more careful and protective of his girl (you) because he should know that ANYONE could get your info in there if he is that careless. I had an inmate write me and he got my address from county because he was locked up in the same tier as my man and my man said that guy must have pieced my address together from papers he tore up when he was leaving county to the prison. That guy actually showed up at my house after that wanting to ask about my man and I called the police and he never came back to my house. I got REALLY mad at my man for not protecting my information better.
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There's a common scam that many guys run when either they or the other dude transfers. It goes something like this - he calls or writes you because he's a nice guy. He doesn't have anyone and he saw how wonderful you are. He just couldn't stand watching you love this man that he knew was lying and cheating (then he provides plausible details). He saw your pics, knows details about you, thinks you're an angel. And hey? Maybe you and he can become friends now? He's an interesting, sensitive guy - He loves art and rainbows and puppies! He'll give you a shoulder to cry on. If you dump your BF's sad ass maybe you'll eventually take up his and send all that love, attention, visits, money, money, money, and money his way!
Sound familiar?
Don't take anything he said seriously. Do not communicate with him. He will most certainly try again to contact you. I think you'd be wise to ignore him and everything he said. Give it some thought...
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Aww... That guy sounds really bored/lonely/ a lil crazy. I wouldn't reply to his letter cause he'd probably show it to your ex or just show the envelope and cause more drama.
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Thanks ladies, It helps to have women who understand what we're going thru. Don"t know where I'd turn to if i didn't have this site . No one i know understands.
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There's a common scam that many guys run when either they or the other dude transfers. It goes something like this - he calls or writes you because he's a nice guy. He doesn't have anyone and he saw how wonderful you are. He just couldn't stand watching you love this man that he knew was lying and cheating (then he provides plausible details). He saw your pics, knows details about you, thinks you're an angel. And hey? Maybe you and he can become friends now? He's an interesting, sensitive guy - He loves art and rainbows and puppies! He'll give you a shoulder to cry on. If you dump your BF's sad ass maybe you'll eventually take up his and send all that love, attention, visits, money, money, money, and money his way!
Sound familiar?
Don't take anything he said seriously. Do not communicate with him. He will most certainly try again to contact you. I think you'd be wise to ignore him and everything he said. Give it some thought...
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Rainbows and puppies. Lol. That ish made me crack up just now. Oh and BTW I JUST spoke to my man, he just called.
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and yes I know about how crazy some of those fools can be. People in general but It still made me mad and made me wonder. But you know what I got good things coming to me and I;m gonna work on myself as I should have been doing It'll be alright, just trying to stay positive as for my man....i'm gonna keep it cool cuz I love him, I'll always be there for him as a friend if he needs me but I'm doing my own thing is all I can say from now on.
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OH MY GOD. Im so sorry you are dealing with this crap. Ughh I dont trust that cellie for one minute, sounds like hes tryna cause trouble. This typa thing pisses me the hell off, people need to stay out of other peoples goddam relationships!!
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