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Old 05-06-2012, 07:00 AM
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He broke down while reading me a letter he started writing and I thought wow if the words alone didnt mean anything the fact that this man is literally crying out to me on the phone in prison where showing emotion in front of others is a big no no all at yard time should say something. I do believe he is sincere and I want to run right back so bad because I am completely lost without him, but im scared. I told him I sent all his things back to him friday morning (before any talk between us) and he couldntt believe I did that. He said that hurtts it feels like your giving up and I said thats how I felt. IDK I guess its just gonna take me some time to be comfortable with this again.
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Old 05-06-2012, 07:05 AM
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I understand your caution.
If you do get together again then it sounds like you need some ground rules.
We have an understanding that if either gets too overwhelmed,we can have a "break" but it has to be clearly called and we are still "together" and just taking a breather.
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Old 05-06-2012, 08:07 AM
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wait........he was hurt because you sent him back all his things he sent you after he broke up with you???
What the heck did he expect? A THANK YOU for breaking up with me card?

I hope he does not go back and forth with you over this.
Hopefully he's learned a little from this. Dont say shit you dont mean.
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Old 05-06-2012, 09:34 AM
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Lol idk but I thought that we were done and I didnt want them around anymore because it was just going to be painful reminders. I didnt want to send them back and it hurt me even more on top of the hurt I was already feeling.
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I think you really love him, and he loves you. And part of a prison relationship is the fact that the walls probably will get to them. Its when you both decide to stand up and fight for your relationship that you know the beauty and strength in your love. Its true that only you can ddecide what's best for you. But if you know deep down that he truly loves you, and you truly love him...then why not get together and work things out? No relationship is ever going to b perfect and you can't let the less than perfect moments scare you away. Not when you love each other The way you guys seem to. Just my opinion.
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I read your posts and you went thru some rough times. Your heart was broken as well as your spirit! Now, he is ready to wipe the slate clean and begin again! I can't blame you for being cautious! You don't want to feel that hurt again. Time is on your side. If the two of you decide to re-build, it will take time! If this is what both of you want, keep the lines of communication open. That way, it won't "sneak up on your blind side again"!
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Oh!!! If you love the guy and it hurts to be a part then you gotta run back too him. I understand why you are being cautious though and I see why you are partly feeling scared to take him back but I think eventually you'll lose that fear.

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I cant be without him anymore and I dont want to loose the best thing that has come into my life since having my kids. When he called earlier I told him all this.
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I'm back! I have decided to take this mans hand and try again to make our relationship successful. Thank goodness because I love that man to death and was completely lost without him.
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Congrats hun!!!! Best of luck to you both!!! I know that lost feeling! I was that way when my baby & I broke up this last time! I'm so happy for u!
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Good to read. I think you both made the right choice!
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Aw Congrats girl hope everything works out for you guys
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since allmylove2020 and her love are not *over*
im closing this thread.
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