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Old 07-13-2011, 08:30 PM
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Hello Everyone.. My story is a bit different 2 years ago today my baby girl was born but diagnosed with Trisomy 18. She was only with me for only 24 beautiful days. She passed away August 6th 2009. Today wouldved been her 2nd birthday. My husband got arrested when I was 1 month pregnant and he was in prison when she was born. He didnt get to see or hold her. It breaks my heart just thinking about her. And what gets to me even more is that hes back in prison for a parole violation so once again im going through this difficult time in my life alone. What i feel is unexplainable. Ive ignored every phone call today, I dont want to see or talk to anyone. Its nobodys fault but Id just rather be alone.. I felt a lil better and just wanted to share a lil about what was going through my mind right now.. Thanx for giving me the opportunity to open up a lil
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I'm so sorry for what you've been through and for what you're experiencing now. I would like to give your baby girl birthday wishes.....2 years ago today she experienced life. My wish is that she could here for her second year. My deepest heartfelt condolences.
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I'm sooo sorry you're going through this alone. I wish I could just give you a big hug. You are so blessed to have had those 24 days with your precious little angel. I pray that God gives you strength to get through this. The pain will be easier to manage, in time. Stay strong.
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I am so sorry to hear of your pain. I wish you peace. Hang in there, time will heal you, but you'll never forget your precious baby. Thanks for sharing.
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Old 07-13-2011, 10:55 PM
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I am so sorry to hear that this has happened to you.. Stay strong and you will make it to another day. If you don't mind I would like to wish your baby girl birthday wishes and to you the strength to get through this pain.. Just remember the 24 days you had with her and hold on to those days forever in your heart... Hugs to you and your family
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I am sorry for your loss. There is a group, which is nationwide, called The Compassionate Friends. They that hold monthly support meetings for those who have lost a child. My 19 y.o. son was murdered last year on Mother's Day. I have been going to the group and it is helpful. We have a common bond and support one another in a way that others can't.
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That just broke my heard into a million pieces negroswife! I am so so so so sorry about your lost. I can't imagine the heartache that you endured during that time and I will keep you in your prayers even though its been nearly two years ago. There is no limitations to prayer and you are definitely in mine! God bless you for being as strong as you are!
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I am so sorry for all that you've been through. It's a terrible thing for someone to lose a child and be dealing with the stress of their loved one being incarcerated, I cannot even imagine the hurt you feel. I will more than deffinately keep you in my prayers tonight. I wish you peace and love and that your husband come home soon. Keep your head up.
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I am very sorry for your loss. I don't have any words of wisdom other than to keep yourself busy. Hang in there.
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I was just reading your post...... I don't know you and will probably will never meet you. You hold in there. I want to give you a hug. I hug all of my friends and even ones I just met who need one. i love you...whoever u are!
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Hello Everyone.. My story is a bit different 2 years ago today my baby girl was born but diagnosed with Trisomy 18. She was only with me for only 24 beautiful days. She passed away August 6th 2009. Today wouldved been her 2nd birthday. My husband got arrested when I was 1 month pregnant and he was in prison when she was born. He didnt get to see or hold her. It breaks my heart just thinking about her. And what gets to me even more is that hes back in prison for a parole violation so once again im going through this difficult time in my life alone. What i feel is unexplainable. Ive ignored every phone call today, I dont want to see or talk to anyone. Its nobodys fault but Id just rather be alone.. I felt a lil better and just wanted to share a lil about what was going through my mind right now.. Thanx for giving me the opportunity to open up a lil
I am so sorry for your loss hun, baby girl and husband. Try to remember she is in a better place....I know that is probably not what you wanted to hear.

May you find peace, love and healing through all of this. Do something nice for yourself...take a nice hot bath, with some peaceful music.

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That is so heartbreaking I am so very sorry for your loss *huge hugs*
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Hello Everyone.. My story is a bit different 2 years ago today my baby girl was born but diagnosed with Trisomy 18. She was only with me for only 24 beautiful days. She passed away August 6th 2009. Today wouldved been her 2nd birthday. My husband got arrested when I was 1 month pregnant and he was in prison when she was born. He didnt get to see or hold her. It breaks my heart just thinking about her. And what gets to me even more is that hes back in prison for a parole violation so once again im going through this difficult time in my life alone. What i feel is unexplainable. Ive ignored every phone call today, I dont want to see or talk to anyone. Its nobodys fault but Id just rather be alone.. I felt a lil better and just wanted to share a lil about what was going through my mind right now.. Thanx for giving me the opportunity to open up a lil
I have felt your pain i still feel your pain I to lost a child of course its been 9 yrs since I lost my precious daughter ARYANA and it never gets easier..unless someone has lost a child they dont understand..my heart is with you in your trying times of love for your daughter..there is one quote that I find somewhat helps others relate to a parent who has lost a child I hope it brings you some kind of peace:

I thought of you and closed my eyes,
And prayed to God today.
I asked what makes a Mother,
And I know I heard him say:
A mother has a baby,
This we know is true.
But, God, can you be a mother,
When your baby's not with you?
Yes, you can he replied,
With confidence in his voice.
I give many women babies,
When they leave is not thier choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for a day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But theres no need to stay.
I just don't understand this God,
I want my baby here.
He took a breath and cleared his throat,
And then I saw a tear.
I wish that I could show you,
What your child is doing today,
If you could see your child smile,
With other children who say:
We go to earth and learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.
I feel so lucky to have a mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My mommy set me free.
I miss my mommy oh so much,
But I visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay.
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
"Mommy don't be sad today, I'm your baby and I'm here."
So you see my dear sweet one,
Your children are Ok.
Your babies are here in My home,
They'll be at heavens gate for you.
So now you see what makes a mother.
It's the feeling in your heart.
It's the love you had so much of,
Right from the very start.
Though some on earth may not realize you are a mother,
until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day,
And you'll know that you're the best one!
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Sweetie, I am so sorry for your loss. I too have lost three children in infancy. I will not tell you that she is in God's hands...not when she should be in yours. I cannot tell you that your life will go on..not when your world is spinning out of control. I WILL tell you that the bone crushing pain in your chest and stomach will lessen over time. Will time heal your wound..no..not really..but it puts a scab over it to allow you to continue on. You will have to make time for yourself. Be good to yourself. And when you want to scream at the top of your lungs..DO IT...and when you want to hide away from the world..do it. There is never going to be one right way to grieve, nor will it be the same for you day to day. Take each day as it comes. Do not let anyone belittle your emotions over the loss of one so young. She was under your heart for 40 weeks...she will now live IN your heart for the rest of your life.

PM me if you want to talk. I'm here and I have walked the path you are now on...I'll walk along beside you and hold you up if you need me.

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I am so sorry for your loss. A parent isn't suppost to outlive their child. That's not the way it's suppost to be. May your sweet little angel rest in peace.
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Sorry for your loss I know it must be a daily struggle bt I don't know if you realize it or not but you are strong because if I was in your shoes I don't know how I would handle that type of pain!! Bt just know from now on you have an angel that watches over you daily...so although you weren't with her long physically she will always be with you spiritually!!! So just pray and smile and thank Him for your personal angel!!
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