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Old 04-15-2012, 01:56 PM
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After my ex had finished dissing me and dumping me for another woman, his last words were, "I'll always be here if you need me, I'm not going anywhere anytime soon" Now I would like to say, "I won't be needing you anytime soon and you can go wherever you like!" Why oh why didn't I think of that then?
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Old 04-15-2012, 02:25 PM
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oh wow... sorry you went thru that. you were with him since 2003? btw i know what you mean about the brilliant comebacks... i always think of them wayyyy to late to. oh i had one guy tell me i'd end up needing him.lol...yeah guess who ended up needing who and who got kicked to the curb AGAIN??
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oh wow... sorry you went thru that. you were with him since 2003? btw i know what you mean about the brilliant comebacks... i always think of them wayyyy to late to. oh i had one guy tell me i'd end up needing him.lol...yeah guess who ended up needing who and who got kicked to the curb AGAIN??
I was with him since 1994. It was all good to begin with but the light went on by the time I reached 50!
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Mines told me no one else would want me because I had 5 kids, I would like to tell him today. No little boy will want and for that I should be happy. A real man however will want me and be impress by the way I have handled having 5 kids. You just get fixed so you don't have anymore that you will only be a deadbeat to.
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Well when he brought her to my house to drop off my cell phone, he asked me not to go out there and start a fight with her...I laughed and told him he must have me messed up for that tramp..and that one thing I learned in the almost three years we were together was that I was a queen and he was a coward and a queen would never disrespect herself by getting ghetto over his dumb ass...he dropped his head and left...needless to say they aren't even together and he still regrets that decision...
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I had mine tell me he hopes I'd die after I found out I had cervical cancer it hurt me so bad but those words were what helped me fight through the cancer and beat it!!
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mines told me no one else would want me because i had 5 kids, i would like to tell him today. No little boy will want and for that i should be happy. A real man however will want me and be impress by the way i have handled having 5 kids. You just get fixed so you don't have anymore that you will only be a deadbeat to.
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I had mine tell me he hopes I'd die after I found out I had cervical cancer it hurt me so bad but those words were what helped me fight through the cancer and beat it!!
WHAT A LOSER!

GLAD YOU BEAT IT! Id like to beat his ass with a.....woo saw....glad you beat it girl!!
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i was'nt his type and no matter how long he was in prison he rather spend his life in prison then be with me and that's exactly rite my buddy cause you been there for ova 10yrs and have how many more too go .i wish you luck cause your going to be so ole whe you hit these street,hell i might be long gone
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When he was trying to talk me into buying him a cell phone, (things were and are tight $ wise) back in February he said I was "made of money". It was like a knife hearing him think like that about me. Just one more thing that made it easy to not answer the phone when he called after that
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When mine decided to end it he left the house after a blow up with his "aunt"; after about 20 minutes I went to find him... he got into the car and said "I'm ridding my life of it's aggravation, we are finished". After 10 years.. I was reduced to aggravation Those words still hurt be almost a year later and the look that was on his face at the time will forever haunt me but you know what.. it will be those words that will keep my heart from allowing him to EVER slither back in when he hits rock bottom again.

I wish I had been strong enough at that moment to tell him to get the He!! out of the car, out of my life and walk home (or make arrangements for his skank to pick him up) but I didn't.. I begged and pleaded for him to make this work. A couple weeks later (after I returned home to PA.. we were doing the long distance thing) he called and acted like nothing was wrong.. then after an hour asked for $100 because he was in a bad spot... HELL NO!!!

Another month passed and I heard nothing from him so I reported his phone (that was still on my account) lost and shut him down. He called within ten minutes to tell me how wrong I was for shutting the phone down... I bet that was a call he wished he would have never made because that was the point I told him everything I should have told him the night he ridded his life... I ended with I never want to see or hear from you again... No, I don't want to be your friend... F!!! off and hung up... Haven't heard from him since, however, I have heard from his family and friends trying to gather information and let's say that have gotten a lot of information... not necessarily the truth but I learned to play the game from the best!!
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This is an awesome thread idea !

I have to think on it but look forward to seeing more replies
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He said I was "weak" because I couldn't put up with his behavior..... this coming from someone who can't stop himself from anything that tempted him. He equates being macho and getting buffed up in the yard to being a good, strong man. I made up my mind, no matter if I knew it would hurt, to end it right there, because I think more of myself than to get disrespected by someone I was good to . So, at this point I'd say: "Honey, you'd have to have ba!!s as big as church bells to be as strong as I am......and you don't!"

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My boyfriend has a fast temper. He can curse me so bad hop in car leave stay gone all hours of night. Jan 3 told him had all I can take packed his things left at door. He called me everything but a child of God! He was arrested Jan 4th and I was the only one to answer of course he was sorry. He signed over all 4 of his cars sent me his bank card and told me to take care of his son. I have been there 100% for him canteen phone calls and we are growing again as friends. I have learned some men can't handle strong woman they try to verbally break us down on that note when it happens it is because there unhappy with there self and if we fight I simply smile and move on past it. End of sentence he will feel like a a@@ cause I was there and held it down
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It wasn't anything he necessarily said. He gave me a lot of jail talk. I think because he wanted me to send him money all the time. I didn't have any to send and when he got out he was pissed that I didn't take care of him that way. He also told me when he was in that we would get married, that he couldn't wait to cuddle with me, kiss me, make love to me well come to find out he was not the affectionate type. Got his jollies twice (I got nothing) then stopped talking to me.
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It's not that he said anything because he didn't and that is what kills me is the silence no letters no phone calls nothing just silence. Though I did get an envelope today with all the pics I sent him of the kids and I. There still wasn't a letter or anything in it either, just pictures.
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My ex abusive ex once told me. "you deserved to be the way I treat you." I just cried and went home. Today I would say, "I like all people only deserve the best. Good luck on finding another jewel like me with that attitude."
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I learned alot from reading this thread! It proves once again, how strong all of you are! You say it like it is! No "sugar- coating" going on around here! I think it's great the way that you stand up and speak your mind! I am proud to call y'all my friends!
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My ex abusive ex once told me. "you deserved to be the way I treat you." I just cried and went home. Today I would say, "I like all people only deserve the best. Good luck on finding another jewel like me with that attitude."
I like the way you put that.
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I received a letter from him at the end of Feb. He wrote that he had been manipulating and using me for the last 2 1/2 years of our relationship, among some other things. And, at times, he actually enjoyed doing it.

Whether he really meant it or not, I do not know. He wrote that letter simply to hurt me further. That was his main goal. I was hurt, sort of. But....I shook that ish off and kept it movin'. I contacted his facility, talked to IA and let them know who I was, and told them about the letter. I then mailed to the facility a copy of the letter along with a letter addressed to IA stating that I wan't ZERO contact from him.

I'm so thankful that he's permanently gone from my life.
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I wound up sending all the letters that he sent me back to him with a note from me saying since I received my photos back I figured it was only fair that I send his letters back to him. I also informed him that it was going to be the last letter that he was going to receive from me.
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