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Old 04-13-2010, 08:23 PM
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Ladies, do u ever think about how old you will be when he gets out? Do u think about aging, and how your body will be different? Having grey hairs where they didnt used to be? (ha-ha). New wrinkles and laugh lines? Are u working out and taking care of yourselves, or are u just surviving letting life wear u down? Do u ever wonder if he will want something younger when he gets out??
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Old 04-13-2010, 09:57 PM
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I used to wonder about the age thing we're both in our early thirties, 30me 32him and he has a 12yr bid, so i definitly think about how i would look and him aswell. Not so much of the other things that you mention, he loves me unconditionally because I love him in his condition you feel me. But Im trying to keep myself in shape for myself, I dont want my age to dictate my health and wellbeing.
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I think about how Ill be 47 when he gets out and he'll be only 44. I look younger than him anyway but I am concerned that I won't be able to have children and he will still have that option with a younger woman. I talked to him about this until it drove him nuts as he insists he just wants me whatever happens. He went in 2 years ago and I have been so paranoid about growing old that i actually am healthier, slimmer, dont drink, dont smoke and this has had a positive influence on my appearance. Ive probably not looked better in my life. I just wish I had Demi Moores money!. I have also been having botox and macrodermabrasion to stop aging and it has literally stunted my age. I sound like a lunatic but I just want to try and retain some of the youth we had before he went in. Plus I have to keep fit to handle the house and all the pressures of having to survive on your own. I have never been so vain in my life! He has lost almost 20kgs since going inside. amazing what a difference no jack Daniels and coke makes! I have this 12 month plan in the year of his release to become a lean mean sex machine. sure as hell want to be able to make the most of it.
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Old 04-14-2010, 05:16 PM
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we will be in our mid 50's if he dosen't make parole.

i try not to think of it.
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Old 04-14-2010, 05:33 PM
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Shoot, I'll just calculate our ages according to the release date on the website because he keeps messing' up. I'll be 43 and he'll be 41 and I'm not even 35 yet

Yes, I look in the mirror and see more wrinkles around my eyes, the Ta-Ta's are sagging more and my hair is thinning out BUT, my inspiration are the numerous women who look their best in their 40's. You know, 40's are the new 30's
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We will both be 48...we are not yet 30. So we have awhile...
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Ill be 43 and hell be 41 if he gets the max. Were not 30 yet but im starting to take way better care of my skin and my health. Yea i worried about it at first about him getting out and he might not want me anymore since ill look different and not so young. But its like he tells me as long as im down he will love me no matter what i look like. But thats still not a free pass to let myself go so im hitting the gym. I got a whole lotta years to get my fine on for my daddy.
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I will be 30 and he will be 31

so we will still be rather young!!

but it will be weird to have him out here after soo long last time we were together on the outs i was only 17 so i will def. loook older ugh!!lol!!but thats ok i just gotta exersise and eat right and ill be cool!
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Oh, yeah, I think about it all the time.

I will be 48 and he will be 43 if he makes parole on his first time up. What I'd give for 30, 35, even 40...But I'm gonna be just so damned grateful to be any age and have him home in my arms.

And I'm already on the exercise, health-kick, botox plan...
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Well we have about 4yrs and 11months to go.. and i will be 45 and he will be 42.. lol we've already done the long haul part.....12yrs already gone... time is not moving fast enough for me though.
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Great thread! I will be 40 when he is eligible for early release and he will be 41. I used to think about it before when we were in our 20's but as time passed I began to think if he doesn't love me who I am then that's his loss. But, I look at it this way...I just had a benign tumor removed from my neck and it kinda woke me up that I want to be around for my children so I have started eating healthier and taking care of myself, not for him but for me and my kids. And I have been sending him pictures over the years and visited so he has had to see the changes in my face and my body and he still tellsme how sexy I am (WITHOUT ANY PRODDING FOR ME lol). After being together so long and building that bond, I think the physical becomes secondary. He loves me for me and who I am so... I guess time will tell! Ladies, don't worry about that too much though....if youhave stuck through him and then he bounces the first chance he gets, he isn't worth it and you deserve so much better!!!
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Old 04-16-2010, 01:41 PM
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He was 26 when he went in, and 41 when he came home (he came home almost 2 months ago, and is now 42). I met him when I was 23, and am now 34. Thankfully, it wasnt as long a sentence as some long timers do, and we are still young enough to do all the things that we may want to do. Im so grateful for that.

Ive certainly got the grey hairs now, and so has he (although he has been dying them over the past couple of weeks ). Because Im younger than him as it is, I really didnt worry bout whether or not he would want to trade me in for a newer, younger model.
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I had not really thought about that till now we are both twenty four and we comes home we will be anywhere from thirty four to fourty depending on how his parole hearings go i know they usually get denied the first time but hey i love him for him and not for what he looks like so i think we will be okay
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My baby comes home in 4 months. He'll be 20 and I'll still be 21. I know we are a young couple but I have let life bring me down trying to deal with my son (he's not the daddy), trying to find a job, start school etc. I have self-esteem issues so that doesnt really help I am trying to lose some weight before he comes home but so far nothings working. I currently weigh 180 and I am 5 ft 2. I am trying to get to at least 160 before he comes home
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If he gets to come home in 8yrs 2months he will be 35 going on 36 and i just would be 30 just at the right age in my life when i want to be settled. But if we got to go to Max. DATE (which i hope and pray not)2021 he will just turned 39 and i will be 33 going on 34.
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Great thread! I will be 40 when he is eligible for early release and he will be 41. I used to think about it before when we were in our 20's but as time passed I began to think if he doesn't love me who I am then that's his loss. But, I look at it this way...I just had a benign tumor removed from my neck and it kinda woke me up that I want to be around for my children so I have started eating healthier and taking care of myself, not for him but for me and my kids. And I have been sending him pictures over the years and visited so he has had to see the changes in my face and my body and he still tellsme how sexy I am (WITHOUT ANY PRODDING FOR ME lol). After being together so long and building that bond, I think the physical becomes secondary. He loves me for me and who I am so... I guess time will tell! Ladies, don't worry about that too much though....if youhave stuck through him and then he bounces the first chance he gets, he isn't worth it and you deserve so much better!!!
Now that is a reality check. Thank God the tumor was benign. Although I do agree that at a certain point in a relationship, looks can become secondary. In no way am I implying that its all about looks. But there is still a side of me that wants to knock his socks off when he comes home. So im on board with the exercise, diet, skincare. Im a lil afraid of the botox. Ive seen some bad results here in Cali. . My man works out and is very health conscious. He is no slouch !! Hell, my man looks good, and I want to look good with (or without) him!!
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Shoot, I'll just calculate our ages according to the release date on the website because he keeps messing' up. I'll be 43 and he'll be 41 and I'm not even 35 yet

Yes, I look in the mirror and see more wrinkles around my eyes, the Ta-Ta's are sagging more and my hair is thinning out BUT, my inspiration are the numerous women who look their best in their 40's. You know, 40's are the new 30's
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WOW Well lol if he stays there the whole time I will be 64 and he will be 57 when he gets out I'm 36 now, but he's working on his second appeal. We are crossing our fingers that he will be home sooner than his release date
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WOW Well lol if he stays there the whole time I will be 64 and he will be 57 when he gets out I'm 36 now, but he's working on his second appeal. We are crossing our fingers that he will be home sooner than his release date
But either way, you guys can still have another 20yrs together when he gets out. Thats why its so important to take are of yourself now, to (hopefully) have good health later on. Another plus u have is the maturity level. He will be ready to chill and enjoy life.
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WOW Well lol if he stays there the whole time I will be 64 and he will be 57 when he gets out I'm 36 now, but he's working on his second appeal. We are crossing our fingers that he will be home sooner than his release date
Mine's almost the other way around, I'll be 53 and he'll be 65.
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We will both be 39, and heck I worry now that I look like crap but he says I am the most beautiful woman he has ever met.
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When he went in i was 18 and he was 19 when he gets out he'll be 29 and i'll be 28 i'm actually grateful that if he was going to mess up he messed up early so when he gets home we'll still be pretty young. As far as how we look he still looks the same as when I first met him at 16. I look old now so I just started excercising and eating right I'm chubby and he wants nine kids so I'm trying to get baby ready. LOL BTW I'm not really having 9 maybe 5 yeah 5
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I will be 55 and my husband will be 42.......I can't wait!
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I will be 35 When he gets out and he will be 39. I don't think that is that old.
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Me n the hubby will both be about 39 we're both 29 now. Maybe I'll be 38 depending on the month of release 8 yrs down 10 more baby I love him and I'm thankful we'll still be able to build onto our family (God willing)
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