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XOXO120410XOXO · #**2251** 01-21-2010, 02:39 PM

Do we ever feel silly for writing so much?? I send about ten letters a week and get about five, but he also sends my daughters cards and stuff and he barely knows them. We have been writing for almost a year and finally I gave my heart to him in October but just yesterday a baby's mama messaged me that he asked her to go see him. This is crazy to me because I am so down for him, way finer than her, and I am supportive of him to the fullest. She only went to see him once and that was a year ago to tell him she was having someone else's baby. That was the last time he saw his own kids. I have visted him four times in the past five months. I thought he was my best friend. He wants to get married and now this. I don't know if it is true but still I sent him three letters today. One was a "Do not open unless you don't hear from me for two weeks" letter and that was in case his ex shows me proof. It's full of my initial reaction. Full of anger and sadness. I wrote him one that was less emotional but still almost accused him and then another feeling guilty that I doubted him. It takes my mail 10 days to reach him and two days for his to get to me and we don't talk on the phone so I don't know what to write or what to expect within the next two weeks or so. Do I write? Do I continue to open his mail in case it's filled with lies.

Just confused.

secondtimer · #**2252** 01-21-2010, 04:53 PM

hello everyone,
i am sending prays and mail dances to u all. the prison mail system does put a damper on things. Especially around holiday times. Sometimes our men need gentle reminding that as long as they are locked up so are we metaphorically speaking, they are not home where we can yell upstairs to them nor roll over and tell them how we are feeling. So they need to respond to us if they can sometimes they can be in lock up, i know when i don't get anything from my other half when i usually should i can guarantee he is in lock down. So be good and take care of ourselves, the waiting game is hard enough so i have decided to do it with a smile on my face. best wishes to you all

urXXBabyXXGirl · #**2253** 01-21-2010, 06:06 PM

Firstly thank God iv somewhere to vent.

I havent heard for j in nearly two weeks

, tomorrow is the last day for post before the long and boring post free weekend

. can I get a bum shaken extra rocking mail dance please??

xxx

urXXBabyXXGirl · #**2254** 01-21-2010, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by XOXO120410XOXO

Do we ever feel silly for writing so much?? I send about ten letters a week and get about five, but he also sends my daughters cards and stuff and he barely knows them. We have been writing for almost a year and finally I gave my heart to him in October but just yesterday a baby's mama messaged me that he asked her to go see him. This is crazy to me because I am so down for him, way finer than her, and I am supportive of him to the fullest. She only went to see him once and that was a year ago to tell him she was having someone else's baby. That was the last time he saw his own kids. I have visted him four times in the past five months. I thought he was my best friend. He wants to get married and now this. I don't know if it is true but still I sent him three letters today. One was a "Do not open unless you don't hear from me for two weeks" letter and that was in case his ex shows me proof. It's full of my initial reaction. Full of anger and sadness. I wrote him one that was less emotional but still almost accused him and then another feeling guilty that I doubted him. It takes my mail 10 days to reach him and two days for his to get to me and we don't talk on the phone so I don't know what to write or what to expect within the next two weeks or so. Do I write? Do I continue to open his mail in case it's filled with lies.

Just confused.

Could he be asking her to visit so he can talk about getting to see his Children more??

urXXBabyXXGirl · #**2255** 01-21-2010, 06:13 PM

woo hoo :-) x

XOXO120410XOXO · #**2256** 01-21-2010, 06:15 PM

She said he has always done for her before the children and that he seems way more concerned with her and not at all about the kids still. She said he doesn't write the kids. His son had a birthday recently and he didn't send him anything supposedly but my girls and I have gotten pictures he draws. Many. Kinda makes me feel like he is doing more for us than his own kids just like she said. What kind of man is that? I don't get it. I hate this feeling cuz all my friends tell me I am crazy to be with him. But they don't know how much heart ache I have seen as did he and how we seem so perfect together. I worry about the "jailhouse Jesus" he found and that maybe it's all an act. Nobody gets it. Thank God for this.

READY4DADDY · #**2257** 01-21-2010, 06:40 PM

Hi Family!!!
I need a biggo mail dance! I was able to finally speak with my honey and he said he had sent a letter, everyone else (uncle & sis) got letters today, but when I get to the mail box.....disappointment! HELP ME!!!
Thanks all,
And I'm doing my own mail dance for all of you!!!!

yourgrlnow · #**2258** 01-21-2010, 09:42 PM

i need a big email dance, because the lockdown was lifted and they can email again. awaiting a letter he posted that crossed mine in the mail. will get it tomorow. start dancing! (please.)

forAllan · #**2259** 01-22-2010, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by yourgrlnow

i need a big email dance, because the lockdown was lifted and they can email again. awaiting a letter he posted that crossed mine in the mail. will get it tomorow. start dancing! (please.)

I'm dancing please dance the "any word of any kind dance" He's in-transit which means lost to me. I have a stomache ache

justinaleighb · #**2260** 01-22-2010, 06:05 PM

my boyfriend has been gone for a month, and i have yet to get ANY mail from him, and i havent been able to talk to him yet either because i cant afford it. i write him letters and send them out everyday, and everyday i have no letters from him

. i have no idea what is going on or why i cant talk to him and i am going freakin CRAZY! i just want to talk to him so bad...and i cant visit him b/c my visitation form was "incomplete"...UGH

Isabellarose · #**2261** 01-22-2010, 10:48 PM

A few years ago when my brother was at Camp Hill I sent him a letter every week. Usually he would reply to every letter but for some reason that month he wasn't, finally about a month later, I get all 5 letters back stamped by the prison 'DECEASED' return to sender!! Okay..my brother is still alive, now at SCI Greene..but can u imagine?? Deceased, courteousy of the prison mail room. I was hysterical, sobbing so hard I could hardly speak to his counselor over the phone..That just made me appreciate his letters even more

BetteBette · #**2262** 01-23-2010, 10:54 AM

Ughhh, mail from Texas to Europe takes foreverrrr!!! About 2 weeks there, 2 weeks back. Ughhh

mcara · #**2263** 01-26-2010, 03:03 AM

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Originally Posted by BetteBette

Ughhh, mail from Texas to Europe takes foreverrrr!!! About 2 weeks there, 2 weeks back. Ughhh

Yeah I know how you feel I've been waiting 5 weeks with nothing

At home sick with the flu

and feeling sorry for myself so would really love a letter.

minimaugirl · #**2264** 01-26-2010, 08:18 AM

I so want a letter right now , I need a mail dance asap!!!!

kiddan morniye · #**2265** 01-27-2010, 05:05 PM

Mail from NY TO NJ & vice versa shouldn't take so freakin' long :'(

& what sucks is I went to go give him a surprise visit at Bergen County on Friday night, and they said I wasn't on the list!

Bummmmmmer "/