What if he was writing/calling other women, what would you do?

[JohnsGirl*381*]

This actually happen to me and i got the dirt on all the info and then when he called me i three wayed the girl he was talking to and had him explain to me and her what the fuck was up and basically he told her to fuck off and only talked to her because he thought she was pg with his kid (he got with this girl when me and him split for 2 months) but then when she wasnt he stopped talking to her. Our relationship is good now and we've moved passed it. Im glad he told the girl to fuck off and i actually some times talk to the girl not often. But with shit like this you just gotta be strong and get through it...
i love him ALWAYS & FOREVER ride or die 381

[tinkherbelly]

Hi ladies, well i'm going through this right now. well the last month or so. My man is 12 hours drive away and i hadn't seen him in a year and a half. We've always had a magical relationship, in person, mail, phone, you name it. I'm 100% loyal and FAITHFUL to him. he's been down 8 1/2 years, and is a LWP. Anyway, he came to local court on someone else's case and surprised me and we got to visit and talk on the phone everyday like old times. it was incredible. but then i got that feeling. you ladies know the one! well, he called from dayroom and i was downstairs in the parking lot of the jail. he asked why i wasn't up seeing him and i told him he had until i got up there and the visit was over to come clean and hung up. i had NOTHING. talk about chancing it. Well, he spilled it all right> Sheesh, at one point i was thinking to myself "damn how much more is there?" i spoke to soon. he even had one he had written to in England. he said it was a couple years ago, but admitted he even told one that he loved her. i was devastated. yelled at him so bad and called him every name in the book. the CO even gave him more time with me. i apologized later for the disrespectful way i spoke to him. anger is no excuse for acting the way i did. He did take it like a champ though. well, i went through hell for a few days and he called nonstop. the more i heard him begging me for another chance, the more i hated him. but that's only because i truly love him. and i made a decision that i don't know if i'll regret one day. I told him to stop begging because the reality is that i'll be with him forever, that i love him unconditionally and when the rest would all be gone, i'll be the one still there by his side. he said he will forever more prove to me every day how much he loves and appreciates me because after always being found GUILTY, i actually forgave him and he wasn't PUNISHED once again for fucking up. Well, sounds nice, but in the back of my mind, it's different. i don't have that 100% peace of mind anymore. now i wonder all of the time if he's still lying. after all, he looked me right in the eye before and lied. it sucks!

[harlemtova]

Originally Posted by RedzReyna

As most of the ladies have already said if it'z females that he grew up with and were friendz with before I came into his life it wouldn't bother me as long as he makes it known that he is with me and is truly happy if I'm not mentioned to them and they don't know that he has someone in his life then yeh I would ask questions as to why and tell him off. I'm ok with that because I have male friends that were there before he came into my life and I will NOT give my friends up - he'll just have to learn to accept it. I'm not on no "I'm Single" type ish every friend I talk to knows I'm with my Prince Charming - think I'm crazing for being with someone that i MWI but Oh well it's my life not theirs. As far as new friendz oh nO - that wOn't fly.

So in the end I put I'm secure with minez nd it dOnt bother me because I know my baby wouldn't do anything like that or at least he bettha nOt even dare think about it..haha!!

i think that about sums it up...i can't be mad if they were friends before...and believe me...i know all of his friends...so if some new ones pop up its going down! lol...but for real...trust is as trust does...and i trust him...i'm not the only female in his life that cares about him but i'm the only one that shares that special bond...so it is what it is...let a chick act up and i WILL act as crazy as he knows i am!

[discoball]

Originally Posted by Berto'sChula

Hey guys I hope you're having a great week...

I have a hypothetical question. If you found out that your husband/boyfriend who you've been with for a long time was writing or calling other females on some friendship s*** what would you do?

I would ask questions then tell his ass off. I'm secure with mines but the only person he needs to call or write is me and if he can't deal with that then it's over.

I agree. Someone from his past was writing him at first. Trying to get her and her family to be able to visit. Calling his parents. I think she even emailed me to ask me something at one point. I was pretty upset, like what is going on with this. This married lady is trying to go see my husband and I couldnt get down there at first?
He did not put her on his visiting list. He wrote and told her something that put an end to it, i cant remember what exactly.

[AmandaMaria]

I actually had to deal with this yesterday! What happened was someone called his mom talking all this smack about this girl "H" that is basically the reason he is in there (When I moved away, he moved in with her and she set him up to go back to prison). So this person told his mom that Ryan had tried contacting her the last few days, and I flipped my shit. So when he called me he was able to tell that I was upset with the way I answered the phone when the call connected, I blunty said "Have you been trying to contact her" he flipped out and told me no, he understands why I would be mad, but he hasnt called her and that he has her acct info if I wanted to look that up. I believed him at that point. Then one of his cellies asked him to have me call someone and Ryan just yelled back" DUDE SHE AINT CALLIN ANYONE SHES ALREADY PISSED AT ME" it was funny