What if he was writing/calling other women, what would you do? - Page 2

RedzReyna · #16 11-03-2009, 04:16 PM

As most of the ladies have already said if it'z females that he grew up with and were friendz with before I came into his life it wouldn't bother me as long as he makes it known that he is with me and is truly happy

if I'm not mentioned to them and they don't know that he has someone in his life then yeh I would ask questions as to why and tell him off. I'm ok with that because I have male friends that were there before he came into my life and I will NOT give my friends up - he'll just have to learn to accept it. I'm not on no "I'm Single" type ish every friend I talk to knows I'm with my Prince Charming - think I'm crazing for being with someone that i MWI but Oh well it's my life not theirs. As far as new friendz oh nO - that wOn't fly.

So in the end I put I'm secure with minez nd it dOnt bother me because I know my baby wouldn't do anything like that

or at least he bettha nOt even dare think about it..haha!!

PatsFutureWife · #17 11-03-2009, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by chelseagreg1427

it all depends of course, but in reality no i dont want him writing any other females(besides family). but the only other females in his life are his mom and sister and they dont write anyways!

can't word it any better

JamieShay · #18 11-03-2009, 04:38 PM

my jamie isnt stupid he knows what he risks if he screws me over.

roscoe'swife · #19 11-03-2009, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by ladymurda

i dont have 2 worry about my man writing no other females he aint that stupid lol he cut that off a long time ago besides he should'nt be writing 2 no otha female but me his moms sister grandmother and aunt...thats it im secure with my man and i know hes not goin 2 go behind my back and do know fail ish like that..but if he did his a**will be out tha door cause im tha only one he needs

girl i feel you on that because i trust my man as well and his a** bet not be talking to no other females because if he was and i found out it would be over simply because i don't have time to be playing games with him and no one else.I just be glad when he come home so we can have fun together.

breeezy · #20 11-03-2009, 05:04 PM

If I found out he was writing to some new girl or an ex g/f i'd tell him flat out i'm not comfortable with that. I trust that he'd be honest with me about stuff like that. But if I find out he continues to write these people, i'm out. I don't need that type of betrayal in my life. I'd probably even be uncomfortable with him writing a long time female friend cause that stuff tends to turn into something else. I'm honest with him about every man in my life, so I have faith in him that he'd show me the same type of respect.

XBOXPROGURL · #21 11-03-2009, 05:14 PM

Ha all, its me...well u all know my story I need not say anything...becuz I'm still piss at mine...even though I have no proof that he was writing to his ex...he says he wasnt so I'm not sure...but I know he has female friends that he knew before me and I also know that he may be keeping in contact wit his baby mama...which doesn't bother me....the only one that bother's me is his EX of 3 years that is still causing trouble....also I can't be mad at him (for writing he's freinds, long as it's on a friendly level), I'm still in contact with my ex( we have 2 kids) and all I have is male friends....so I'm not trippin...lets say any more....lol! So he knows how I feel about him writing other females.....

Brittany Lee · #22 11-03-2009, 06:20 PM

My man tells me who hes called and or wrote and usually he only calls him mom and grandma so it doesnt really bother me. But about 2 weeks ago he called this girl maddy who i know and shes like in love with him but he said they only talked for about 5 mins and it was on a friend level. It kinda pissed me off but im pretty sure the only reason why he did that was to make me mad because his buddy in there calls me alllllllllllllllll the time. But he doesnt understand its not like that between us, he is my connection to harlin when i cant talk to him because we are out of mins or hes in the hole everything i do revolves around him and ive been trying to explain that to him but anyways i know my baby loves me and i know i love him! =]]

loveispatient13 · #23 11-03-2009, 06:23 PM

First it depends who it is?

if he knew her before or not if she was a friend or what not...but if its was a "penpal" then id be furious and he wouldnt hear from me for a while if he wants to be getting to know other women he can but count me out im not out here getting to know any guys so he should respect that.

I trust my man, but if he was writting someone else id be a bit concerned because hes always saying how nothing really goes on there so theres not much to write about i would be wondering why he can find time and things to say to someone else!!

Calls???

Oh hell no no calls damit only one he should be calling is me or his family!!!!

mrs.bug · #24 11-03-2009, 07:40 PM

I'd be waiting for him at the gate with a variety of sharp tools.

cloverslady · #25 11-03-2009, 08:19 PM

If he was writing/calling to homegirls WE both know then im coo wit it. but if its some girl ive NEVER heard off then id call it off completely unless he can prove it to me somehow that there really was nothing going on. but i trust my man. he knows better to behave himself cause he knows what he's gonna miss out on

Temeron0926 · #26 11-03-2009, 08:28 PM

I have a hell of a lot more things to worry about then who he is writing to or calling. For one I KNOW I am the only one besides his parents and his children that he writes to or calls. For two.........I trust him, no two ways about it!

I don't have the RIGHT to tell him who he can write to or who he can call, I don't own him. I would think if the one you love is in prison you have a lot more things to deal with than who he writes and calls. Either you trust him or you don't that is all there is to it.

I have to wonder what kind of people try to control what the person they love does and says. I am huge on SELF control, but the REALITY is, I can only control ME, I don't get to control him.

As for him not needing anyone else to write to him, he needs ALL the support he can get, think about that.

determined823 · #27 11-03-2009, 09:07 PM

If it was someone that he was friends with, I wouldn't mind. But I really don't see a reason that he needs to write and talk to other females. We have a very strong commitment to each other. That is sacred to me. If he broke that commitment, it would be betrayel and the bond we have would be broken. Anyway, he's in prison so I don't really see a logical reason for him to write another female. He is busy enough writing me, and before he lost visits, visiting me and talking to me on the phone.

Rina87 · #28 11-03-2009, 09:23 PM

I mean I dnt think it would be a big deal, because if u trust ur man then theres nothing to worry about. U know deep down that u r his main chick n them others females r just someone 2 talk too. It shouldnt be that serious to leave him because at the end of the day he loves u not the other females he's talking too.

Kat · #29 11-03-2009, 09:46 PM

Poof be gone.............

mrs.bug · #30 11-03-2009, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Temeron0926

I have to wonder what kind of people try to control what the person they love does and says. I am huge on SELF control, but the REALITY is, I can only control ME, I don't get to control him.

As for him not needing anyone else to write to him, he needs ALL the support he can get, think about that.

If a man and a woman are in a relationship and they decide together not to write or communicate with other people that's a mutual decision they have every right to make. I don't care what anyone else thinks about how my husband and I do things, it's our relationship therefore our choice. We are and always have been very happy so obviously we're doing something right.