The OP hasn't logged in since 2013, but I think the concern was not for his own safety but rather regard for his incarcerated partner. I can understand that. For their sake I hope all went well and they felt comfortable communicating openly for the duration of the bid.
In general though, follow the cues given by your incarcerated loved one when you're unsure. Right after the DOC, it's their house and they need to remain safe there.