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Originally Posted by WaitingWilkes
I'm sorry you took anything I wrote as criticism. Each of us individually and as part a couple should do what works for us. I have the greatest respect for outmates like you who remain celibate while their LO is locked up. I think it's admirable and demonstrates a lot of character. I was celibate for years while our appeals ground on and for a year after the final one was denied. My wife completely froze me out during that year - she refused visits, returned my letters unopened and refused to call me - in an attempt to drive me away "so I could have a life." She relented and let me back into hers when she was sure I intended to continue to be with her. It was she who suggested that I "date," with some considerations. PTO exists to facilitate exchanging and discussing ideas. I apologize to you and anyone else who may be offended by my sharing our arrangement.
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Do what works for you Wilkes. We all have our own plan on how to get to the end of this hell. Personally, I wouldn't consider doing what you do, but doesn't mean it's wrong! I didn't understand why you brought it up and called me out for it. My comment wasn't some sort of proclamation that our way was the only way.