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Old 09-05-2016, 12:31 PM
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Originally Posted by miamac View Post
He does have a phone, it's called renting it even if the actual phone belongs to someone else. Cell phone time is never free and is being paid by someone so he's either kicking in for it or on the hook for a favor.

I would pass because I know more now than I did at your stage of the game. I would pass because I know that I need a man who can color inside the lines both in prison and out. I would pass because I've watched too many folks here ignore small stuff that then tripped the person up on the outside and they end up violating parole and then they're back in prison. I do not want to do another bid. I do not want police in my house, investigators calling me in, I don't need that kind of attention. If I accept, or worse encourage, the behaviour now, I have zero grounds to be mad when they keep breaking the rules on the streets.

And I'm MWI, so I am sympathetic to the rush of feelings. I get that part. But that rush fades, hun, and when it fades it fades hard.
Ok i see what you mean... I expect it will fade of course. Which is why I'm not committing myself to him or to waiting for him. If i am still single and were still doing well when he's released I will be ready to spend time with him and see how he is out here. I know there's a big chance he's not who he portrays himself. Theres will be no chance of police coming to my house he is not paroling to my address. I went through that with my ex and I refuse to let anyone parol to my address ever again. My ex and I have children together and they remember when he violated and I can't let them experience that again. He has 2 years parol when he's out I figure we'd have to survive that in different homes if we can't then we aren't meant to be anyway. I appreciate your feedback about the phone I didn't think of it like that the phone is one of the things I've never dealt with.
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