Just wondering how do you get over all of the lonley nights. I miss and want him so much. How do you get past that? NEED HELP!!!!!!!

Well, when my Sweetie was first locked up, I had many lonely nights. Sometimes I couldn't sleep at all. However, I spent my time writing encouraging words to him. I spent a lot of time with family and friends. Keep your chin up. Every day that goes by, is another day closer to him coming home....that's what's kept me going. Welcome to PTO :wave: You will always have support here!!!

I have the kids to keep me busy. When I am really down and out I get on PTO. I love to write and play dominoes with strangers on the internet. I go shopping when everything else fails. I get out and drive around. I clean house which is a constant thing with 3 kids and 2 dogs. You can find lots of support on here from everything about the unit he is in to changing a light bulb. There is a poetry and day brightner forum full of jokes to make you laugh and the next thing you know is you are printing them out to send to him. I love to just sit and browse the internet. go shopping online and never buy anything just look around to stay busy.
There are nights that nothing helps and I end up crying myself to sleep.
But we have to keep our heads up and keep going until they come home.

Pauline

I also cried alot when he first went in and would just sit at home alone. Sometimes I would go and sit with my sister but, that wouldn't work and just go home and be alone with my thoughts. But now I write when I can't sleep or watch tv. Nothing anyone said could comfort me only because they didn't understand what I was going thought. But it does get easier as time go by. You have to find waht is comforting to you that will ease you mind.

Thank you for your suport. We dont have ant kids yet. I spend alot of time alone. I only have our fish to keep me company. i do write alot. but mostly sit here missing him.

Welcome to PTO. Can you volunteer somewhere--homeless shelter, church--soup kitchen. I write alot, clean and sit here on PTO as well as work full time and take care of two children full time ---but there is still time to miss him. Its hard but be strong and it will be over soon.


ONE

This is a great example of why I love this site!!!!.. I was so lost when Jamie first went in and now I just can't wait for him to come home.. I still sometimes cry myself to sleep and everynight before I lay down I have a picture of him by my bed I kiss him goodnight and say out loud " I love you Baby, Goodnight".. sounds kind of corney but its comforting.. and he says he does the same when he goes to bed.. It really does get easier.. I couldn't talk to anyone for a long time because no one understood what I am going through, but then I found PTO.. And I LOVE it here..
Anyways WELCOME!!!!!!
Erin

I have nothing really to add to what the other ladies have already said. Write to him ALOT!! :) I write to "J" every day, nothing extraordinary, I just write to him about what I'm doing, I write EVERYTHING down, like if I feed the dog I write: "Dacoda's hungry now honey, I'm gonna go feed her, be right back!" Silly? Maybe, but he likes it, it makes him feel like he's home and I'm just "talking" to him. :D Anyway, I just really wanted to say, WELCOME TO PTO!! We're all here for each other 24/7, whether, via the boards, PM's, Instant Messenger, or phone. You are sure to make some life-long friends here!