I got a letter today from my Adam. He spent 4 pages telling me about how I need to keep my eyes open and be on my toes at all times. After I read the whole thing with puzzlement, I get to the end and he wants me to be careful and not get my heartbroken. I see the point, this is a boy that helped duct tape my face together to prevent blood loss on the way to the hospital when his uncle felt it was necessary to "disipline" me.
I have tried to explain that all my relationships are not abusive like that, and that I never go into anything blind, but he went on and on about me being careful. I know he worries, but I'm really at wits end with this whole thing here. I have explained that the relationship that Kevin and I have is still basically in it's childhood, and since I've never had the chance to be with him on the streets, I have yet to see how some of his reactions are. I realize this, as I hope he will.
I love my nephew as much as I could love my own child, but I don't think that my own child would be like this with me. I do try to make exceptions due to his mother is a class 1 drug abuser and I'm the first one to offer the boy stability in his life, but where do I draw the line without hurting him in the process? There are parts of my life that need to be kept to myself and I don't want him to be upset when I tell him to never mind those areas.
Any suggestions?

I wonder if Adam is so concerned because he realizes you are the main (only?) person in his life he can depend on right now and he wouldn't be able to handle anything happening to you. He sounds as if he is such a caring person -it's his nature and as you said you understand his anxiety because of the past... maybe if you just steer conversations and letters away from the subject of Kevin for the time being - might help him focus on other things.Let him know you are a very capable adult with a lot of experience behind you and you know what to be aware of so that he doesn't have to worry.