Was your loved ones homecoming what you expected? Better then? Worse then?

hey cal, i know i dont apply to this yet but wondering? what were they like for you? better or worse?? ~ash

Just completely different. It wasn't any worse or any better. I have posted before about the fantasy vs. the reality of it, but the reality wound up being pretty good.

Tonight he came home from work and was as ill as a hornet. Since I haven't choked him - yet - I guess life is pretty good. :D

Ash,For me things were better then I ever imagined! He was so on the ball and ready to get going on creating a better life for himself,children and us! Things are starting to get a little tougher now but for the most part I am still amazed at how well things are going

thats so great, emotionaly too? sorry just have lots of questions :o

Emotionally the whole ordeal is draining honestly.It is a super high high to have him home but emotions are so high that at times it is a low too when little things go wrong and just making the adjustments of being a couple on the outside is hard sometimes too. I am a very emotional person normally and prone to bouts of depression so I may be super sensitive,not sure.Hopefully others will weigh in with their feelings.

Don't ever be sorry! Ask anything you would like to know.I am willing to share it all as I'm sure some others are :)



P.S. Ash,I am leaving to go see him but will check back to see if I can answer anything else for you in a few hours when I return :)

thank you :) i guess i am wondering if the promises were real, if he kept the majority of them, if he has been around alot or out with the boys, adjusting to a "physical" relationship, how you are adjusting. i think i looked around in your "hes home" thread but was so dang busy at work, i couldnt read it all. i will try to do somemore digging ;) thanks again ~ash **just looking forward to the day i can post about my experiences!!

So far every promise is real and he has been around a lot,no hanging with they boys he left them behind when he left drugs behind.He has a lot of classes,counseling etc he must do for parole and for the court in trying to get his kids back so that keeps him busy during the week, when he isn't doing those things or with me he is usually just hanging out at his home with his family (He lives with them right now).
The physical relationship has been good as well! The first day he was home he was a little standoffish and almost shy but he warmed up by that night and our physical relationship has been very healthy ever since.

My homecoming was good but it went down hill from there. So i voted worse than i imagined. But truth be told, the way this $h!t worked out was the best thing to ever happen to me. I woke up!!! :)

DISCLAIMER: I'm not trying to imply that anyone is living a dream. I'm only talking about myself.

I voted worse...but it's not that bad. I'm kinda in between worse and same.

Things would be great if the ex thing wasn't a continuing stressor

I voted things are the same. It has been good since he has been home. Don't get me wrong - it's always going to be stressful when they first get out. But we just keep telling eachother we are doing it together now. We have our edgy moments but the good thing about it is is that we communicate. With out communication it's not going to work.

I voted things are the same. It has been good since he has been home. Don't get me wrong - it's always going to be stressful when they first get out. But we just keep telling eachother we are doing it together now. We have our edgy moments but the good thing about it is is that we communicate. With out communication it's not going to work.

That's the bottom line for me.

the homecoming itself was wonderful.... the first couple of weeks of readjusting to one another again was incredible and we loved every minute of it. However, here we are, 4 months later and I never thought I would be dealing with what I am facing now. The bginnning was good..... better than I ever dreamed, but the ending is ugly.

i know cali that you are asking still for those that are home and probably for hubby's or boyfriends........just wanted to vote......feeling kinda sad tonight and i don't exactly know why.....

when my son came home........things were so great........he was25.......he had been out of the house since his 18th birthday........he found a job immediately...went to PO everytime.....kept his nose clean........hung out with the right people......4 months later and less than 3 weeks from getting his own vehicle and rental home........he "flew the coop".......he "couldn't take it"........he left his loving family and safe house to go "have fun".....which meant doing all the wrong things........i was devestated.........i had my "real" son home........he "couldn't handle it"......so .........

now he is back in prison.........i so wished i had had PTO back then.......i think alot of the problem was he still "needed" to be in prison kinda.......you know with his pals??? i don't know how to explain.........i think a lot of people get out and don't want to remember being "in".........but i think others want to remember and still be a part of that life........well.........not "that life".......geesh.......maybe someone who has been in can explain.........you know he left friends behind........and he is out and all is good and he stops writing and goes on with life but still.........there is a part that is still there and no one "out here" understands........

oh my ..........rambling rose tonite sorry

Sam I meant any loved one! True my experience with mine is my honey but your son defenitly counts.Please feel free to vent away any time,we are here to listen always!

HUGS

I didn't really have any expectations. I dreamed about it but didn't really know what to expect.

Since he's been hom, we're learning each other and working on building a life together. I would be the first to admit, it's not easy and it takes work. There are times when I just want to be around him and there are times when I ask myself, what am I doing. I only feel this way when I feel overwhelmed of the restrictions that he has since he's on parole. Can't leave the state w/o po permission, him having to wait around for po to do home visit and she never comes, etc. I know it's petty, but when you've never been in a relationship that have so many darn restrictions, it can become very taxing.

There are days when I just want to scream and run away from it all, and then are days when I just want to run to him, for he truly has my back. Once we settle into the directions that we want to go into, I believe all shall be well.

I am so happy that I have these threads to look at. the subjects aren't always the most positive but I am so thankful to have these to look back at as I get ready for Joe's homecoming. THANKS!!

...and thank you Lisa for being so open. appreciated. ;)