Has your loved one's family been supportive of him/her, since they've been home?

Were they supportive while they were in?

Has your family been supportive - both while your loved one was in and since coming out?

What bothers me is that one family member (of his) told me not to get used to him being home. That they had all done their "time" with him and the "next time" I wouldn't be so eager to help him.

Maybe I was being dim, but I had sincerely hoped there wouldn't be a next time. So far, so good.

My family has always been supportive - both while he was in and out. Well, they were supportive of me, anyway. Nobody ever wrote or visited, but they never discouraged our relationship. I've even used other family member's vehicles to drive to visits, etc.

His family became really interested in him when they found out he was being released. He was being released within the confines of the interstate compact program, so it actually took 2 months from the time he was granted parole until he walked out of the prison. During that 2 month period, they suddenly began to call me. Once he was home, everybody wanted to see him. They even helped arrange for his first job.

Some cousins and an aunt did write him, but nobody ever visited him.

Since he's been home, they've been extremely supportive and encouraging of him - both families. In fact, he and his father hadn't spoken in years. Now they actually have a good relationship and he either visits or calls his dad every single day.

Considering my husband's track record, I guess we're very fortunate that anybody in either family still speaks to us.

Do you ever get the mixed signals, though? I've just began to wonder how much of that support is sincere.

I am very fortunate that my family and his family were both supportive while my fiance was in jail and prison. Each in their own ways, some sent mail and money orders, some visited and allowed him to call.

Since he has been home the support has continued. I believe this is due to the fact that he has truly used this experience to change himself for the better and they all know and see that with his words and actions.

When I moved back to Georgia from Wisconsin, we actually lived with his father for the first 3 months after he was home until we found a house. My family also continues to be supportive of decisions we make and my own stepfather has even stepped in and talked to both of us in some of our hardest times.

I am truly grateful for all of the support now and then :)

My family lives out of state and I am not close with many of them. But to the extent that they could be supportive during his incarceration and now that he is home it goes a little something like this:

My niece, she is only two years younger than me and we were raised together never questioned the way I met him, his incarceration or gave me any reason to believe she had a problem with our relationship. She always did and continues to ask how we are and chose to postpone a visit to me when she found out it would coincide with his homecoming. She wanted us to have some time to ourselves.

My daughter who at age 26 is only one year younger than Sebastian. Stormie was supportive from the moment I told her about the man in prison I was falling in love with. She has experienced a then boyfriend doing time and had no stigma about it.

My brother who is my father figure since dad passed doesn't really talk about it however our relationship is such that he and I don't often discuss such matters. When it comes to my big bro I could bring home Jesus Christ himself, he could walk on water and perform a million miracles and my brother would sit back and ask, "Sure but how's he gonna treat my baby sister in the years to come?" I am satisified in the knowledge that my brother would definitely speak up if he had a real problem with it.

My youngest son just turned 18 and came to visit last week. I talked to him about Sebastian including the fact that we want to be married. We all spent time together and Christian asked my man alot of questions about his incarceration and subsequent parole and Sebastian was completely honest with him. The two of them got on like old friends even going out together without me. Sebastian told me that Christian had asked him if he was going to marry his mother. Sebastian told him yes. It was a little strange for me to be "looked out for" by my son. He has grown up so much. He really likes Sebastian, I know this not only because he told me but because Christian like his mother has NO FEAR OF THE TRUTH and wouldn't have said anything just to please me.

As for Sebastian's family:

They live here in Rockford. They are very close. Sebastian is on house arrest and lives with his mother and father, younger sister and her 3 little boys. His family has been 100% supportive of him at all times.

I got to know his mother via 3-way calls while Sebastian was locked up. She is less than a year older than me and never questioned our relationship. Often she would call me if she hadn't heard from him or to ask me to pass along a message. Once he got home we finally met face to face. We are fast becoming family. She tells me she appreciates what I've done for her son especially the fact that I love him so. I told her that I appreciate what a good mother she's been and thanked her for sharing her only son with me. His family are weekly visitors at my dinner table, we've had parties and exchange gifts, laughter and love. We are so fortunate that his family is as supportive as they are. We are blessed.

Patty

My guys family is fairly supportive,they believe this is it for him he will not go back

My family is just now starting to accept him but they have the wait and see attitude,they don't really believe things will work out but are hoping they do.