Tonight my heart is heavy. I am asking for any Biblical input that you may have.

I am divorced, so is my sweetheart. Of the deepest desires of our heart is our desire to be wed. However, we have both come to the realization that anything outside the will of God is not worth pursuing.

His walk with Christ has changed immensely while incarcerated. I'm growing, but not nearly at the same rate. From all that I've seen I believe we are a benefit to one another, we lift up each other, we encourage each other in Christ, a godly couple, etc. Up until this past week I would have said that even with all the garbage that we will have to face in the future I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that we were ordained to be married someday, in God's time.

Well, the Holy Spirit has laid Biblical study of divorce & remarriage on his heart. In fact, we are both digging into the Word on this. Following is one of the main scriptures where Jesus speaks to the issue:

Concerning Divorce
Matthew 19:9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."

I ache right now. I am praying and searching. I want to truly understand God's will for our lives. At the same time, I cannot imagine no longer having him as a friend, let alone giving up the hope of a future together.

Does anyone have experience in this area?

Thank you,

All I can say is that divorce and remarriage is a very tough issue. I was brought up to believe that you get married once and only once as well, and yes, I do think thats the way that God intended. However....my marriage was miserable, the man was abusive, there was no way God would have wanted me to stay in that situation. So please remember that our God is a God of forgiveness and I truly believe you can remarry with his blessing. He wants us to be happy and content and especially if your man is also christian, I think its wonderful.

Can I ask you if either of you were Christians/saved before and/or during your divorce to the other mate?

Have you spoken to a pastor or Godly counsel about this? I would.

Honestly, what is in the past is in the past. The divorces are all ready over and done with. Have you asked Jesus into your hearts, asked for forgiveness and repented of all past mistakes? If you truly have, you need to ACCEPT the forgiveness that Jesus died on the cross to give you - that means the divorce's too.

Because I know that God can restore people and their lives, now that you are saved and are wanting to marry another saved person, I would keep praying and seek Godly counsel to get your answer.

God bless!

Milady,

I recently went through a divorce that was a great struggle for me, because like you, I was raised to believe that divorce is not an option. Sometimes you don't have much choice, but by now, the reasons for your divorce are beside the point.

Remember that of all God's laws, the greatest is LOVE. He said it himself, right out of Christ's mouth. So remember this--God, your father, loves YOU more than he loves the institution of marriage--or any institution he created, for that matter.

God hates divorce, but he loves you. Our choices in life, our acts within God's area of disapproval, are all called sin. Whether it's as big as killing or stealing, or as small as a teeny-weeny lie. It's all the same to him. There are no levels, it simply separates us from him, without a degree attached to it.

If you have repented, then your sins are behind you. They are as far from God as the east is from the west. Move on and seek his will for you. Sometimes he puts us through hard stuff to shape us into the person he wants us to be.

Keep praying and searching.

Milady,

If I were you I would seek Godly counsel on this subject. Who divorced who? Was your divorce because of abuse or unfaithfulness? These are things you should ask yourself. I will try to find other information for you as well. May God Bless you and your loved one.

Shona`

I was wedded within the sacremental marraige and married for 10 years and 3 children. I did not believe in divorce, but he left me and married another woman.

I went through my church and received an annulment after a long and soul searching process. I am free to remarry when God brings me the person God means me to marry instead of me picking someone God didn't want for me and never bound me to.


Tonight my heart is heavy. I am asking for any Biblical input that you may have.

I am divorced, so is my sweetheart. Of the deepest desires of our heart is our desire to be wed. However, we have both come to the realization that anything outside the will of God is not worth pursuing.

His walk with Christ has changed immensely while incarcerated. I'm growing, but not nearly at the same rate. From all that I've seen I believe we are a benefit to one another, we lift up each other, we encourage each other in Christ, a godly couple, etc. Up until this past week I would have said that even with all the garbage that we will have to face in the future I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that we were ordained to be married someday, in God's time.

Well, the Holy Spirit has laid Biblical study of divorce & remarriage on his heart. In fact, we are both digging into the Word on this. Following is one of the main scriptures where Jesus speaks to the issue:

Concerning Divorce
Matthew 19:9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."

I ache right now. I am praying and searching. I want to truly understand God's will for our lives. At the same time, I cannot imagine no longer having him as a friend, let alone giving up the hope of a future together.

Does anyone have experience in this area?

Thank you,