no more scary
12-23-2004, 10:29 AM
First of all I want to thank everyone that listens to me rant and rave about the situation at home with SCARY's psycho stalker.....
Finally at 12 midnight lastnight I got the truth....
I told y'all how she showed up at my house, and how she was calling while we were out to dinner. And all she kept doing is apologizing to him, and begging for him not to hate her, that she loved him.
He was showing a rage at her, that I have not ever seen before.
When asked why he's "all of a sudden" so to speak SOOOOOO mad at her, like we've been dealing with her for quite some time now, why are you all of a sudden SOOOOO PI**ED at her.
He told me it was because she was talking smack on me and the reasons why we were together and what not...Not that he wouldn't be mad, but my gut feeling was that there is more to this story....he is not flipping like this over something so stupid....
WELL, here we go.....for those of you that have read my earlier posts, you already know that this girl was his dealer, he got all messed up one night and ended up cheating on me. At the time our relationship was weak(always fighting over his drug use) well we got into a fight one night (b/c he was hi & wanted to drive) to make a long story short he ended up in jail for warrants that night, he served 6 months in county(in 2003), the whole time we were not on best terms, but to my knowledge he was still coming home to me. When he came out it was a different story. He left me for her, she was saying all the right things at the right time when he needed it and she got into his head while he was locked up, I was devastated, and confused b/c she is disgusting(on drugs, no job, lives w/ parents, and was 17) Well fortunatley we ended up working things out and he realized that what we had was "REAL" and all she had was "DRUGS" which was great for an addict.
Well he has now found out, and she has admitted to it...that that whole six months where she was promising the world to him, she was sleeping with his best friend. He dosen't care that she slept with him, b/c he has no feelings for her..but he feels lied to by his friend and by her, and if the truth would have been told...he would had a better grip on reality, and instead of ruining our relationship...he would of worked it out. The way he says it is this "I left my family for her, because she promised it would be better, it wasn't...it took me hurting you, another jail sentance, months of stress, rebuilding relationships, and trust, for me to in the end realize that none of what she had to offer was worth it. You(me) are my best friend, and told me from the beginning I was making a big mistake...I should of listened to you, and I am so sorry for everything I put you through this past year." "All someone had to do is say, Scary, go back to your family, she's not what she makes herself out to be, and we would have not had the past 9 months of grief in our life." By the lies she told me, I could of lost my whole family for, and if you(me) would have found someone else and moved on, I probably would of killed myself. I truely believe that all the bad stuff I did to you, has come back full circle. And it took me finding this out to understand what it feels like to be betrayed, more so by my best friend then that street walker." He feels it was his friends duty to break him down and tell him she wasn't worth it. Especially since me and his friend have know each other for years, he even used to live with us.
Sorry for rambling on....but I feel like I finally have closure, and know the full truth. He spent 2 hours crying to me last night, apologizing and telling me how grateful he was for me never giving up hope in him.
This doesn't help the stalking situaton, but at least now I know he is doing nothing to provoke it. I am so glad it turned out this way in the end. #1 it gives me gratification that I was right about that tramp all along, #2 I know my baby was not playin me out, he really was telling her to stay away, and he really doesn't want anything to do with her....
Sorry this is so long, and thank's for hanging in there to read it.....
Finally at 12 midnight lastnight I got the truth....
I told y'all how she showed up at my house, and how she was calling while we were out to dinner. And all she kept doing is apologizing to him, and begging for him not to hate her, that she loved him.
He was showing a rage at her, that I have not ever seen before.
When asked why he's "all of a sudden" so to speak SOOOOOO mad at her, like we've been dealing with her for quite some time now, why are you all of a sudden SOOOOO PI**ED at her.
He told me it was because she was talking smack on me and the reasons why we were together and what not...Not that he wouldn't be mad, but my gut feeling was that there is more to this story....he is not flipping like this over something so stupid....
WELL, here we go.....for those of you that have read my earlier posts, you already know that this girl was his dealer, he got all messed up one night and ended up cheating on me. At the time our relationship was weak(always fighting over his drug use) well we got into a fight one night (b/c he was hi & wanted to drive) to make a long story short he ended up in jail for warrants that night, he served 6 months in county(in 2003), the whole time we were not on best terms, but to my knowledge he was still coming home to me. When he came out it was a different story. He left me for her, she was saying all the right things at the right time when he needed it and she got into his head while he was locked up, I was devastated, and confused b/c she is disgusting(on drugs, no job, lives w/ parents, and was 17) Well fortunatley we ended up working things out and he realized that what we had was "REAL" and all she had was "DRUGS" which was great for an addict.
Well he has now found out, and she has admitted to it...that that whole six months where she was promising the world to him, she was sleeping with his best friend. He dosen't care that she slept with him, b/c he has no feelings for her..but he feels lied to by his friend and by her, and if the truth would have been told...he would had a better grip on reality, and instead of ruining our relationship...he would of worked it out. The way he says it is this "I left my family for her, because she promised it would be better, it wasn't...it took me hurting you, another jail sentance, months of stress, rebuilding relationships, and trust, for me to in the end realize that none of what she had to offer was worth it. You(me) are my best friend, and told me from the beginning I was making a big mistake...I should of listened to you, and I am so sorry for everything I put you through this past year." "All someone had to do is say, Scary, go back to your family, she's not what she makes herself out to be, and we would have not had the past 9 months of grief in our life." By the lies she told me, I could of lost my whole family for, and if you(me) would have found someone else and moved on, I probably would of killed myself. I truely believe that all the bad stuff I did to you, has come back full circle. And it took me finding this out to understand what it feels like to be betrayed, more so by my best friend then that street walker." He feels it was his friends duty to break him down and tell him she wasn't worth it. Especially since me and his friend have know each other for years, he even used to live with us.
Sorry for rambling on....but I feel like I finally have closure, and know the full truth. He spent 2 hours crying to me last night, apologizing and telling me how grateful he was for me never giving up hope in him.
This doesn't help the stalking situaton, but at least now I know he is doing nothing to provoke it. I am so glad it turned out this way in the end. #1 it gives me gratification that I was right about that tramp all along, #2 I know my baby was not playin me out, he really was telling her to stay away, and he really doesn't want anything to do with her....
Sorry this is so long, and thank's for hanging in there to read it.....