OMG~ I don't know how to feel about this one....
Only a day after I posted how happy me and Scary are....
I am so aggrivated!
The psycho ex showed up at our house!!!!
Yesterday!!!!
And to top it off my neighbor is the one that told me...
She said that the girl never went in my house just stood at the step, Scary came out and looked as if he was yelling at her.
She was there only a few minutes and then left...upset.

Now what I am mad about is that HE did not tell me, when I questioned him about this, he said he didn't want to upset me anymore. That I seemed so happy since she stopped calling.
~mind you, she only stopped calling b/c I disconnected our house phone.
So I guess b/c she can't get through to him on the phone she decided to show up when she thought I was at work.

He told me he wanted me to get her A$$ kicked, because she is crazy. When she showed up she was crying saying she can't live without him in her life. He told her she's a crazy BI**H that can't take a hint, and is putting him in danger of losing his family.

I truely believe Scary is happy at home, but I am disgusted at the fact that he did not tell me himself.
My thing is if you lie about small stuff your gonna lie about big stuff too...

I won't even talk to him, and he is devastated, but right now I don't know how I feel...so I have nothing to say.
He wants to meet me to go to dinner after work, but right now I don't even want to see his face.

I told him in the beginning she was going to be a problem and by him being civil with her was only going to make it worse. She thinks she loves him and is not giving up the fight.
He told her there will NEVER be a him and her, so she needs to just stop trying.
And her latest endevor is that she offered to sell him XANAX and PERCOCET's for half price so he can re- sell them, and make some x-tra money.
If he starts with drugs again it will ruin us....It is too soon in his recovery for him to be around any type of person that does street drugs at all, even if it wasn't her.

I am so disgusted right now......

i am sorry that you are sad. i feel that he should have told you. people do crazy things these days, and what if she showed up and you were just getting home. she could harm you. also, how does she know where you stay? i wish people could just go on with their lives and stopping messing up everyone else. he seems to care, so just tell him how you feel and hopefully everything will work its way out.



OMG~ I don't know how to feel about this one....
Only a day after I posted how happy me and Scary are....
I am so aggrivated!
The psycho ex showed up at our house!!!!
Yesterday!!!!
And to top it off my neighbor is the one that told me...
She said that the girl never went in my house just stood at the step, Scary came out and looked as if he was yelling at her.
She was there only a few minutes and then left...upset.

Now what I am mad about is that HE did not tell me, when I questioned him about this, he said he didn't want to upset me anymore. That I seemed so happy since she stopped calling.
~mind you, she only stopped calling b/c I disconnected our house phone.
So I guess b/c she can't get through to him on the phone she decided to show up when she thought I was at work.

He told me he wanted me to get her A$$ kicked, because she is crazy. When she showed up she was crying saying she can't live without him in her life. He told her she's a crazy BI**H that can't take a hint, and is putting him in danger of losing his family.

I truely believe Scary is happy at home, but I am disgusted at the fact that he did not tell me himself.
My thing is if you lie about small stuff your gonna lie about big stuff too...

I won't even talk to him, and he is devastated, but right now I don't know how I feel...so I have nothing to say.
He wants to meet me to go to dinner after work, but right now I don't even want to see his face.

I told him in the beginning she was going to be a problem and by him being civil with her was only going to make it worse. She thinks she loves him and is not giving up the fight.
He told her there will NEVER be a him and her, so she needs to just stop trying.
And her latest endevor is that she offered to sell him XANAX and PERCOCET's for half price so he can re- sell them, and make some x-tra money.
If he starts with drugs again it will ruin us....It is too soon in his recovery for him to be around any type of person that does street drugs at all, even if it wasn't her.

I am so disgusted right now......

In my personal opinion I think you should be upset about him not telling you, but it sounds like he truly did not want to ruin your happiness. I dont think I would hold this against him. Let him know that no matter what you want to know when things of this nature happen and tell him why. In all honesty though I dont think you should continue to be mad. Meet him for dinner and talk to him about it. Communication is the only way to work through things like this. If you continue to be mad he is going to be mad and this will be a much bigger ordeal then it started out to be.

Thank you guys for your support.

I know he loves me and does not want to lose me....
I'm just so tired of dealing with this situation...everytime I hear her name, it opens old wounds of hurt from 2 years ago...
We are going out to dinner...
I will update tomorrow

Honey~ I am so sorry he didn't tell you. I do however agree with AEMS. Talk to him. ANd you going out to dinner with him will help. Don't be mad anymore. Forgive him and move on. Just let him know that no matter what you want to know these things. I can tell he loves you and is willing to work this out. It sounds to me that he is willing to do anything right now to make you happy. Give him a chance with the drugs. He sounds like he is doing great. Trust him he seems to be a great guy for you. Good luck to you with her. But don't let her destroy what you have.

p.s. have you thought about doing an anonymous report about her selling drugs??

I would be hurt and angry that he didn't tell me regardless of the reason. Your in this together you should be kept up to date. I don't think you are overreacting, I do think that your gonna have to find a way to calm down to best handle the situation. You and your man need some quiet time together after you have collected your thoughts and communicate these feelings to him. Your situation is not an easy one. I hope you are able to resolve these problems quickly.

Thinking of you,
Patty