Hello all. Before I share my story, let me just tell you all that I am so happy I have found this site! Thank you all just for being here to support one another... it is so great!
I am madly in love with a man who is currently incarcerated. His story (briefly) is that he was an abused and neglected kid, tossed between an alcoholic mother and abusive father. He was a chronic runaway. Even when the police were aware of the abuse, he was only given the option of going to juvenile detention or going home. The third time he ran away, he stayed with his brother who was involved in gangs/drugs. He sold drugs to earn his keep, and in a deal gone bad, someone lost their life. He has been incarcerated since age 15, and has about 3 more years to go.
I actually met him when working at the prison (not actually FOR the prison... another long story). When confronted about suspicions, I opted to resign from my job. He is currently in segregation and has no phone rights either. For awhile we were able to write one another, but internal affairs is now confiscating any mail coming to him AND his outgoing mail. All that gets through to him is a shakedown slip indicating a letter has been confiscated. This leaves me in crisis with no way to communicate with him. I miss him terribly and am very worried about him as he has a long history of depression. The only other person he has on the outside is his sister, who is very supportive, but is not able to visit him. That's where my life is now. Any ideas on ways I may find to communicate with him would be appreciated as those letters were my lifeline which is now cut-off. He won't have phone privleged or be out of seg for another 6 months, and I don't even know if I will ever be able to visit him, but I would be happy with any means of communication. Thanks for taking the time to read this!

hI MY NAME IS SHERRON ,tHE QUESTIONS YOU ARE ASKING.I NEED TO KNOW (1) Is your friend in IL ? Prison) If HE IS i HAVE BEEN DEALING WITH THEM FOR MANY YEARS, (2) Do you address the mail to him OR in care of the prison., Then his name?(3) Have you called the post office, and ask them there view and rules on the prison holding his MAIL,And is that legal?. (4) Have you conntacted the Gov. of the state he is in and also you never said i f enteral fairs are doing a invesgateing him now?Now that he is in Seg, why is he there? If you could explain a little more in details, may i can give you some more enfor,, Mrs SherronDurman:( :confused:

Dear JD/s wife:

I have heard your story in a little different format before. My son who is in a NC prison also met a young lady who worked for the DOC. They fired her and have stopped her visiting him at any unit in the State. The seem to love each other very much. I know it has helped him not be as lonely as he has been and he seems very happy when he talks about her.
They want to marry in April but I really don't see that happening. I don't think DOC will allow it. Maybe it will be better for them if they wait until he gets to come home.

Hope to hear more from you
Donna

To answer a few questions for clarification... He is incarcerated in Illinois DOC. He is currently in segregation for suspicion of being in a relationship with me (and when they were doing an investigation they wrote him a ticket for contraband property which he had for years but no one had ever made an issue of...) I would assume since he had heard his ticket and received a consequence and since I am no longer an employee there, the investigation "should" be over... but apparently not. I am very fearful of what kind of restrictions they will place on us, as I said before, I don't know if I will EVER be able to visit him. Just an update.... I contacted his sister with all of the info and she has the resources to contact her attorney... and they should be calling the prison/state level to be putting some pressure on DOC because according to the lawyer they ARE inappropriately restricting his rights to communicate with the outside world and since I am no longer working at the prison, it shouldn't be an issue. Thanks for the responses! ;)

Dear JD's Wife

The best advise I can give you is to never give up. At some point there must be a change in attitude about inmates and their families. If we continue to let it be known how bad things really are, then the general public will begin to see the truth. Our strength is in numbers. From California to Florida and Alaska, this must stop. We must let our voices be known in every area. But, always remember too, keep a low profile. If DOC knows who you are when you make waves, they will punish your loved one. I have seen this happen many times. So when you are fighting your battles, try to keep him out of it if possible. You cannot do that in the visitation thing but he must be pretty strong if they already have him in segregation.

Good luck!!! Hope things turn out alright. Keep in touch.

Donna

My name is Bess. My mother was in Prison for basically self defense. She passed away in prison, I have ahd a childhood without her and I miss her. I hope that all of you can mkae the best of your time in prison and I pray that you all find God

Welcome to PTO. :)

Hello and welcome to PTO :)