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I know most of you have read my threads about my PSYCHO DRAMA with Scary's ex-fling.
Well needless to say it's putting a major strain on us. I have been with him since 1994~that's a pretty long time to just throw everything away. He means more to me then the air that I breathe.
We have 2 beautiful children, a great house, great neighbors, and I love his family. But about a year and a half ago we were on the verge of a breakdown, he betrayed me for the only time in our relationship, and started seeing the girl who fed his drug habit. Well it's over, and has been over for quite some time. This time he came home is the 1st time in 8 years that I really see a change in him, he's clean, supportive, loving....
SO WHY DO I STILL HAVE TROUBLE TRUSTING HIM???????????
He has told her to leave us alone, yet she still persues him. This should be like a honeymoon to us... My fear os that I am making it the HELL. I don't want to not trust him, but it is so hard with her calling so much. I can't keep him locked in the house forever, yet anytime he leaves, for any reason, I question him if he has seen or talked to her. I want this feeling to go away so bad, but I don't know how. PLEASE HELP!
He told me this morning that things are never going to work out between us if I don't stop yelling and accusing him of stuff.
On the flip side, I'm afraid to let my guard down and get played for a fool. This girl has nothing to offer him, so he would be the fool if he left me for her, but that's not the point, he's my baby, and I don't want to lose him, but if I don't figure something out...I am going to

I am sorry that you have to go through this. I know how you feel though. I still have some issues with my husband as well. He has a daughter with his ex and everytime she calls I feel I need to be right there listening. It is something that we have to fight though. I make myself trust him. I love him and I do trust him. I always say it is her I don't trust. But even in that case we HAVE to trust them. That even if she were to try something he will put a stop to it. And you will need to try and have that trust in Scary as well.

I can understand how you feel with this girl who keeps calling. Just start off slow. Try not to ask him so many questions when he leaves. I know it is hard. Maybe just ask him "where are you going?" and when he tells you leave it at that.

I don't know if this is good advice but I do wish you luck and hope all goes well for you.

Salena

WOW, I feel for you, I have been there, done that! The case of the EX! I reacted just like you!!! You want to believe you can trust them but you just still have that doubt, that gut feeling! The problem is HER! I don't know what advice to give you! I wanted to move, because of her, she kept calling him, it just sucked! This is a tough one! If he has no desire to be with her, then give him the chance to prove it! If you then still fall on your nose deal with it then! Until then don't let this/her ruin your relationship! I suppose if he wanted to be with her, he would be, but he is with YOU! Keep the faith! Not much hope, I know! Trust in God! I know, seems not much more hopeful either! I wish I could give you a hug, I soooo know how you feel! If you don't get off his behind though all you are going to do is to push him away and towrds her possibly! You are really in a catch 22 here. Just hang on and believe in your man! But nonetheless, keep you eyes open, and ears perked, oki???

the comment "why do you want someone that doesn't want you" should be said to her by him and maybe she will get a clue