MY HUSBAND WAS TRANSFERED TO CHUCKAWALLA 2 WEEKS AGO AND I JUST RECEIVED A CALL FROM THE FAMILY VISITING COORDINATOR AND SHE TELLS ME THAT WE ONLY GET 2 DAYS FOR OUR FAMILY VISIT WHEREAS IN IRONWOOD WE USED TO GET 5 DAYS SINCE I TRAVEL ALL THE WAY FROM NEW YORK TO CALIFORNIA. THAT IS SUCH A MAJOR LET DOWN EVEN IF THE VISITS ARE EVERY 30 DAYS WE ARE NOT GUARANTEED A VISIT EVERY 30 DAYS. I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS, :blah: :angry: I'M SO MAD :angry: :blah:

THIS IS A TOTAL CROCK OF $HIT AND I'M IN A SUCH AN UPROAR RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!

That really sucks!!! That is a very long way to travel.

Ah girl I'm sorry to hear that :(

that is really a long way to came for a 48 hour visit hang in there girl. you just have to make the BEST of those 48 hours you know what I mean.

Kreepsgirl: Thanks And I Love Your Christmas Tree!!!!! Where Do You Get All Those Cute Pictures?

Cali:thanks And How Is It Going With Matt At Home?

Tomi: Thanks And I Just Love Your Little Dancing Pacman

Thanks For All Your Responses!!!!!

I'm sorry, but it's only fair. I understand you travel a long distance, but that is your choice. Why should you be aloud 5 days, when everyonelse only gets 2 days. I don't mean any disrespect, but if they are going to bend the rules then it should apply for everyone. If family visits are 2 days, then they are 2 days for all parties.

I am soo sorry about that girl that sucks!! I mean traveling for 2 days and only getting a 2 day visit! Well like everyone said make the best of it!!!!

I'm sorry to hear that. I know that you were so hopeful that this would be a better place. Happy Holidays. Take Care and God Bless!

I get family visits at Chuckawalla, too. I have many friends whose husbands and boyfriends are lifers, and they don't get any alone time with their man. I am thankful to God that I have my 48 hours every 2 months with my husband, and that I know someday he will be coming home to me. Many women don't have that. Feel Blessed.

Damn Im Sorry1!!!!!!!!!!!!

Omg 1200 Days To Go!!!!!!!!!!!!

Olive Juice: Every Facility Is Different And I Am Thankful That The Other Facility Took Into Consideration The 6,000 Miles That I Have To Travel And Therefore Gave Us 5 Days Together.!!!!!!!!!

Juice: I Do Not Make The Rules!! Some Facilities Take Into Consideration How Far You Travel And They Allow You More Visiting Days And That's What I Was Used To Already. So Thats Why I'm In Such A Shock To Only Be Able To Get 2 Days At This New Place. So Please Don't Make It Sound Like I Want Them To Bend Over Backwards For Me. I Just Go By The Rules Of Each Facility, Okay!!!

NJR, When I orginally responded to this post, I had alot more go through my mind than I wrote, especially after reading what juice had to say to you. I decided maybe I should not say what I was thinking. After reading your recent responses maybe I should have. I for one am very glad to know that if someone is that far away that the facility would take that into consideration. When I want to visit my son, he is 3 hours drive away. I can drive up in the morning and come back in the evening. For you it may mean taking time off work. It also means paying for a flight, hotel, rental car, etc... I understand this and have no problem with you or anyone else in your position, being given more time, because you may not be able to visit as often as someone closer to the facility. This is a much better, softer version of what I was thinking the first time I read olivejuices response to you. Take Care and God Bless!!

Am so sorry to hear about your visiting situation.
Olivejuice I understand where you are coming from but....there is documented evidence that recindivism is lower when one has good visits from family and friends. Thus a decent penal system tries to accommodate that. Ideally I agree that everyone should be able to visit 5 or 7 days a week. Failing that it is reasonable to try and accommodate those who live a long way away in some ways. For example, somebody close by could come every week for 2 days if that was allowed. Somebody a long way away would have to be rich in both time and dollars to be able to do the same.
That is my opinion at least!

Lisal & Titantoo: Thanks So Much Fro Seeing It My Way. That Is Exactly Why I'm In Such A Shock Because I Have To Plan So Much Out And Spent So Much Money Just To Get To Cali From New York. Well, We Will Have Our First 2 Day Visit In February And We Shall See How It Goes. Thanks Again For All Your Positive Input. I Totally Appreciate Being Understood And Not Put Down.

Happy New Year!!!!!

I hope you have a great visit... and I agree it ain't right.

Man, after flying all the way from the East you'd think they'd cut you a little slack... it would cost them more to give you more visits for 2 days each than one long one anyway. But when did CDC ever follow common sense?

Even when the rules call for some slack on long distance visits, they try to break them. On my last regular visit at Lancaster, I drove more than 350 miles and Title 15 says they can't terminate you... well, this rookie had never read the rules and tried to terminate us but I wouldn't have it. Finally we were allowed to stay only after I argued with his boss. My guy was afraid the COs would retaliate but thank goodness they didn't. And I am grateful he is much closer to home now.

Have a safe trip!

That is really sad that some of us ladies have to be such haters I thought we were here to support each other :confused: and not say why would you think you can get something more than me? Come on ladies NJR10200 has to come 6,000 miles to see her husband it’s not like some of us that it’s what 3 or 4 hour drive we can see our husbands//boyfriend every weekend if we want. I think before we post things up we should think about it and maybe put ourselves in their shoes. :idea: But I hope you have a great time in Feb when you come down.:grouphug: HAPPY NEW YEAR LADIES

NJR,
You are welcome! I hope your New Years was as good as it could be. Here's wishing a much better 2005 to all of us! I hope that you have a great visit in February. Please let us know how it goes. Take Care and God Bless!

-Lisa

NJR,if they have family visits that start on Thursday maybe you can leave family visit on Sat. take your stuff to your car and have regular visits on Sat and Sun. That way you can see him for 5 days. I KNOW it is not like having a family visit for all 5 days but it is something. I can understand your point of view since I got BLASTED for saying that I felt sad because I missed my husband even more after my family visits. In camp visits are longer and I appreciate the extra time that we get and all I can say is make the most of the time that you do get. :thumbsup:

Thanks So Much To All Of You Who Support Me And Unserstand Where I Am Coming From!!!!!!

Mrs. L: I Will Be Going In On Friday And Come Out Sunday Morning. Take My Things To The Car And Then Go In For A Regular Visit. The Only Days You Can Go In Is Tuesday And Come Out Thursday(which Would Leave Me Out There For 2 Days All Alone Before I Could See Him For The Regular Sat/sun Visits) Or Go In On Friday And Come Out Sunday. I Guess I'll Just Have To See How It All Goes For Us. We Appreciate Every Single Minute We Are Blessed With!!!!!

Thanks Again For All The Support Everyone And I Totally Agree With Tomi Castillo!!! We Should All Be Supporting One Another And Not Bashing Each Other.

Happy New Year Everyone!!!!!

Just be thankful you even get family visits. My fiance didnt know the consequences when he pled guilty to a deal the da offered him on a dv charge against me that never happened and in return they would drop several other drug charges. he figured that way he'd go serve his time real quick and get back home to me..yeah right...no family visits EVER because of that on his record...i am not allowed to visit, and he is not allowed contact with me while on parole...so i think 2 days with my fiance would be the best damn gift from God that i could ever ask for...try looking thru glass in county and then no visits AT ALL while he's down or contact for the next 3 years on parole...5 days....sheeesh

Just be thankful you even get family visits. My fiance didnt know the consequences when he pled guilty to a deal the da offered him on a dv charge against me that never happened and in return they would drop several other drug charges. he figured that way he'd go serve his time real quick and get back home to me..yeah right...no family visits EVER because of that on his record...i am not allowed to visit, and he is not allowed contact with me while on parole...so i think 2 days with my fiance would be the best damn gift from God that i could ever ask for...try looking thru glass in county and then no visits AT ALL while he's down or contact for the next 3 years on parole...5 days....sheeesh. NY to Cali...shoot I'd walk it if it meant i got 2 days with my man...heck i'd fly to the moon just to even feel his touch. So think about what you do have and how lucky you are compared to others who arent so lucky...thanks.

ok I am going to get on my bandwagon now.
The reason people that come from a distance GET more time is BECAUSE they can't come every 30 days, the cost of flights, hotels, car rentals and so forth is outstanding. Plus realize it's a car rental that is just going to sit.
And about our choice to be away from our loved ones??? Not always sometimes your career which is the ONLY thing our loved ones has takes us away from them and we HAVE to support ourselves, our children and HIM/HER!!!
I think it is fair when someone can up and move down the street from their loved one and still get visits weekly and family ones on weekends.
JUST MY OPINION, but that one got me going!!! lol

Maybe some sort of maximum days in a given period? Like, you could have a 5 day visit once a quarter, or 2 days visits every month. Keeps it sort of equitable and yet makes allowances for distances. I live 3.5 hours away from where we had family visits, but I had to take 2 days off work, drive down there with gas prices the way they are, leave my kids with no car, pay for our food. Doing that every 30 days was simply unreasonable. So I ended up with less visits than I could have had.