Well my baby has been home for 2 1/2 weeks and we have gone through a difficult adjustment period. He was told to find a job in 30 days or he will be locked up, is on house arrest (ugh) and I was already stressed financially. Despite this I have found a few things that help when things get rough:
1) don't expect to always agree- listen to each other's opinions and either compromise or agree to disagree
2) constantly remind the other person why you love them- we wrote each other a list of things we like about each other physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally
3) explain things that are bothering you in a calm, non-blaming matter
4)don't bring up past arguments- forgive and leave it in the past
5) give each other space when emotions get high
I hope this list helps some of you out there. I will let you know if I think of anything else.:D

Good Idea to start a list. I will try to think of some and post them as well. My husband is on house arrest too. But we are getting through it. It is so much better than him being locked up.

I do have one key thing to keep in mind. You have to have patience with these men just getting out. With all the appointments and waiting that we have to do you will definetly need it.

All great ideas. I try to remember those during rough times myself.

Thanks,
patty

That's great advice for any relationship!

Thanks for posting it!

thank you. Joe will be home in 9 months and I am gathering info... LOL, great advice!

I think these are great things to remember. My fiance has been home for approachig 6 months and we still have moments, days and weeks where I want to slap him silly, but it's all part of his adjustment. We have had some struggles and major ups and downs. The one thing I try to watch myself when we have a disagreement is to not raise my voice or yell a lot. It really bothers him because he hear so much negative yelling and screaming when he was in. Most of the time if we are have an arguement the only thing he will say once I get every thing out off my chest is "fine, but please stop yelling at me! I just can't take it!"

As hard as the struggles and trials of these times can be for us, I also try to remind myself that he was been through something that is going to mess with his mentality for the rest of his life no matter what happens now or in the future, he has experienced something very intense and that I can not change.

Great list! Mine has been home two weeks and we have dealth with some of the things on that list!
Also remember things will get discouraging (As they have started to for us)but try and not let it get you down,just keep on plugging away and support him the best you can and try to keep his attitude positive