I was and still am very happy that Sam is home and no longer in prison. Adjusting to everything is very difficult. We weren't living together before he went away and he came home to me and my family. Things aren't always peachy but we are working on it.

He was away for less then a year and he finds it difficult to be around people. I had expections and I should not have. I know communication is the key to any relationship. I'm trying but its difficult...

I pray that in the coming weeks things will iron themselves out.
Peace,
Sam's girl

CONGRATULATIONS ON HIS HOMECOMING!

YOU KNOW I WAS JUST TALKING TO MY SISTER IN THE LORD ABOUT THIS. WE NEVER LIVED TOGETHER EITHER AND I KNOW THAT WE WILL HAVE TO BE PATIENT WITH EACH OTHER WHEN HE COMES HOME TO ME. I AM NOT GOING TO HAVE ANY EXPECTATIONS EITHER AND WILL JUST HAVE TO TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. BUT IT DOES SOUND KIND OF FUN THINKING OF HOW WE WILL DISCOVER EACH OTHER ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL....I CANT WAIT.

I PRAY THAT YOU TWO CONTINUE TO GROW AND THAT YOUR BOND GETS STRONGER EVERYDAY.

It takes alot of work, love, time and patience. And then you gotta do it all over again! LOL Just keep doin' the things that work best in your relationship. I know that for me when he first got home all was WONDERFUL and now 3 months later we are ironing out some real world problems we didn't have to deal with during his incarceration and it has cause a lot of stress for both of us. Having said that I wouldn't trade a moment of our time together. We're making this journey together...

I wish you and yours much joy, happiness and love...

All the best,
Patty

Oh, Patty, girl you said it: it takes A LOT of work, love, time and patience!! It's like they are away for so long that they become immune to real world issues/problems and the things that we as women and single mothers are dealing with while they are away. They forget what it's like to pay bills and all that stuff.... Sam's Girl, communication is definitley the key! It's a must. I'd be crazy (for real) if we didn't talk about things as they arise.... however, I am so blessed to have him home, here with me. These problems are minor in comparasion to what it was like living without him. Best wishes to you all.

We don't live together but still had some adjustments to make.The first couple days we were a little on edge and irritable (Me much more then him) but since then everything has been great! We talked about it and that really is key to working things out at least with us.Get it out there in the open and move on!

HI ALL, I know exactly what you ladies are saying, and I'm dealing with 2 son's just coming home at the same time! It can be difficult. It's like time has stood still for them both. They're trying to get use to the home enviroment, learning to use the pc again (use to have aol) now got dsl and they are trying to get there own place and going through approval from PO's and just a lot of work I really do love them and they seem to have there head's in the right direction but as we all know it's gonna take a lot of love, patience and understanding. Someonethere

I just wanted to add that it takes a lot of work, love, time and patience on his part too cause I know I can be a handful!!!

Best of luck to everyone,
Patty

Agree with everyone. I have to tell you I really believe in PATIENCE. I am having a hard time with that. He will come around and things will be great. My husband was only gone for 1 1/2 yrs. and it took him a little while to come around but he is doing so much better. It just takes time.

Good Luck to you and yours
Salena

Sam's Girl
I miss you in NY...and I hope things are working themselves out. ;)