Ok gang where to start? Man oh man things are good but also tiring and emotionally draining....I have a few spare minutes so will give ya a quick rundown.

I love my guy and he is attractive to me no matter what but I have to tell you the last year he spent in the SHU did a number on him :( he is very skinny,very pale and looks 10 years older then he did when I last visited him only 6 months ago! But as I said he is my honey and thats all that matters it was just very shocking to see him look so worn out ya know?

When he first was released he was kind of overwhelmed and a little timid of me! The past few days the grocery store,video store and restuarants have been big ordeals for him.Not bad at all just so much to see...He spends forever looking at things and trying to decide oh and my driving scares the sh*t out of him LOL!!

He was a little shy at first and wanted to be around his lil bro so we had him over to my place last night for dinner and football,they had a great time bonding again,that was nice to see.

I didn't push anything of course I was dying for the physical contact but I let him make his own moves in his own time and when he finally did last night it was beyond awesome :) and has been ever since (hee hee hee)

Spent all day today running errands,visiting with his PO,shopping for a court outfit (He has court Thursday regarding his kids) and yes we squeezed in some "loving" time LOL

He is with his Mom right now and I am headed back up there (30 minute drive) to cook dinner,watch movies and spend the night as he is not allowed overnights anywhere but his place of residence for now

Things are great but its not all a bed of roses to be honest.....My emotions are high and our personalities clash on ocassion but its not something that can't be overcome.The best part is although it has been years it is like we were never apart we are very comfortable and natural with each other


Lots more to say but I can't type anymore I'm so tired and need to get ready to head back up there!


Will fill ya in on everything I missed and everything that is to come in the next few days when I get back online (Probably Friday night)

Cali, I am so glad that he is home. I know that you must be on cloud nine. Just keep doing what you are doing with him. You are showing alot of love and patient. My prayers are with both of you. Love Jeanne

:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

So happy to hear it! Best wishes to both of you!!

(Been dying to see this post!! :) )

:) ~ENJOY~ :)

Congrats, Cali! I bet you haven't come down to Earth since you laid on eyes on him, have ya girlie? Enjoy your time together!

Lisa, Glad to see that he is home. How long was he down for all together?
So now the *big question* is: Does it matter that you didn't dye your hair blond? ;)

Keep us posted!

Thanks for updating Cali. I'm sure that "LOVING" was as sweet as h***!! ;) No wonder youre so exhausted!! :p I'm glad things are going good. Im really happy for you. I wish you both the best for the future.

Tracey x

Sounds like it's a good thing:):):):):):) so glad for you!

Hang in there girlfriend, you're doing a great job. He'll be looking as young as he acts soon, he he he.
I am so happy he is finally home.
Just take it one day at a time.
Time heals everything, and eventually you both can put the experience you just went through behind you.

Do me a favor and tell me all of this when Jimbo gets out in Jan. 7, 2006, because I will probably be going through the same thing you are.

Pauline

Enjoy! I want to be happily tired for a change.:D

Your new siggy is perfect Cali! Congratulations to you both!

How awesome! I am so glad to hear everything is going smoothly, and I can't wait to hear more.

Congrats!!!!:yay: That is just great news!! I am glad to hear that you are taking it as it comes...not rushing anything!!! Just continue to be open and in time he will come completely around again. It's hard looking at how exhausted they look...but his youthful look will come back. Stand by him...but keep yourself in mind too!!!! I'm glad to hear the loving was good....man, I am jelous!!!!:dance: Best wishes to you and yours. Hugs:p
-Jackie

Hey Chica.. Glad to hear things are going well.. Tell Matt I said WELCOME HOME!!!! I can't wait to hear all the good mushy stuff.. hahaha..

love ya!!!

TeRe

Girl, I hear you on the SHU doing a number on him. My fiancee has only been in Ad/Seg (the hole) for 4 months and he is very thin, pale as paste and is losing his hair. That's what love is about...loving the person for who they are and not what they look like. I am so glad to hear you guys are doing good and being patient with him. I bet everything looks so high tech to him now huh? Well, keep us up to date from time to time. Oh yeah and I love your new siggy! :thumbsup:

Awwwwwwwww Cali ~ I am so happy for you. It sounds like all is well so far. I'm so glad to hear it. =) Just continue to do what you're doing and I'm sure things will be okay. Keep us posted. We love the happy homecomings!!!!

All the best all the time,
Patty

Congrads! I think we all await the day you just had!!!

I agree with Cracknegg...your siggy says it all! Take it slow and enjoy the ride! Always keep us posted!

Been watching this thread, couldn't wait for you to check in, girl! So glad it's going well :D

Oh Cali.....I am really really glad to hear he is home......I know we all wonder what it will be like when they come home.....I know its a little weird right now, but you are strong and you will make the transition. I know you are thrilled to have him back.....
YOU GOT SOME BOOTY!!! WOO-HOOO!
sorry....I had to do it!
Congratulations honey really I am so so HAPPY for you!
Let us know how it goes, okay???
****************HUGS******************

congratulations cali, many years of togetherness for you both.

I am so happy for you both that you are together and free (well I suppose almost free...but at least out of prison)!
May all your best dreams come true.
Big Hug

I just had to come back on AGAIN and say how exciting it is!!

Don't feel bad about the hard parts... I am sure I would so weirded out at first, I think that is natural and normal and part of the nature of sudden freedom! oh, and of love, too... :D

I am so happy for you. It sounds like you are doing well...rolling with the punches and having realistic expectations :) I am sure things will get easier with time and the stress will diminish to nothing.

Congrats on finally having your man home :)

AAAWWW Cali, we are so happy for you......... I wish you and him ALL the best.Enjoy.................. :o

I have been dying to know how thngs were going---glad they are going well!! Yes I am sure there are trying moments but hey thats life---your man is home!!! Hope court goes well. Keep us posted.

ONE

Wow cali, sounds great !! I couldn't be more happier for you, I bet its just been a little overwhelming on the both of you..Great news you had for all of us, Can't wait to hear more..Hope the adjustment process gets smother..God Bless you both!!

Stay Happy........

Awww Lisa thats wonderful :) I am glad that Matt is finally back home to you again... I can't wait to hear more on how the sex is...haha :) I am sooo JEALOUS gurl I want my hubby back home.. Like I said girl you have been waiting for him to return and finally he is gosh,, you must be on cloud 9 still Good luck :)

This is wonderful news.
Best wishes to you both!

Cali!!!!!
he'll get his weight and color back..and, his personhood back..

the shu is brutal and inhumane..
all your loving, and kindness...will restore him!!!

it sounds like he came out of it fairly well....all things considerded!!!!

i send so much love, peace, joy, and everlasting togethernesss for you both!!!

IN THE FREE WORLD, ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So why aren't you going to be back online until Friday?? Too busy??;)

I'm so happy for you!! It makes me so excited just to read about someone elses homecoming. It really sounds like you have good intuition regarding what he needs/doesn't need and the same for your own feelings. That's good because you won't get your feelings hurt or take things personal that are only about culture shock. And I'll bet he feels your understanding - you're going to do great! Best wishes and keep the stories coming, ok???? :yes:

O.K. , we'll wait until Friday for the complete story since we have no choice, but we want it all from when you left off to go get him!! And in the meantime, congratulations!!:thumbsup:

Congrats on him comming home. It will take some time for both of you to adjust.

Cali, Im so happy for you!!! I know its going to be a little tough, but girl, if you made it through his bid, this will be a piece of cake. Ok not really a piece of cake, but you know what im saying!

Awww Cali!!!!!!! I am so happy for you!!! You are so deserving of this happiness! I am so glad you got all ya lovin in! :thumbsup:

He will get used to things dont worry, it takes time!

Come keep up updated, especially on the SBB!!!!! LOL

I am so happy for you!!! you enjoy your man,, every bit of him!!haha:)
I can just imagine how emotional you are.. have an awesome week and make many many memories!!!

WOO HOOO!!!

I know you are just on cloud nine now huh? Enjoy it all and love him all that you can you know he needs it!!!
Congratulations!!!!
I am kind of new here but how long was he in?
anyhow I am happy for you both!!!

yay!! Cali I am so happy for you guys :D . Welcome home to Matt! Keep us updated. :thumbsup:

cali!! i am so happy for you and matt :D i can only hope me and my matt have as great of a reunion. keep us filled in! i was so happy to see this thread:) ~ash

I'm so happy for you!!! :yay:
Good luck & God Bless!!

Awww...YAY CALI!!!! I'm very happy for the both of you too!

WELCOME HOME MATT! :D

The day you have been waiting for has finally arrived. CONGRATULATIONS and WELCOME HOME to MATT.

I see you are still running and hyped up, which is not a bad thing. Just keep taking those vitamins and take care of yourself and your honey. :D

It's good to hear that things are going okay for you guys. I think this is my biggest worry about my husband coming home after being in prison for over 17 years. He has a lot of readjusting to do and I just hope that we don't kill each other in the process!! LOL. But hang in there girl, he needs you now, alot!

Tammy

I am sooo sooo happy for you!!!! It makes me glad to see your happiness, even though there are tiems when it is hard for you too!!!! You will both be OK...All my love to both of you!!!! Have fun!!!!

Congrats Cali,
Happy reunion!

Congrats, so happy for ya!

ENJOY!!!

I have a quick second while he is in the shower....Today was hard...Long day trying to take care of a lot of business....we both got frusturated with each other and he told me "You are starting to irritate me" and I said " As you are irritating me" ya know what? We laughed and went on our merry little way,just got it out there and moved past it.
Things are GOOD they really are but I'm a freaking wreck,so emotional I swear and I am honest and told him I am feeling all wacked out and he told me just calm down,slow down,it will all be fine.

Tomorrow will be another trying day with court but after that we have the rest of the week/weekend to pretty much relax until I go back to work Monday and he starts work for a few days with his ex Step Dad.That is one thing I can say about him he is on it,handling his business right out of the gate,looking for work and finding something temp already,taking the iniative to do whatever it takes to get his kids including offering to check himself in to a 6 months rehab etc.He is really serious about everything he said while away and for that I am a very lucky woman!

Be back when I am home alone to go into more details

I am happy things are going well for you Cali and I hope the two of you are getting some quiet time together.

I have been anticipating your post AND it is sooo great! Glad you 2 are having fun and I bet it feels good having to wait until your alone, to post more!!! WOW!

I just wanted to check in on the scoop. It is so great to hear that he is keeping his word, and taking full responsibility of his life so far. I hope my homecoming updates are on the same track as yours when mine comes home. I can't wait to read more.

I am so very happy for you guys!! And don't worry about the weight loss, I am sure you will " fatten " him up soon!! Just keep praying together and you guys will make it! God Bless You !

hey Cali!!!!
what a blessing he is willing to go to rehab...i think this can make all the difference...copiing in the free world is so different, as you know then in there..
and, taking responsibillity for building his life!!!!

i am sure your sstress level, will mellow as time passes, and you see that he is staying clean, and you two grow in your relaationship...

also, going from the shu, to dealing with people in society...is going to be challenging..for he had to adapt to the isolation, and lack of stimuli etc.

much peace and love to you both
francis

Cali, I am very happy to hear of your reunion. And thanks also for being so "real" about it and not making it like everything is a bed of roses!

Things will get better for the both of you, I mean look how much work you put into this. And I agree with Jeffs Princess on this one..


love ya babe! take care!

Cali, I"m so happy for you! :DI hear you on the irritation and emotion (overstimulation ?) too. Sounds like you guys are managing it all really well, though. Hope things settle in for you. And whatever the court thing with his kids was, I hope it worked out for him.

I'm happy for you. I hope things keep going well and that you can calm down. This is great news.

Cali~ I am so happy to hear everything is going great for the two of you. Congratulations on his homecoming. Isn't the feeling great!! I hear you on the stress and running around. I am on the go from 5am-8pm. He has an appointment all the time and antabuse and UA's. But I just keep in mind ~ We are doing it together now.

Congrats again and enjoy!!

Thanks for the update. He sounds like he is trying to do all the right things. I wish the both of you the very best. I love reading you homecoming updates. Gives me hope--I guess right now I am living thru you.

ONE

I cant wait to hear tonights update..I hope everything is still going good for you both I'm so excited..God Bless

Day 5 is history and things are good :)

He is busting his butt trying to get his life on track again.We have been on the go,non stop since Monday afternoon! I'm very proud of him,he has managed to get a lot taken care of thus far.This week was easy as I was on vacation and could take him places,next week will be harder as he hasn't gotten his license back yet and will have no transportation but he got himself bus passes today so he can continue doing what he needs to do in order to get his life back together and to try and get custody of his children.

He had a few dissapointments today with his PO denying him a day pass to go visit his Dad out of State which he had previously ok'd and denying his request to enter a rehab he wanted to go to as it is a different county BUT overall he has had a lot of sucess and made a lot of progress this week.Lined up temp work,got his ID and SS cards,squared away a previous child support issue,went to his fist court date for his children and did well (The attornys for all parties were very impressed with him and the progress he had made in just 3 days),lined up all the classes and counseling he is supposed to do as parole conditions and family court conditions etc.

Things have been tense at times and honestly it is more me then him,he is adjusting well.Our issues or rather mine with him have nothing to do with his incarceration they are actually issues I had before we split up and before he went to prison and I guess I put them out of my mind the years I was missing him then with being so happy were back together and missing him still but they quickly resurfaced once we were together in the flesh again.Is it something I can deal with? Yes I think so.We have talked a little about it and are both on the same page we love one another and want it to work,these issues are not something that will break us up.

As far as prison related things go he has had no problem adjusting to sleeping with someone in the same bed again as I thought he may nor really much of anything else.He does get pretty amazed by how much things have grown and how much more expensive things are in just the 2 years he has been away.He does wake up every day before 5 am as he did in prison and he talks to himself a whole heck of a lot mainly in the morning,something he did a lot of in the SHU.I find that odd but don't blame him nor hold it against him in any way,you gotta do what you gotta do to keep sane in there.

Amongst all the errands and running around we have squeezed in some good quality time...spending some quite time at my house,snuggling on the couch watching tv and movies,writing his boys back at Pelican Bay,showing him the pc and internet,shopping,lovemaking,lots of eating (He has gained about 5 pounds back already) etc.

Sunday I am making lunch here for his entire family (a very large family) and he and I will spend the day togethar after that.Monday I go back to work and we won't see each other as much as he is not allowed any overnights and we live about 30 minutes from one another ,with me having the only transportation it is hard but its allright we will make it work!

Thanks for all the details, Cali... overall, it sounds beautiful and real and you have a great thing going... so happy for you! Keep filling us in on all the reality... :)

Congratulations on your man being home..

Thanks for the update. It sounds like things get better and better each passing day.

Something else I thought I could add.....His biggest issue with me thus far is it annoys him to no end that I rush,I drive fast,I want to take care of business and get stuff done pronto and while he is handling his business he sees no need to be in a hurry all the time.It really bothers him,he doesn't understand why myself and all other people can't just relax and take things as they come.I'm working on trying to chill out a bit for him as I can see his point and why it gets overwhelming to him

that might turn out to be a blessing; you might find life feels good a little slower!

Cali,
Glad to hear everything is going great. I hope things work in his favor in regards to getting custody of the kids.

ONE

Thanks girls :)

It is an emotional rollercoaster that is for certain.I have had very high highs this past week and a few lows.Today I am feeling tired,worn out and like I want to cry.I know why I'm tired but I don't know why I feel like crying, I guess it is all just a bit overwhelming at first for both of us.Today he is spending time with his family and I am spending time alone to try and relax and get caught up on things around home and PTO.It's a very odd feeling to feel like your life has changed so dramatically in a week and to know it is going to keep on changing.It's not a bad thing at all,change is good but it has also always been hard for me and I guess it will just take me awhile to get readjusted to being a couple again and to having so much more to consider then just me and what I was used to in my life which was being alone and only having to worry about my responsibilities.

I can understand that CALI! (yup i got it right!!) I wonder how I will do when my guy finally gets home...and I worn him all the time that I have spoiled myself rotten doing what i want to do, when i want to do it...I know he thinks thats funny, but its scary to me!!! I dont know if i remember how to compromise or NOT have things my way!!!

Cali I drive fast and handle mine as well. It can become intimidating to one who feels they can't keep up. Not saying that's the case, just my opinion.

Neway, change is good. Keep doing your thang and keep love in yor heart and it'll be ah-ight. AH-IGHT?

P.S. I'm trying to watch my speeding. ;)

Cali, I can't beleive I missed this post. But I wanted to say Congrats on him being home, I am sure things will settle down soon and you will won't feel so overwhelmed and tired. I do wish yall all the happiness.
Much love,
Brandi

As always thanks everyone :)

Today was our first day apart this week and I miss him!! But he will be here bright and early to spend the day and evening with me tomorrow and his family will all be over for lunch as well.

Hope you enjoy the time with his family tomorrow!!! Hope this week goes well for you.

ONE

Cali....I am so glad your man is home! I know things are a little weird right now, but you are a VERY strong woman and you will be just fine.....You have what it takes girl...hang in there....I know it must be overwhelming but it will get easier....Love ya and if you ever need me, I am here
~Katie

Had a great day today :) We spent all day at my place,he mowed the lawn,raked,swept the porch and sidewalks,cut bushes etc while I cooked a huge lunch for his family who came over for a few hours then after they left we enjoyed the rest of the evening alone until I had to take him back home

Cali...that sounds great! I am glad you had a good day! Hope you have many many more good ones!
~Katie

CAli, It's wonderful you two are spending time together.I bet he really cherishes doing the everyday things you know..you guys are so blessed..Keep it that way! take care can't wait to hear how today goes:)

cali, i am so happy for you and matt. i hope it only continues to get better and better, you have lots of strength and determination girl.....yall will make it! ~ash

I haven't talked to him yet today.I went back to work today and he rode to work with his Mom and was then going to take public transit to go make a court date for his drivers license and run other errands.I am not going to front I am a little nervous that he is out there alone for the first time since coming home BUT I have faith in him and believe he will continue to do the right thing and not get mixed up in any of his past habits.I miss him though and can't wait to talk to him this evening when he and his Mom return home.I'm hoping he made more progress today on the things he needed to take care of as that will make him happy and give him a continued feeling of success!

It's going to be hard with us living apart (he lives in another town about 30 minutes away) and me being the only one with transportation right now but it will all work out in the end.Hopefully his PO will start granting him some overnight passes to my county within the next few months.Until then I'll just drive up there on ocassion after work and see him on weekends.

Whoa back the bus up!!! okay if he' using Mass Transit buy him a monthly pass it's the best bang for your buck, said the gal who manages system statistics for our local Mass Transit District!!!

It's scary, I feel ya Lisa. But they gotta make a way for themselves, as a mom it's almost for me like the changes my kids went through. We want to do everything for them and yet they need to do things for themselves.

Keep the faith honey,
Patty

It's scary, but they always find a way to take care of themselves...

Yep thanks girls :) Patti,he did get a monthly pass btw
He had another productive day after clearing up more old busines he is one step away from his license back! Yippee :) When he called me he had just worked out,cleaned his Moms house and was going to bed as he has another full day tomorrow with appointments with the kids social workers and so on!
I'll see him Wensday,going to drive up there after work and spend the evening with him.
I'm so tempted to say MOVE IN WITH ME but I/we are taking it slow before we make that step as we want it to be right not rushed ya know and there really are a lot of things that need to be done before we do that (car,job,outcome on his children etc.)

Good idea. Take it slow. It will all be okay! Congrats on things working out. I wish you the best of luck!

That's right, Cali-
Those of us whose men are coming home a little at a time may be luckier than we know- it gives us a chance to adjust to being with them on the outside again without that sudden traumatic change of having them live with us- even if they did before. Even good stress is still stress. Mine will be out of the halfway house on Thursday, and finally all the way home. So far, so good- he has handled his business better than I thought he would. He has a pretty good job, and he rides the bus to get there- I hope he doesn't have any ideas that that is going to change when he moves in!! I love him dearly and I will do anything to help, but no more Mommy! He can take care of himself AND me for a change!

Cali~ I just read that you are 30 minutes away from him. Girl that is how I was too. When he got out he got ISP living with my parents. I live in a different town. I know it is rough. But it does get easier. I wound up just moving down there and commute everyday to work. It is easier now though because he is able to commute with me and work up here. But we stay in Pueblo and sleep there. Give it time and it will all work out. It is a 30 minute drive for me as well.

Well he did more good things today :) Signed up for the classes he is supposed to take,went to a NA meeting,arrainged visits with the kids through the social worker,applied for more jobs etc.Tomorrow he is going to a temp place to see if they have work then we will spend the evening together and Thursday evening together after his parenting class.He is doing it all by bus(a good hour plus ride each way) and not complaining a bit! I'm really proud of him :) He has some work lined up for Friday and Saturday with his ex step dad also to make the $ he needs for his license and to get the kids and me some Christmas gifts.I told him not to worry about me but he insists its our first Christmas together in years and he will be dammed if I don't get a little something.He also made a remark tonight "You just might get married out of this deal" LOL I just said "If it is meant to be it will be" as I am NOT pushing anything because I know he was a little frightened of all the serious talk we had been doing

I'm so happy! Things are going so well,better then I even imagined they would be!

SO happy for you, girl.....I love hearing the good stuff!

I am so happy for you Cali it sounds like things are going great.

Congratulations Cali! It's so good to hear how well things are turning out for you. I wish you the best. May you and Matt find the happiness that you both deserve.......

Hugs,
Missy

That is so awesome! I hope my boy acts as good as Matt does when he comes home in 4 months.

wow Cali, Everything is just fallinf into place,I can imagine not seeing him that day bumed you out, But like you said you and he both got a lot accompished..I am proud of him and you..You are doing the right thing by taking it slow during this readjustment period.I'm sure it has it's ups and it's downs:) But keep the faith it's all about one day at a time..God Bless, I look foward to hear more continued sucsess:)

I am so living thru your post.. it makes me excited for the time when my Matt comes home... y'all are so blessed and I pray he continues to make much progress!!!! :) I am sure y'all will make it.. it is a beautiful story that I love reading!!

Everything sounds, great, Cali- it's all about the attitude, and it sounds as though he has a good one!!

He just called and is doing some volunteer work at a local church,they will trade him his counseling he needs for the social services issue regarding the kids for his labor around the church which is a blessing because we didn't have the money for weekly counseling sessions.They also have a gym he can use which he is very happy about!We are going to go to the services tonight and meet with the pastor.Tomorrow he starts his parenting classes and then we are going to finish up our Christmas shopping,come home cook dinner and watch Survivor before I have to take him back home :)

Cali,
Everything seems to be working out so perfect. I am so happy for both of you.
God in fact takes care of us.

ONE

Nice to know somebody is happy! Continued congrats!

Thanks.Things are going well still but hit a few roadblocks today and things are getting a little frusturating with the job search and transpo to and from all the classes and counseling he MUST do as conditions of parole and conditions of preparing to possibly get his children back.I'm plain worn out physically but know I'm very lucky that he is home and doing so well!

He left messages for me this morning on my cell and home phone "Hi pretty girl just wanted to say I hope your having a great day and I miss you" :) (Even though I was with him last night........What a sweetie!

Ya'll be patient--its a hard time of year to find a job. But after the new year starts maybe it will be easier. I am really proud of him for working so hard to get his kids back---I hope it works out as he has planned.

Enjoy.

ONE

OH YESSSSSSS!!! I am so happy for ya Lisa!! :D :D :D

glad to hear all about it... keep on filling us in!

Congratulations lisa i wish you to the best

He is in the kitchen cooking me lunch right now as I relax :)

What is he making- is he a good cook? Glad you are getting a chance for a little relaxation- you deserve it!:)

How sweet, I can't wait until R is cooking for me again. I wish him luck with the job situation it is a tough time of year to be on the hunt but I am sure things will pick up for him soon. Glad you guys are doing ok and he is taking care of you!

OMG you guys! The pan of grease went up in flames and he got second degree burns all up his right arm trying to get it out as he was so concerned about my house.I called 911 and they came out and assessed his burns then went to the ER where they cleaned and dressed his burns etc.,he is sleeping now.My poor baby! He isn't even worried about himself and the pain.All he is concerned about is my house (stove top burned and carpet ruined in one spot) and him not being able to start work on Monday due to his arm

We are so,so lucky though.It could of been much,much worse! I am so thankful he is ok besides one arm.Thank god he is allright.I just feel freaking terrible for him! had a kind of bad day yesterday and now this!

Cali I am just glad you guys are ok. I bet that scared the crap out of you both.

Oh Cali, I'm so sorry this happened. Thank God it wasn't worse. I'll be praying for a speedy recovery.

Thinking of you and Matt,
Patty

I hate it when stuff like this happens! I am very glad it wasn't worse, but am sorry that it happened. I too wish a speedy recovery.

Dont let the Devil get ya'll down. Hopefully he will be feeling better and can still go to work on Monday. The carpet and stove can be replaced Matt can not.

ONE

Yowch! Burns are the worst kind of pain! You are right, it could have been so much worse. Hope things go a litle smoother from now on.

OMG.....glad he is okay. Don't let the devil mess with you! Go take care of your baby! All will be well!

awwwww...poor guy! ouch! well i hope other than the singe yall are doing well. much love, ash

Hope he is feeling better. And everything is still going strong for the 2 of you.

Thanks! He is doing well,says the pain isn't to bad at all thank god.He is keeping a positive attitude and is at his Po's right now then has a job interview,his temp labor job starts tomorrow(Maybe the boss is a big flake already and its ex family lol) but regardless he is doing good.

Congratulations on the home coming Cali. :)
I just found this post. I'm so sorry to hear about his accident with the grease. I will be praying that all goes well with his burns and job and children.
Happy Holidays to both of you :grouphug:

Oh, let us know if there are wedding bells in the near future :rock:

Cali, glad to hear that, hope you both are doing well :)

He got a job today :) It's only part time Friday,Sat. and Sunday but that is what he needed right now with all the kids court dates and classes he must take during the week
I'm just so proud of him he has to walk 3 miles to work and 3 miles back and before he would never even consider this as a job (pizza place) as he ws into dope and making fast,big $$ but it just proves how hard he is really trying! The hours stink for us as we usually spend weekends together since I work all week and he takes some classes on week nights but we will make it work somehow! I'm so proud of him and so happy because getting a job this soon out of the gate just really keeps him thinking positive!

Congrats to you both!!!

Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!

YES !!!!!!! (congrats on the J O B!!!!).

DAMN GIRL I WISH YOU THE BEST. CONGATS ON HIS RETURN HOME NOW IM IN THE PLACE YOU WAS IN...WAITING FOR MY DADDY TO COME HOME:) NO MAS LE FALTAN 5 DIAS :) WHICH MEANS HE ONLY HAD 5 MORE DAYS LEFT AND IM SCARED.


5 MORE DAYS TILL MY BIG HEAD COMES HOME!!!

YAY CALI!!! :fb:

Girl that's the best news I've heard today. I'm so glad he found something. It really will make a difference. :D

Tell Matt we all said Congratulations!! I am so very happy for the both of you, things are really falling into place.

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cali that is great! good job matt, with a burned arm and everything! thats what i call a trooper!!! ;)

that is so awesome.. i wish him the best of luck on his new job!!!!

Thought I'd post a little update :)

Things continue to go well! He goes to his job orientation tomorrow and after that I'm making dinner and we are going to spend the evening together watching movies.

Things are moving right along with his childrens court case,he has done everything and more the courts asked of him and has a decent shot at getting custody of them when this is all over.He gets to spend Sunday with them as well as Christmas day/night which he is thrilled about.

Christmas eve we will spend together at my house.We see each other about every other day which is working well for us,we miss each other some but it's the best we can do right now with the dustance and transportation issues.

He is doing all of his classes/counseling/testing for parole and the kids court case and is being Mr. model citizen :)

When he is here he really enjoys doing all the things he couldn't do while he was away and was to messed up on drugs to care about before that like yard work and stuff! It's nice to just hang around the house with him and do that kind of stuff.As well as all the other stuff we can do around the house hee hee :)

Things are just really good between us.It is like we were never apart for the years we were split up and the years he was incarcerated.Everything is just good and I'm pretty dang happy!

And his arm is starting to heal up and thankfully not hurting him much.

oh cali that is so WONDERFUL to hear!!!

Hi Cali,
I haven't had my computer for more than a week. The first thing I did when it was plugged in again was check your thread :) I'm so glad for y'all that it is going so well!:D:D:D
Congrats on the job, Matt!

Thank you very much :) It means alot that so many people care to read my story and give their support to our continued sucess!!

It thrills me to read your thread. It is so great to hear about the magnificent turn around he is making with his life. My boyfriend went to prison for drugs as well, and I am hoping he will follow in the footsteps of Matt when he comes home soon. It is great to hear that you are so dang happy. Please keep passing along your great news.

Hey Cali! I know I havent been here in a minute..but I did read over some of the last pages to catch up. Sorry about his arm but good to know he is healing well!
CONGRATS on his job! That is wonderful!!!! I hope nothing but the best for you two! :)

Glad things are working out. Sounds like the holidays will be nice for you. Good luck and take care!

hey sis! anymore updates on you and matt? hope you are doing good over there!

It's been a few days so thought I'd update ya all :)
Not much new to report,everything continues to be good here :) He has started his job,gets to spend time with his kids and in general it is all good between us and with him and rebuilding his life!
Looking foward to Christmas! He keeps teasing me about going shopping for me,can't wait to see what I get LOL
I won't get to spend a lot of alone time with him but thats ok what time we do have will be precious and right now it is very important that he is there for his kids spending time with them and that they know he loves them and is trying to get them home.

Thanks for the update Cali....I am so glad things are going good...you hear some real horror stories ya know???? But I am sooooo glad things are great...and I am GREEN with envy over the Christmas at home thing.....LOL...my time will come!
~Katie

aww..I bet he is excited about Christmas! that's great! thanks for updating girl. take care!!

Today is his one month home anniversary :)

Things are still going well! His arm is starting to heal and he gets his drivers license back tomorrow as long as he passes the test lol.He has been out there applying for all kinds of jobs,doing his 2 classes every week,and getting to spend time with his kids.

I get a kick out of him(In a good way) and how serious he is about me and us.He had a moment of insanity before he got out and said he didn't want serious and was trying to put demands on me about the way he wanted me to look.I haven't changed a thing in fact I got heavier and he doesn't care.Lately he has been telling me how much he loves me and how in love with me he is just out of the blue.I had to laugh last night when he got all mushy,when he asked what I was laughing about I said " Look at this you wanted me blonde and skinny and ya didn't want to be serious but here I am brunette and fat and your crazy about me" :) He has also been bringing up the subject of living together quite a bit and he calls me daily just to wish me a good day and tell me he misses me etc even if we were together that day so yah things are good,real good! I'm very happy

Very Happy for you!!!

AWWWW Cali that is great that things are working out so well for the two of you. and that he has learned what uncondtional Love really is!!!! That is wonderful!!!!

Cali,
I am so very happy for the both of you!!!! Sounds like things are getting pretty serious--I wish yall the very best.

Happy New Year
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Cali ~ It goes without saying that I am happy as can be that things are going well for you and Matt. Thanks for the update, keep 'em coming.

Continued success and many blessings to both of you,
Patty

Cali-

It's always so uplifting to hear good stories about when they come home! I'm happy to hear that everything is working out! Keep updating us!! :)

Cali- I am so glad things are going well! I think that you are a wonderful, strong, person who deserves great things! Keep the updates coming !

LOL @ your driving scaring him. I never had thought about that before...The things we on the outside take for granted sometimes huh? :)

Thanks all :) Love you all!

Pics of he and I at my Moms

Hey Cali ~ great pics, y'all look too cute!!!

Hugggz,
Patty

Aww...Cali I'm so happy things are going good for the both of you. It's nice to hear a happy ending. Oh yeah and nice pictures, especially because they're not prison photos!

aww, what a couple a' cutey-patuteys! ;) :p

Wow, you two look cute!!!!!!! Congrats and best wishes for continued love and success!

Today is his one month home anniversary :)

Things are still going well! His arm is starting to heal and he gets his drivers license back tomorrow as long as he passes the test lol.He has been out there applying for all kinds of jobs,doing his 2 classes every week,and getting to spend time with his kids.

I get a kick out of him(In a good way) and how serious he is about me and us.He had a moment of insanity before he got out and said he didn't want serious and was trying to put demands on me about the way he wanted me to look.I haven't changed a thing in fact I got heavier and he doesn't care.Lately he has been telling me how much he loves me and how in love with me he is just out of the blue.I had to laugh last night when he got all mushy,when he asked what I was laughing about I said " Look at this you wanted me blonde and skinny and ya didn't want to be serious but here I am brunette and fat and your crazy about me" :) He has also been bringing up the subject of living together quite a bit and he calls me daily just to wish me a good day and tell me he misses me etc even if we were together that day so yah things are good,real good! I'm very happy

THIS IS GOOD TO HEAR SUNSHINE. This is the kind of post i wanted to write. I'm happy for you. Also... girl you are not fat. Get outta here witall dat. :D Y'all look nice together.

Cali, hey, sorry, I've been missing your updates, but glad I caught up with them. You stop being hard on yourself, you aint fat girl,,, you all look very nice and I am so glad to hear that he is excepting you rather than trying to change you, that means YES he loves you,,, that's a wonderful thing. And I pray that all goes the way he wants it to with his children and I think you'd be a great Step Mom.
Kesha

Congrats Cali - that is awesome. You meant PHAT not FAT right???? :D Happy New Year.
Jenny

Thanks all :) Love you all!

Pics of he and I at my Moms

Cali,

You look GREAT! Thanks for sharing with us...I will live vicariously through you! :haha:

Congrats Girlie, How I Can't Wait Fa That Day!!:)

Congrats!!!!!!!!!! Everything sounds so good for you. I am glad to see you happy. I hope it all continues for you! Good luck and God Bless!!!!!

Congratulations Cali. You two look wonderful together. I wish you both the best. :)

you two are so beautiful hope your new years was too!

Thank you,thank you,thank you :)

Honestly sometimes I sit here and think "Wow it is really happening,things really are good... will it stay this way?" I can't dwell on the what if's though I have to just be positive and believe in my heart things will continue to only get better! So far so good!

I'll be spending the day/eve with him today just hanging out,cooking dinner and watching movies.On Monday he is going to ask his PO for a weekend or at least overnight pass to my place for next weekend so we will see what he says!! Hopefully it's YES but I'm prepared for him to say NO if he does.
While M is grateful his Mom opened her house to him it is getting rough on him being there as he has developed some negative feelings to his Mom's parenting style... long story (She has other kids at home) and he has a teenage brother who comes home on weekends from a group home and it is rough on M because the teenage bro is pretty wild (bad attitude,into trouble etc) and M doesn't like to be stuck in that situation.His brother comes home full time in June and June is also M's next court date for his kids to see if he gets them or just what will happen so we will have some decisions to make regarding living arrangements before then.To be honest that will be a huge topic as there are so many factors to consider (are we ready?,where will we live because of parole I dont want to leave my area but he may not be able to transfer,will his kids accept me if he does get them full time etc.) and I'm sure you will be hearing all about!

I just saw the pictures and y'all look so awesome!! I am so happy things are going well for you two!! :)

Aren't you two the festive little couple - love the pictures! I am glad to hear everything is still going great. That is too cool.

He got a job today :) and he swears this one he will not quit no matter how stupid they make him feel,he will learn it and excel at it!
Everything is still good (besides the cat issue lol) just the same ol same ol nothing new to report besides the job! He gets to have his kids again this weekend so that is good also as it always it!
I'll get to spend tomorrow evening with him after one of his classes and some of this weekend with he and the kids also.

That's such great news Cali- shows how really determined he is for him to get another job so quickly! What is the job and how did he find out about it?

Girl, you are NOT fat! If he complains again, I'll be glad to send him a picture of me and let him know what fat is all about! He'll learn to count his blessings PDQ! I think that is so sweet that you are concerned whether his kids will accept you- many women (me for one) would be thinking about whether I wanted to accept someone else's kids into my life when making the adjustment of being together is challenging enough. Hope he appreciates you!:thumbsup: (and great news about the job - sure is nerve wracking when they're unemployed!)

Congrats on the new job. Hope everything keeps rolling smoothly along for you!!!