Well, I decided that telling him how I felt was the best option. He finally called friday night and I told him that I felt pushed aside and very left out. I said that maybe I was being selfish, but that's how I'd been feeling. When I told him I just didn;t know what else to say(he never responed to A word of it) He hung up the phone on me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm outraged :angry: !!! I realize that he is working an exteme amount, but all i did was say how I felt!!!!!!!!!! I can't believe I stood by this man. Even if it only was 4 months, I didn't have to I chose to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What do you even say to behavior like that?!:mad: I haven't spoken to him since.

J

Honey I'm sorry you have to go through this.
How long ago was it since he hung up on you?
:grouphug:

Honey I'm sorry you have to go through this.
How long ago was it since he hung up on you?
:grouphug:
It was friday evening when we last spoke, so it's been three days. :( All because I thought it better to be honest about the way I was feeling!!!

It was friday evening when we last spoke, so it's been three days. :( All because I thought it better to be honest about the way I was feeling!!!
It always is best to be honest!!! Obviously he couldn't handle that, I mean, why else would he be acting like an immature jerk?
Sometimes I hate men!
Stay strong, we're all here for you!

I'm sorry you had to go thru that. To trust in someone and then have them treat you with no common courtesy is completely devestating. You probably feel used and rightfully so.

What do you say to behavior like that? I say better to find out now!

My grandmother always said, "A leopard doesn't change it's spots"

Looks like his true colors are shining thru loud and clear. You are the better person, you will survive and thrive from this learning experience.

God bless you....Pipkin

I'm sorry you had to go thru that. To trust in someone and then have them treat you with no common courtesy is completely devestating. You probably feel used and rightfully so.

What do you say to behavior like that? I say better to find out now!

My grandmother always said, "A leopard doesn't change it's spots"

Looks like his true colors are shining thru loud and clear. You are the better person, you will survive and thrive from this learning experience.

God bless you....Pipkin
Thank you pimpkin. Your Grandmother is wise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so sorry that he is doing you this way. I can't imagine what it is like to wait on a man and like you said you CHOSE to do so you didn't have to, and him do you like this ,that is not being a good man at all. Honset is the best way to go and if he can't handle it then he don't need you. I wish you the best
God bless you and yours
Brandi

I'm so sorry that things aren't working out as you had hoped they would. I wish you many happy tommorows. You'll get there!

Be brave,
Patty

I am so sorry that he is being a tee total jerk to you. You don't deserve that and yes it is good to always be honest. That is how you communicate. If you don't then you end up holding all inside and it explodes one day and trust me from experience it is not a pretty sight. Just know that you are in my prayers and thoughts. I wish you the best. Love jeanne

((((hugssss))))..i just went thru that...the second i told him my feelings he flipped..and didnt call etc..give it time baby..but don't give up if a part of u wants to hang on

my man is stubborn..he's terriffied of relationships and deals with them by walking away..but u gotta give it ur all..maybe its a prison thing that they dont know how to deal with issues..bcuz ive never tried so hard as i did this week..

as much as i hated him for reacting to me this way..he dont kno any better..so i will help him understand how relationships work..

i hope it all works out for u..remember..time is the key to all of this !

Wow, that sounds JUST like what I'm going through. My boy just did 4 months and he's been out a week now..he's only called me once and hasn't bothered calling me again or even wanting to see me. I know he had a ton of stuff to do first, but I feel like I wasted 4 months on nothing, so hang in there. Hopefully things will get better.

Well, I decided that telling him how I felt was the best option. He finally called friday night and I told him that I felt pushed aside and very left out. I said that maybe I was being selfish, but that's how I'd been feeling. When I told him I just didn;t know what else to say(he never responed to A word of it) He hung up the phone on me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm outraged :angry: !!! I realize that he is working an exteme amount, but all i did was say how I felt!!!!!!!!!! I can't believe I stood by this man. Even if it only was 4 months, I didn't have to I chose to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What do you even say to behavior like that?!:mad: I haven't spoken to him since.

J

I wrote him a letter as to how i was feeling (pushed aside and very left out) and read it to him. He had NO COMMENTS. Then he wanted to read the letter for himself. I think "they" need extra time to process all that is coming at them. I'm sorry your honey hung up on you and things are not as you'd like them to be, but it's going to be OK. :)

Give him some time. I know you feel hurt but maybe he will come around. Just remember what is meant to be will be! I am sorry you are going through this!

I'm sorry things didn't work out.But we must remember that the Lord has everything under control and he is the one that is responsible for everythingin your life, But look at the brighter side everything happens for a reason, Behind every painful oblsitcal is a beautiful blessing..Everything is going to be alright, I can promise you that..We all have times like this in our lives.We just have to crawl from the ruble and make a stand for ourselves and start over again, a fresh new person..May God Bless you today, and everyday that follows..I'm sorry, May God comfort you..HUGS

There are 2 kind of men....ANGELS and A**HOLES....

All you need to do is decide which one you think he is. Men DO need more time to process things. So take that into consideration.

And then decide...
Is is an really an angel at heart, but just reacting like a typical man?
OR
Is he a total thorn in your side that gives you more greif then he's worth?
We all like to think that we have angels, but if you scan through this website, there are alot of women that have been there from A-Z for their man....only to get burnt in the end. There are users out there. Don't allow yourself to fall for no games...cause then "he" walks out the winner. "He" had the support when he needed it, and now "he" has the freedom when he wants it....

I'm sorry for you. I don't have any answers for you, as my own sitation is messed up. Take care and keep your head up!

KACE :)

thanks scary's girl (oops... this isn't my post :D).

But Daddy is really an angel at heart, but he is acting like an a**hole. Therefore I still love him, but i can't be with him. Basically, it's over between us too. I can't say he won, because i was/am the prize. But "He" did have the support when he needed it, and now "he" has the freedom now that he wants it....

Thanks ladies for all of your thoughts!!!! I'm not quite sure what I can do about the whole situation. I was reading A thread on this board about the male to female translation, it was so funny but at the same time sad. I think thats what happened to me except he tried to translate my words into male talk!!:rolleyes:

"I feel like I'm being pushed aside"
Translated......"quit ignoring me you F****** A******!!
"I'm just Alittle upset right now"
Translated......I outta kick your F****** A**!!!!
So wasn't my intention, but they are men after all!!

J