well today was the end of this case. I am not going to complain but at a the same time I am not going to get excited. I am rather disappointed but at least it is over.

When anthony came in he looked at me and did not even smile.. I just figured he was tired from the bus ride or something. The da is trippin.. She said she is not dropping the charges due to how bad the other guy was hurt. So fine what ever. She will not even drop it to a misdominer.. So here is what we finally got..

2 years in prison, on a felony count of agg assult with serious bodily injury. He got credit for like 1 year and 4 months. The sentance is stacked (consecutive) with his current sentance so I am not sure what baring this is going to have on the parole board. We were not happy but the da dropped the 2 enchancements for him.. If we fought it would have been a min of 10 years with the enchancments so we decided to just do it.. I told his attorney to tell him to take the deal..

Let's face it regurdless of why he fought he did fight. he also did hurt that guy pretty bad so I figure our chances at trial would not be to good.. I think we did the right thing and now we can focus on the parole aspect and know what is going on.. I am bummed but hey it could have been worse..

When we was leaving the court room he still did not even smile at me.. He was very cold and shallow looking like he was mad at me or something.. Maybe his attorney told him not to look at me or something.. they did not like that I got on them yesterday and his attorney told me today that they were pissed. who cares they are only mad cuz they got caught with there pants down. That is not my fault.. SO OH WELL>>> I got him there and that is what matters

I know how it feels to be forced into a deal-that is the way I feel things went with Stephen...I am sure he isnt mad with you-must've been stressful for him ya know...everything will work out in the end hon, just keep your head up..it will get better...you know we are hear for you-if you need anything! BIG HUG!!!

thanks I needed that .. I am just trying to do what is best for him and I hope he realizes that. I am really looking forward to our visit this weekend.. I need to talk to him.. I have not been able to mail him letters this week thinking he was gone. So I know he is frustrated that he did not get much mail last week and so far none this week..

Oh Shortie...my heart goes out to you. I don't he was mad at you....he probably was just frustrated with the whole ordeal. Also, who knows what was said to him. Sit down and write him a letter about the whole thing, your side of the story and just tell him you love him no matter what. I'm sure the thought of having to spend more time doesn't sit well. Now is the time to communicate...don't let him close up on you. Juan has a tendency to do that to me some times when he mad, hurt or anything...he will withdraw and close up on me. I have to fight to get him back out.

I'll be praying for you.
Take care
Joy

Thanks for your support is appreciated very much

shortie it took me years of practise but I finally learned this.
If they do not tell me that they are mad or upset with me and tell me why then they are just mad about something else.

I watch them pout, frown, throw temper tantrums, and it doesn't bother me any more because "IT"S NOT ME" (unless they tell me so)

It would take too much time and effort to try to guess what is going on in someone elses head and what I could have done to cause them to be mad.

SO don't worry about it. Anthony is just upset and mad for everything else not you.

Shortie,
I'm gald that thing worked out atleast as best as they could and I agree with the evidence you stated it was smart not to go to trial. We all know what a mad DA can be like. So for now just stay strong and pray for the best with parole. My thoughts are with you both.
Michelle

thanks I am looking forward to this visit so that I can talk to him it was hard to see and not even be able to say hello.. I just sucked and then to top it off i was irrated with the whole thing anyway.

Shortie.... I too am feeling for you... but like you and others have said, I think you got the best outcome possible, and it could have been worse... :( Still hard though.....
Anthony has just been through the wringer and it is hard to get a consequence when you don't feel like you really deserve it... I am sure that he was in a position where he felt like he had to fight.... I am sure he is also worried about the impact this will have on his parole and was probably frustrated that he couldn't actually spend time talking to you when you were so close... I hope you all get everything straightened out this weekend... I know you will.... A lack of communication can result in all sorts of problems and communication can iron them all out quickly!!
Hang in there hon.... You've gotten a few, and will get a much better one from Anthony this weekend, but here's one anyway..... ((((((HUG))))))))

SHORTIE-JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW I AM THINKING ABOUT YOU--AM SURE ANTHONY'S FRUSTRATION IS NOT DIRECTED AT YOU- I KNOW THIS HAS GOT TO BE HARD ON BOTH OF YOU-BUT YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT-AND WE WILL BE HERE FOR YOU ALL THE WAY.

SHERRI

thanks for the hug i am glad you sent it my way.. I sure did need it. no letter today:( I can not wait for my visit tomorrow.. We need to talk to bad right now.. LI am looking forward to surprising him and leting him have our special visit.

Shortie,

I will keep both of you in my prayers. Make sure you tell
Anthony how you were feeling yesterday. I feel it is always best to keep thecommunication open.:) :)

anthony and i are always talking and that is one reason that our marriage is so great.. I love that we can talk to each other about anything.. It is nice to be that comfortable with someone that you have no walls or bounderies. Except those imposed by the state of course...

Shortie,I am so sorry I was not there for you.I had a death in the family,and am still in New York.I feel I have let you down,and I am truly sorry.I will talk to you when I get back to Texas.God Bless You.......................Spencer

Can't wait to hear about your special visit Shortie!! :)

Shortie:

I have not seen you post today about your visit this weekend. How was Anthony? Hope you had a good visit and talked and talked.

Here is a great big Hug for both of you from North Carolina.... Keep your strength. You did the right thing... Sometimes they get very flustrated at so much because they always have to be on their best behavior while inside. They cannot release any of the tension by letting their anger show.

Just Love Him and things will be O.K.

My Love
Donna


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Here's a second hug from North Carolina-let us know how the visit went!
sherri

THANKS FOR THE HUGS TRUST ME THEY ARE NEEDED RIGHT NOW AND I DID GET THEM.. I POSTED ABOUT THE VISIT UNDER THE VISITATION TOPIC (i think). IF NOT I WILL LET YOU KNOW IN A LITTLE WHILE..