You know that book about miscommunication between the sexes titled "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? Well, after reading so many posts about homecomings that don't live up to expectations, I think inmates might be from a different planet altogether. I think when they say "I can't wait to come home", we hear, "I can't wait to be with you at last" and what they really mean is, "I can't wait to get the hell out of here!" :blah: Apparently they need bars around them to bring out their sense of romance!! (More translated phrases: "I don't know how I would make it through this without you" = "Send me a money order"; "You are so beautiful"= "I'm really horny today"; "All I want is to be with you"= "Fire up the stove and the big screen because my homeboys are coming over"!!!!!

LOL, LOL!! This is a funny post but sad because a lot of inmates are just using women to pass the time and then when they get out they become another human being. This isn't fair to the women who really love these guys and who spend time and money on them. I hope some women wise up before they get hurt.

TAmmy

That Is So True. I Agree With Tee 100%

My man's homie's definitely come in third: ME, FAMILY, FRIENDS...Period. I am lucky this I know and an exception to what unfortunately seems to be the rule. I can't explain why my man is different from others I only know that he is.

Stay Strong,
Patty

Okay, this is too funny b/c men definitely have their own language and they expect women to decipher it. Then when they don't, they look at the woman like she's retarded b/c she didn't get it:confused:

Ju and I have very open communication, so I'm cool in this area. There have been ones', boy I swear...... you would need an English to Male Species translation book :ha:

Men do have their own language. Couple this w/ being at the retreat, and a whole new language is born.

I can say that my friend has been consistent w/ what he said while he was away. I am the one who often causes the drama, b/c at times I find it hard to believe that someone that has been away can be forth right, etc. I know that I am blessed, and I need to stop tripping.

This evening, I mentioned my nephews drank all the egg nog. He went out looking for egg nog. I didn't know this until he told me to get my coat and meet him outside. He asked me where could we get egg nog at this time of night. I was moved. I told him that we could get it tomorrow.

I have to learn to rest in my relationship w/ this man, b/c I truly love him and don't want to push him away.

"I don't know how I would make it through this without you" = "Send me a money order"; "You are so beautiful"= "I'm really horny today"; "All I want is to be with you"= "Fire up the stove and the big screen because my homeboys are coming over"!!!!!


Bahahaha! That cracked me up! I'm not there yet but will let ya know for sure my own (or his rather) little translations when the time arrives

i couldn't agree more !

now i never sent him money he never asked, but what he said on the inside, i'm sure he meant except now he doesn't value it

it's like he's home..so it's ok to fight, to take little things for granted..in there they learn to appreciate every little thing.."i wanna be with u", " i wanna make u happy", " i dont ever wanna make u cry"..i'm sure he does..but now there's awhole other level of drama attached to it !

great post !..deff. made my day a little easier =)

These are so true. I am soooo greatful my man wasn't one of them. He is the best thing that every happened to me. He doesn't even want friends because he feels they are nothing but trouble. As long as he has my son and I he is happy.

Sad but too true!

I laughed, I cried. In fact i'm still laughing. I got to pint this out for my baby. He's going to Houston and it really is for the best, but i ain't trying to continue acting like he is a king when i cannot be treated like a queen.

Selena I kinda wish my baby was like your honey, but if that was the case he wouldn't be him and i may not love him the way I do.

i couldn't agree more !

now i never sent him money he never asked, but what he said on the inside, i'm sure he meant except now he doesn't value it

it's like he's home..so it's ok to fight, to take little things for granted..in there they learn to appreciate every little thing.."i wanna be with u", " i wanna make u happy", " i dont ever wanna make u cry"..i'm sure he does..but now there's awhole other level of drama attached to it !

DITTO!!!

Sickofprisons the thing that keeps Daddy and I loving is our "communciation", willingness to listen and honesty.

TEEDEE I feel you on my baby becoming a different person because sometimes it seems as though he has. It would be really sad if he was using me to pass his time, but (Patty) i think my honey simply misses his family and old friends who actually didn't give a flying flute :D about him while he was locked up, but loves his axx to death now that he's free.

As for women wising up before they get hurt... I agree with you, but I don't think it's that simple. You try not sending money thinking that will be the tale tale sign. Or "interviewing" his family and friends. Or some even have married or knew them before incarceration. It gets really complex with all the different circumstances and issues. Even the wisest woman (such as myself) could get hurt. LOL A prison affair is a risk pure and simple because people change. And that happens in all relationships just really.

I know I know... you were talking about men who do a complete 360 degree turn around. But i had to put my two cent out there.

Peace Out Y'all

Oh man....I am feeling this. I used to get letters. Cards. All the romantic words and sense of humor. Now it is like we are in two different worlds, but in the same house. I just don't understand. But right now I cannot let it bother me. Good luck everybody and stay strong!

Maybe they need to be locked back up for a minute... ROFLMAO

No i'm just kidding. :rolleyes: lol

They need to be left the hell alone. LOL

I crack myself up.

Happy Sunday People :)

LOL @ MissOne....

I have some post incarceration musings for you...

You don't have a job yet and I pay your cell phone bill so if I call and you do not answer and I do not receive a call back within 15 minutes I feel it's safe to assume that I can go ahead and turn your phone off as your next girlfriend must be wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy more interesting!

Tell your dad that the word is incapacitated not incarcerated as forever more when you are sitting on the toilet I don't want to have your dad use your name and the word incarcerated in the same freakin' sentence!!!

When you step to my front door on Wednesday morning don't trip over the garbage cans I ALONE put out last night!!! Good boy, nice boy, points boy... ROFLMAO

Sorry I couldn't resist!!!!

I love him,
Patty

Y'all are rotten! Patty you never fail to make me laugh. I got one for you that used to drive me crazy-
"what do you want for dinner" -he said
"when are you going to start dinner"-he meant
"Reservations"-I said
"Reservations"-I meant
Have a wonderful Sunday!

Y'all are funny!!!

I really think they should have family counseling once a month and then intensive a month before release. They've gone through some seriously life changing events so they are going to be different people. The trick is to work on intimacy while they are in there and get counseling once their out to get them adjusted.

As one of the few men on this support group I'll be happy to translate and man speak you are unsure of ;-)

Fight for what you want! Stamp out Apathy!

Well, prison is like another world, as is Uranus, so you definitely got a point there sickofprisons!! :D

These are so true. I am soooo greatful my man wasn't one of them. He is the best thing that every happened to me. He doesn't even want friends because he feels they are nothing but trouble. As long as he has my son and I he is happy.

LMAO!!! this was a year ago...and listen to me all...Oh my man loves me...blah blah blah...Well he does love me but oh how things have changed in a year. I definetly agree with the Romance one now....his romance went down the drain:blah: