Help!! Can someone please tell me how to help my neice she is 16 and I just found out last night she is or at lease has been doing drugs. I dont know all the details but I know she did coccaine this weekend:angry: I am lost here, I did the normal thing like screaming which was probably wrong. But I really never expected this out of her, she has seen it hurt people close to her. I'm sure I am not the best person to be trying to lecture her because I have never been there. So can someone please give me some advice... She has really no structure in her life which is probably 80% of the problem she lives with me and my bestfriend (two different houses) she babysits for her everyday but keeps her belongings at my house which is right next door. Her dad-my brother is a lost cause and wont believe it and even if he did there is nothing he can do she dont even see him. She doesn't go to school and she has a very bad boyfriend who is 4 years older and in jail for drugs!!! I've tried to seperate them and that is just not happening! Her friends that she did that with this weekend were all why to old; 21,23,29 to name a few and I didn't know this till she returned! I flipped once I found out what they did and if they have half a brain they will never talk to her again and she is very upset about that which I dont care but stillI need to know what else to do how to help her I dont know if she is addicted or anything she just says she done it a couple times!! Please any advice is appreciated! Thanks!

Why isn't she in school? Do you have any other options on moving her out of the area?

I dont know how to help. my nephew has and is addicted to speed. we knew he was on something because of all the stuff hes putting us through. he eighteen and knows everything. its hard and there not going to listen. I have no advise but i understand what your going through.

I am assuming some one has legal guardianship of her, If that's you then you really need to put your foot down and put her into drug rehab/intervention, if that's not you then you need to convince your brother to put her there, she is only 16 and if she is not emancipated then she has no choice in the matter(depending on state). Some one needs to be a parent in this situation and take control of this young girls life, becouse she is losing her own control.

With out help of some kind she may or may not be able to turn her life around....plus she's taking care of little kids and is on these kinds of drugs.....not a happy thought.

I dont believe she is doing it all the time well I know she isnt because I knew something was weird because how she was acting last night! The fact that she is watching the kids scares me silly! I do not have custudy my brother does but he isn't going to do that because like I said before he doesnt believe it for one and two doesnt think she is that bad... she isn't in school because she dropped out at 16 in Florida you can! She is definetly going down hill! I am going to talk to her more tonight but she is really pissed at me! Thanks

Keep trying to make her understand how scary it can really get, and how much you love her. Maybe have her do a research paper as a consequence? I'm sure lots of people here could help her find out a thing or two...
You say you haven't been there and neither have I really, not addicted anyway, but I think a mistake people make in talking to kids is, they fail to acknowledge that AT FIRST, drugs feel like FUN. It's only later that the situation bites your jugular wide open.
The kid thinks "What do they mean, this is bad?" when they've only ever dabbled- if all they here from the grownup is how it'll make you miserable, and their experience is of a "great party." don't know if I am making sense, but it was a recovered addict/former undercover cop who told me this and it makes sense to me

I understand your pain.. the question is IS she experimenting? or is this a everyday/week thing... the bad news is she is going to have to hit her own bottom.. you can give her your love, info, support, tough love.. lock her up in her room.. however she HAS TO MAKE THE CHOICE.. provide some counseling to her ask her if she will go to a na/ca mtg.. maybe she will get it.. other than that pray .. and LET GO and LET GOD.. i am sorry ..about this loss.

Peace
Donna

I would look on the NA website for help/suggestions. There are great supportive people; at least there were when I visited it 2 years ago. I imagine it has gotten even better since then.

I'd contact your local ala-teen and get her involved w/ that. Unfortunately, she'll get it when she's ready but you can at least help her to get a seed planted. I suggest alateen because its geared towards youngsters who are both addicts/alcoholics as well as children of addicts/alcoholics. Maybe even try a few CA/NA meetings in your area.

Good Luck!

I started using those kinds of drugs that young and I"m a mess. It was fun when I was young but took me by the cahones and make my life, and the life of those I love, a living hell!!!!

Dang hun, this needs to be nipped in the bud, literally! My man is in prison because of coke. It is a powerful drug and very very very addictive. He needed a fix so bad that he was breaking into businesses to supply his habit. I don't want to see this 16 year old have a messed up life too. My man is totally turning his life around and realizes now that he HAD a problem. He was very skinny too, looking like a skeleton, his face all sunk in. That drug just takes ahold of a person, very easily. I'm not trying to scare you, I really don't mean to be. I just don't want to see her getting into something that she won't be able to get out of. She honestly needs to get in rehab/counseling to help her through this, even if she isn't addicted, it won't hurt. If your brother will not do anything about this, I hate to say it, but you may need to take it apon yourself to get children protective services involved before it IS too late.

Thanks all....for now we are working on improving her and what she wants I hope this works but with the promise of never experimenting again I will take her to the ged classes then to get her license and maybe let her drive my old car..... It's a long process I really do hope it was only a one time thing... she has been to N/A and A/A with her boyfriend thats the part I didnt understand the role her boyfriend plays in this because I will put him right back in jail if he is... I am very limited to my options here because I am not a parent and only 5 years older. She is on this you are not my mom kick- she doesnt seem to understand I want for her the same as my kids- KIDS now days?????? Well, thanks everyone really great advice and I hope this is the end!!