I'm not sure if I'm over reacting or not. He got home last saturday, 9 days ago and I've only seen him twice!!!!! He stayed with me that night, then I didn't hear from him until wednesday. He stopped over for an hour or two to see my boys, and it was okay but different. After that I didn't hear from him again until last night. We were supposed to watch A dvd @ my place, but he called and said he was sick. I think he was lying to me!!!!!! I don't know what to do ladies, it seems like he doesn't really want to see me!!!!!!!!!!!! Im really confused!:shrug:
J

I am very sorry to hear it. It does sound like you arent a priority to him. How long were you with him?

give us a little background about the relationship

I'm wondering if there are other reasons you can't be together as often as you would like such as house arrest or halfway house? I ask because I don't know what your situation is. If none of those things are a factor I would ask him point blank what the deal is. I'm sure you weren't expecting for things to go this way and only he has the answers you are seeking. I hope you are able to resolve this matter quickly.

Best of luck to you,
Patty

We wrer only dating for 6 weeks before he was arrested, but we've known each other for about 12 years. He was in for 4 months, so we spent more of our relationship with him in than with him here. He doesn't have any kind of house arrest, but he has been working 10 hr days since he got back. I just feel very pushed aside right know, after I supported him emotionally and ran up enormous phone bills to speak with him. It just seems kind of ungrateful, or am I just being selfish?!:confused:

J

Well I think that if you only dated for a short period of time before he was arrested that your relationship is still in the beginning stages. While for some the 4 months spent apart would strengthen the ties for others it just sort of puts things on hold. If you discussed with him what the expectations were before his release than I say discuss with him now about how he is not living up to his end. If you did not have that conversation before hand now is the time to do so if you are to move forward together. It's all about communication, once you've done that you can best decide what your next step should be. I hope things work out the way you want them to.

Best of luck to you,
Patty

Patty's right- you are a relatively short timer so it's hard to tell, so all you can do is ask. Don't be threatening, just get his complete attention in person and let him know you need to know where his head is at. Good luck.

A couple of weeks on Oprah there was a guest that she had on her show that told women five important words.

He's just not into you!!!
Sorry honey but move on. If a man make excuses to you and you know he is lying move on.

oh, i dunno about him not being into her. there could be a lot going on. 10 hour work days are pretty heavy duty. communicate, like patty says, that's the best way to go. get all the info and then evaluate

I agree with Patty, you should communicate and find out what the situation is. You don't know if you don't ask.
I wish you well!

COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY!!! FA' SHO'

i agree with the ladies..ask him straight up what the deal is..

i don't think it matters how long u've been together..wut matters is that for 4 months u supported him non-stop when he needed u most..for that alone he should be greatful

just talk it out..best of luck to u !

i believe in the fact that he should be grateful about u standing by him , and i think u are not his priority .. based on his actions now he is ** free ** , , BUT , u really need to stand by your boys (( he came to see them ?? in that short dating ,,,being together time ,,,i really dont think kids need to meet anyone a person dates )) and dont worry about him , worry about , te fact that ya boys will treat women , the way they see u treated , and if this man is ** disreguarding u at this point , he had no reguard at all to begin with ** u are raising ** future men ** and they will do what they see, keep ya head up , he doesnt deserve u !!

I have to ask a question-is he the father of the boys? I'm going to guess yes because he came to see them. 10 hour days is a long time for anyone...if he works every day then that's more than the normal "40 hour week" most of us put in...you were only with him for four months during his incarceration..just trying to get the story straight...

I would talk to him straight up. What I'm getting from his behavior is that you put in more to the relationship than he did-it's either at the beginning of a stage or it's that he's not into you. You need to talk to him, no bullsh*t, stand your ground, and be up front. If he doesn't want to stick with you, move the hell on. You can do better I promise.

i didnt take it he was the daddy , or i would not have said what i said , 6 weeks ,and 4 months , well it could be twins i suoppose ??

my point , is , children dont need to meet everyone , we meet , if it aint serious , ya kids need to be ** out of the picture ** i have a friend i am thinking has lost her mind, she met up , and fell in love with a man on death row (( okay folks fall in love )) but now she has dissappeared from his life , and he is worried about the ** future step son ** and i wonder what the ** step son ** thinks about the ** daddy ** he had for awhile , but dont have now ?? she aint talking , and i have always believed , life doesn end when u are single , but ya kids need to be ** sheltered ** in the dating , meeting process , and if ya raise kids to see u with different folks , they wont respect ya , cause all kids really hope ** mommy and dady ** will get back together , and they ** pay attention ** to what they think , will prevent that dream !!

I agree with BigBree. If he is really into her - working 10 hours a day or 20 hours a day - then he is going to make a way to see her - REGARDLESS of his circumstances.

I agree with BigBree. If he is really into her - working 10 hours a day or 20 hours a day - then he is going to make a way to see her - REGARDLESS of his circumstances.

I agree with that myself;
Either find a way or the find the HIGHWAY