For me the relationship is EVEN better than I had anticipated. I wonder how others in similar situations feel now that their loved one is home and what the reasons are if anyone cares to share.

Patty

Way better than I could have ever imagined!!! LOL Sometimes it's scary. Now don't get me wrong we had our moments trying to adjust to living together and plenty of personality clashes, but at the end of the day when that man throws his leg across me at night, everything else just melts away! Ooh la la!! ;)

MajicLady ~ That is wonderful news and I truly feel ya. Sometimes I have to pinch myself, can this be real? Yeah it can be and it is....

Crazy in love,
Patty

Although he's not living at home, he is out. We're still going through a readjustment process and will probably have more readjustments when we get married and live together again. But it is much better now than it was before he went in. I think it's because we realized how important we are to each other and what could have been lost during his incarceration so the BOTH of us make extra efforts in our relationship.

Otherwise, YEP IT'S ALL GOOD!!!

SO much better than expected.

We had a great relationship right before he went in. And before his accident our relationship wasn't all that great. But now that he is home-EXCELLENT.

The way he treats me, loves me, talks to me- It's all a dream to me because he was never like this.

I knew this whole experience was blessing in disguise.

my man is not home yet, but i love hearing yalls stories, thank you so much!! wont be long before i can post here!

I have yet to post a "now that he's home thread" and hubby has been back for about 3 months. Not all fun and games here, but I will post soon. There is just so much going on with me that i need to finish working out my OWN issues before I share with all of you what has been going on here at my house. I'll let you all know soon though, just please be patient with me.....;)

Cheryl

my ex is back in jail but the last itme he was out, he was only out for 5 monthes. for the first two monthes it was great. he tried really hard to be sober but then shit went wrong. i don't know why or what really but he started using agian and my life was hell. i had bikers showing up looking for him becuase he owed them drug money. he took my truck for like 6 days and never phoned and we lived out of town so i had to hitchhike in and out of school. finally i just packed my stuff and left. i didn't feel comfortable staying in our house. sucked becuase it was a nice house, so i took the dog and moved 2000 miles away, back to my hometown. anyway a month after a left he ended up in the pen and wnats to be freinds again. he always gets sober in prison but i am beginning to doubt that he can on the outside. maybe i'm a sucker but i said i would write him and maybe visit him when i move back to BC in May. nothing else though. so its nice to hear that things are going so well for some of you.

I voted for about the same.

Things are how the used to be before he went in. The honeymoon is over. Yes things were unbelievably wonderful for the first month or 2, but then the struggles, issues with probation, etc. and financial stress are back. We get along just great, but we bicker (sp?) a lot and fight over stupid little things he says referring to being gone and things that MAY have happened but didn't, etc.

We are both just still adjusting. He wants to do everything to make up for the time he was gone and I am used to do everything myself. I have the habit of just doing stuff, I will say "I can do it!" and he will say "Well I know you can, but just LET ME!" lol

ohh it's been HARD.. but great all at the same time. i love him so much, but things do get rough... sometimes he'll still say "This would be easier if I was still locked up" and that worries me. but we both know it isn't true.
i tried not to have too many expectations (right!) but do believe that things are going well and will continue to do so. The fact that we can work through the difficult things together proves a lot already, I think. He's pretty damn positive and inspired and well, he's just doing pretty well at home.
IT's only been a month. but everytime i see him and kiss him and even when we argue i'm so so so happy that he's home. and doing well! thaaank you!

glad to hear all the happy stories :thumbsup: i wish everybody well!

same here i can't lie..we're adjusting..one days perfect the next we have issues to deal with..but atleast now we can deal with issues fact to face whenever unlike when he was in nd we had letters..i guess it all just takes time and patience =)

I have yet to post a "now that he's home thread" and hubby has been back for about 3 months. Not all fun and games here, but I will post soon. There is just so much going on with me that i need to finish working out my OWN issues before I share with all of you what has been going on here at my house. I'll let you all know soon though, just please be patient with me.....;)

Cheryl
I can so relate to your post. I voted worse as well. I'll no more after we figure out whether or not we are still on the same page or not. But love is def in the air fa' sho'.

I voted worse and there was no hestitation. Almost the second he walked out the gate, my guess is he reverted back to the personality he used to have with his girlfriends in his former life. I don't think he knows how to have a healthy relationship with a "good girl." I have been shocked at the areas where it's been disappointing. I don't want to get too public with our personal life, but ya'll can probably figure some of it out. I had tremendous expectations, based on our letters and everything we talked about over and over for 18 months. And within 48 hours I realized I was in for huge disappointment. Now I have let go of what I expected and am evaluating whether I can deal with reality, plus seeing what can change

I voted worse and there was no hestitation. Almost the second he walked out the gate, my guess is he reverted back to the personality he used to have with his girlfriends in his former life. I don't think he knows how to have a healthy relationship with a "good girl." I have been shocked at the areas where it's been disappointing. I don't want to get too public with our personal life, but ya'll can probably figure some of it out. I had tremendous expectations, based on our letters and everything we talked about over and over for 18 months. And within 48 hours I realized I was in for huge disappointment. Now I have let go of what I expected and am evaluating whether I can deal with reality, plus seeing what can change
I can relate to you as well. :eek:

I did not vote b/c I did not have any expectations. I still don't. I just try t take it one day at a time and let things work themselves out.

If there was something in between, I would have voted.

I voted better, but like Ms. Aloha mine isn't really all the way home yet, he's still in a HWH for a few weeks. HOWEVER, this is not his first time back on the streets, and he seems like such a different man: I'm talking sober and responsible, and he actually forked over his paychecks to me without flinching- that has NEVER happened before! So, as far as the romantic side, that remains to be seen, as does the reality of day-to-day living. I've had my share of coming home disappointments, and they were all with him, so my eyes are wide open. Having said that, I see such a positive change in him that I'm not giving up hope yet!:thumbsup:

now i can say something :) i would say ALL IN ALL. things are about exactly the way i thought they would be. there have been no broken promises, no BS, just living real. there have been episodes where i think he is "behind" on things...things he should already know about basic day to day stuff that he does not, frustration over small things that i roll thru like a tide.... just small things. BUT thankfully to PTO, and lots of questions, communication and letter writing...i got a pretty good idea of what things were going to be like and set my expectations accordingly.
~ good luck to everyone :)

He's the same ole Wayne he's always been. So, I guess having him home is what I really expected. Though, I would have liked the Wayne who was in prison (the one who wrote the really sweet letters) to have come home. LOL But, that wouldn't be my husband.

He's done so well, but now he's decided that if I don't want him to hang out with the people he was in prison with, he's going to do it anyway. He just waits till I sleep, which means he's doing dope because he can't possibly work full time and stay up all night without a little help. It's falling apart. Once he gets on dope, he's a different person. So, mine is definitely worse than I expected and will probably be over soon. All I can do is stand by and watch it.