my man has been out three weeks.. and i'm lovin it... it just sucks when he sees his friends and family he total excludes me from his life. we live together so he leaves without asking me to go and is gone for hours. i'm not tryin to have him allll to myself it just bothers me that he puts me aside. he never used to do that before,(we've been together for four years) i can't seem to figure out if i'm over-analizing this or if i should really feel like sh**! he seems to love me enough when it's us! but i don't know? i feel like he needs time away from me, and that sucks considering we are spending the rest of our lifes together...
just need to get this out..... cuz im feeling bad

I'm sorry girl..I'm glad he's home but you know I think it's prob just because he's been away when he gets out he wants to see everyone.He may not even notice you are bothered by it..You should tell him how it makes you feel maybe him and you can make a few special nights per week that are for you and him only..Take care I hope it gets better..God Bless

Hey girl. Congrats on your man coming home. I am sorry that he left you all alone. I know how you feel you probably want him all to yourself...........But his family and friends love him also. So I am sure they want some time with him alone and he may need just a little time to give to them. Just give him some space. We women tend to smother our men. He will be home later, do tell him how you feel though, just try not to make an issue out of it. Nothing more unattractive than a nagging woman. You want to keep him not scare him away. So let him know how you feel, but let him have the space. What really matters is at the end of each day he is coming home to you! :love:

I would sit him down and talk to him about how his actions make you feel. He needs to hear that from you. It is normal that he should want to spend time with family and friends but he needs to take your feelings and time into consideration as well. Talk to him.

Patty

I am thinking that not only do our partners go through changes when they come home but we do as well. Emotional changes.... and that means being sensitive to things we might normally just shrug off. We want things to go smoothly, we want to know we are important to them, and we want a sense of security, so our senses are heightened when they first come home. Rememebr how communication got you two through the toughest times.... it is what is needed now. Good luck hon.

michelley,

Congratulations on your friend coming home. It's an adjustment for everyone involved.

From what I can tell, they appear to want their freedom; therefore, being able to come and go w/o notice.

When they come home, I think they feel it's all about them and often forget that we are still experiencing some emotional baggage. It's like a roller coaster. Some times you enjoy the ride and other times you ask, why did I get on this ride. :rolleyes:

Talk to him about your feelings, etc. It does get better w/ time. When it comes to being in a relationship w/ somone that has been incarcerated, the rules and regulations for us, are often different.

Be encouraged. :thumbsup:

I feel you girl.. my man tells me all the time that there's times that he has to go and take care of stuff and he doesn't want me around his friends. he tells me that i shouldn't trip on him if he takes off and start calling people to see where he's at.. I understand you. I see it this way as long as he calls you when he's out to see if your ok or just a check in call then i would be ok. Oh yeah and as long as he makes it to bed with me then it's all good.. cause there has been times that he wouldn't come home but he would call!! grr I hated that.... But you should talk to him about it..

good luck