View Full Version : Outcome of Craigs hearing- I am really angry


MyLife1020592
01-15-2003, 09:13 PM
Hi all. Well I went to the hearing oday. I have never in my life met such rude people. Needless to say that Craig is in there for a DWI and one of the parole ladies that was there is mother against drunk driving. She already had it in for him.

Craigs mother was killed by a drunk driver when he was 7 years old. She threw that in face and kept talking about it for about 15 minutes. He has always had a har time dealing with that because he seen the whole accident. He remined realy calm and I was very proud of him.

I am his home plan. 5 years ago I had a domestic violenc charge againt him. I moved out and we went our seperate ways. I had seen a big change in him and that is when we got back together. She told us that they may not approve me as his home plan since he had that charge. The further asked if we had any kids and we said yes 1. She said that if they did approve the home plan that we would I have to go to counsling. We have no problem with that. Then she said that she doubts they will. I can't believe that they would deny his home plan with us being that we are getting married and have a child. I would think that they would want him to remain living with me and our child. I thought that they were really big on the family thing.

They asked me about the assault and I was very honest. I told them that he was abusive 5 years ago but he has made a tremendious change in his life. They asked for my comments and all I really said was that he has done a lot for his sobriety by admitting himself into 2 treatments.

I am not sure if I said anything wrong or not. I talked from my heart. I guess what I am wanting opinons on is if anyone here thinks that they will not approve me for his home plan giving all of our circumstances. I just cannot see them taking him away from me and our son.

Thanks,
Jamie

emme
01-15-2003, 10:05 PM
jamie...i'm so sorry, what a stressful day...i don't have any practical answers, but i will keep you in my thoughts...

emme

danielle
01-15-2003, 10:13 PM
I wish I had some words of wisdom or knew how it worked there - all I can say is I agree with emme and we're here for you, whatever happens.

gina
01-16-2003, 08:45 AM
me too...i'm here for you((hugs))
sorry it was so stressful.
we're all in pto position for you though:)

KRIS_NC
01-16-2003, 12:51 PM
JAMIE WERE TINKING POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND HAVE ASSUMED THE POSITION LET US KNOW WHAT HAPPENS

Phil in Paris
01-16-2003, 01:02 PM
Jamie

I don't have the reply to your question, I wish I had, but I do hope they will approve your home plan !!! To me, it seems sensible to let Craig be with his wife and child !!
I'll keep you all in my thoughts
All the best
Phil

sherri13
01-16-2003, 01:08 PM
JAMIE- I REALLY HOPE THINGS WORK OUT WHERE THEY APPROVE HIS HOME PLAN- IT MAY HELP IF YOU HAD SOME PEOPLE FROM THE PROGRAMS HE HAS BEEN IN WRITE LETTERS OF RECOMMENDATION AND DOCUMENT HIS EFFORTS AND OUTCOMES --THE BOARD WOULD PROBABLY BE MORE RECEPTIVE TO "PROFESSIINAL" OPINION AND "UNBIASED" OUTSIDERS AS I THINK THEY USUALLY FEEL LOVED ONES WILL "SAY ANYTHING" --I THINK THEY WILL APPROVE HIS PLAN BUT PROBABLY WITH SOME STIPULATIONS (COUSELING ETC) EITHER WAY HE'LL BE HOME WITH YOU AND IT'LL BE "ALL GOOD"

lulu
01-16-2003, 01:23 PM
I can only imagine all that you had to go through. I am so sorry. You will be in my prayers

tebkrg
01-16-2003, 06:33 PM
Jamie,

I am soooooo sorry to hear that you guys went through this. We will support you through this and hopefully someone that knows the parole system in Missouri can shed some light here? I am just starting to learn about it and cannot help with wisdom right now.

For the time being you are both in my prayers and thoughts!

JodyAnnShaw
01-17-2003, 10:29 PM
Jamie.... I think Sherri made a good suggestion. I think those letters may prove to be helpful.
I'll keep you in my prayers, and please keep us updated.

Jodygirl

MyLife1020592
01-17-2003, 11:56 PM
I will definetly keep everyone posted cause I will either be really happy or really mad. You never know about me. It just depends on the day. Thank you guys for the support. I am trying to brain storm up some ideas about what all I can do. You guys have great ideas.

Jamie

JacksGirl
01-18-2003, 03:19 AM
Jamie you and Craig are in my thoughts. I wish you both the best of luck.


Sharon

LucidDream
01-21-2003, 04:15 AM
Jamie, I will keep you both in my prayers, and I hope that he will be able to come home to you and your son.

Cindy