View Full Version : The Final Countdown


nrgonzales
10-25-2004, 10:23 PM
Hello Everyone,

I am fairly new here, I wish I had discovered this place from the beginning. My husband is incarcerated and has been since 1/04 he is getting out on 2/8/04 and it seems this final countdown is seriously dragging. I met Eric after he got in trouble but before he went to prison. I got my degree in criminal justice and have worked for the courts or law firms for years. I always said I would never date an inmate however love had different plans for me. Nobody at my work knows the truth about Eric, I put up his old army picture and tell people he is in Iraq. My family knows and a few select friends also know; so as you can see I am very lonely. I never thought I would hate weekends and love work. I am in charge of the Domestic Violence division at my court and we are very busy it makes the time fly, its at night and on weekends when I am here pouting all alone that it really gets to me. Eric would have no problem with me going out or to friends but I just dont want to. Not to mention if one more person says "three months left, thats nothing" I am going to scream. Granted I am thankful that that is all we have left but to me everyday is a day too many. I need him home so bad, at night I cuddle a pillow that is covered in his favorite shirt, we write each other practically everyday and I keep all his letters in an album...I try to focus just on the future and the stuff we are going to do when he comes home; even grocery shopping together sounds amazing! Of course I look forward to that first night and lots of love making...I am taking two weeks off work and the joke is that I am going to come back bo-legged and knocked up (neither of us has kids) but truth betold I am most looking forward to that first morning when I roll over and he is there, really there asleep...I just had to let it all out. I try not to cry too much in front of him or let on that I am seriously depressed..I just dont want to make things harder for him...Is anyone else near the end? Do you feel like it is seriously dragging?

Nicole

Princess8384
10-25-2004, 10:33 PM
Three months can seem like a lifetime when they aren't home...no time is short enough compared to having him home with you....and I know how you feel...I never go out anymore because nothing seems like fun without my boyfriend being there with me...Keep your chin up....It'll all be over sooner then you think:)

marcsbaby
10-25-2004, 10:58 PM
I am not at the end, though I wish I was! I am just at the beginning :( It sucks so bad...the pillow thing and the album thing, all of that is so familiar to me, and I am sure a lot of us...welcome to PTO and i hope time flys by for you and for us all!

JJsGB
10-25-2004, 11:20 PM
Welcome to PTO nrgonzales! As the time gets closer, the days will seem to drag more and more. Before you know it, he'll be right there laying next to you holding you tight. No time is ever easy. It's never the same as having them right there with you. My man is getting ready to be transferred for his final treatment and then he's eligible for parole, so I guess in a way we're nearing the end. At times, the days go by so slow for me and other times they fly by. I don't have any words of wisdom for you, but I do have you in my prayers. He'll be home with you soon and this wait will be just a memory. I will pray that the time you have left remaining flies by so you can be wrapped in his arms.

Take care.
Tana

trysha
10-26-2004, 12:24 AM
i am near the end...my boyfriend gets out dec. 10th and it sooooo...feels like the days are just dragging by. i try my best to keep myself busy which isn't too hard between school and my job. the crazy thing is my bf is sooo...close to being out but he seems to have lost his mind. i guess he's just anxious and ready to get out...you can't blame him. i don't understand why but for me the hardest part has probably been towards the end...i guess it's that we just miss each other so much and all we want is for this all to hurry up and be over. anyways...i hope your days go by faster!! good luck!!

e_wife03
10-26-2004, 01:06 AM
I want to say that girl hope time flies for you. for i am only on 2 years and much more to go..unless we get this appeal approved then he will be home really soon.

Sweetness
10-26-2004, 12:07 PM
Welcome to PTO girl... take comfort that he will be home sooner than you think girl, and hang in there! (((HUGS)))

MissOne
10-29-2004, 10:32 AM
The final countdown..... You had me there for a minute. I thoiught i was in my own thread but...

CONGRATULATIONS on your man coming home and WELCOME to PTO. When time seems to stand still try to focus on the positive. It helps me :shrug:

Enjoy the time you will have with your honey. I plan to do the same.

Kace
10-29-2004, 04:12 PM
Keep your head up. There is never an easy answer and no one can tell you how to feel. Just be strong and hang on, because it WILL be over and you WILL be okay!

amos'girl
01-16-2007, 11:08 PM
I know what you mean. 3 months seems like an eternity waiting for the one you love. My 28 year old son is in a Va. prison. 4 years. He has 5 months left to go. My fiancee is also in the same prison with also 5 months left to go. My fiancee has been there for 13 years. Do you know of any assistance they might be eligible for when they get out? Any info you may have would be greatly appreciated.
I hope you enjoy your two weeks when your man comes home.