I had a few drinks and got pulled over for speeding :slap: and got arrested with an OWI. I had to use all the money I had saved to put towards an apartment for when my man gets out, to get bailed out. Just what I need, More Stress :banghead:. I'm already freaking out over a medical bill I have to start paying on from a fall I had (from drinking) and hurt my neck. I don't make much money, I work 2 pt. time jobs along with going to college full time. I was so stupid to go out, I knew I should have just stayed home! Jim's not gonna be too happy when I tell him about this :shake:. And for the last few weeks, I've been trying to stay sober, it's not always that easy. I was doing pretty good for awhile, then I just lost it you know. Now I just have to work harder at it, it's too bad it came to this. I feel like such an ass!!!

So sorry to hear about your troubles. Don't beat yourself up over it! Take it one day at a time on the drinking. Remember your priorities! So sorry to hear about your troubles. I don't know how much time youhave remaining until his release to save more $, but you did it (saved $) once, you can do it again. Take care and stay focused on what is important.

Yana you have touched my heart with your problems because my daughter has had similar problems and they all stemmed from the alcohol. I have learned so much about alcoholism in the last couple of years and the one 100% positive thing I know about it is that it is most definitely a disease. I didn't used to believe that but please believe it too and know that there is help to beat it. Please see a professional at a public health facility and determine if you are an alcoholic, and if so, get treatment. The solution sounds so simple...just quit drinking...I know it isn't simple. I have seen the horrors of my alcoholic daughter drinking perfume and mouthwash when there was no alcohol available...noone wants to be like that..noone chooses to be like that...honey ask for help please..it isn't your fault...

I am very sorry to hear of your troubles.
I have to agree with you that it was stupid on your part (I am trying to say it without judgement). Sounds like you have a drinking problem that can only get you in worse trouble. Can you seek out professional/AA help?
I have never been there so I am not the best person to offer help...but I am sure that there are others here who will be able to offer you very good advise. I hope you are able to overcome this present obstacle without too much difficulty and that you are able to move on positively.

Good luck and a big hug
I had a few drinks and got pulled over for speeding :slap: and got arrested with an OWI. I had to use all the money I had saved to put towards an apartment for when my man gets out, to get bailed out. Just what I need, More Stress :banghead:. I'm already freaking out over a medical bill I have to start paying on from a fall I had (from drinking) and hurt my neck. I don't make much money, I work 2 pt. time jobs along with going to college full time. I was so stupid to go out, I knew I should have just stayed home! Jim's not gonna be too happy when I tell him about this :shake:. And for the last few weeks, I've been trying to stay sober, it's not always that easy. I was doing pretty good for awhile, then I just lost it you know. Now I just have to work harder at it, it's too bad it came to this. I feel like such an ass!!!

************{yana}}}}}}}}}}} you know what the universe is trying to tell you is that god has bigger plans for you...use this as an excuse to reach out and grab them. I can relate to the story, my only arrest in my life was a DWAI. Then years later there was an encounter with a cop who let me go, but took care to scare the *&^% out of me first. THAT time it took. that I was risking my whole life, for what? my right to party? If that was ever in the constitution, it must have been when people rode horses, not 65 mph bullets.
I'm not trying to be judgemental. I have no call to be, NONE. But if you were driving buzzed and too fast and got busted, well, I thank the lord u are still here to tell us about it and everyone else too. I drive around with little kids in my car. Sometimes tired, headachey, distracted. And I DON'T want to be on the other side of the yellow line when a buzzed speeder loses it.
That said- **************************{yana}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I hope the hassles resolve into nothing too awful, because from your post I kinda think you get it already. Walk good.

It sounds like you already are aware that you have a problem as you have stated you shouldnt of gone out.

For now though, I agree dont beat yourself up. Just try and take care of yourself.

AA, the great step program does wonders for those who want to achieve sobriety. The important thing is that you want it for you.

It works if you work it.

My prayers and thoughts are with you.

Remember Hope is a good thing, it springs life eternal.

I cannot stay sober w/out Meetings. Its literally the only way I can pull together days back to back. Otherwise, when I stop going, I'm in the bottle and then who knows what else I'll be putting in my body.

We're here for you and I"m glad you're okay and that no one else was hurt!

Im sorry to hear about your troubles, Im a Chemical Depencency Nurse and to me if sounds like to need some professional help, have your ever gotten such help? There is a lot of good treatment facilities out there check with your phone book maybe you need to check in to some sober living homes good luck please keep me informed on your treatment plans.

You have started on a new road....the road to a new life. You said you were trying so hard to stay sober for weeks before this happened. That's wonderful!! But you slipped....and fell down...get yourself up, brush yourself off and head back in the direction that you were trying so hard to go in. Alcohol is so controlling, for some of us...but it's when you get yourself back on track and realize that it's starting to take over, you will fight back, harder each time. The fact that you know what you did was wrong is the first step in recovery. I am currently fighting my 2nd DUI...BUT....it was the brick I needed to hit me in the back of the head to get straight. I have been sober for just over a year, and yes, it does get easier (for me) with every day that goes by. I hope that you can find the support you need to prosper in your life and get the most out of it. Substance abuse counseling, AA, friends, family, or whatever it takes...just find something, or someone, that will support you and you can do it!!

The very best of luck to you...feel free to pm me if you need to just chat. Keep us updated on your journey with the OWI....we will always be here for you and your needs!!:D

Cheryl

What happened to you is what got me sober almost 7 months ago, and --awful as it was at the time-- it was what I needed. I've found peace, health, and serenity, thanks to treatment, jail time, and AA (but mostly AA). I guess I needed to go through all the pain of recent years in order to experience the joy I have now, and that's what keeps me from regretting the past or wishing to shut the door on it. Be strong and seek help (that's not necessarily a contradiction!). Ralph

I don't think I necessarily had a drinking problem a few years back, but then again, maybe I did and just didn't want to admit it. Either way, getting a DUI was the best thing that could have happened to me. Sounds strange doesn't it? It smacked me back into reality and it woke me up big time!!! Since I got the DUI back in 2000, I do not drink and drive at all- plus I stopped going to bars because of it. (I go occasionally only if I have a designated driver) It completely changed my life for the better!
I know it sucks, but in the long run it could possibly be one of the best things that could happen for you. When I got mine I totally believed it was God looking out for me, and it sounds like someone or something is looking out for you too girl! Don't beat yourself up, just use this as a major learning tool- If you need anything at all, please don't hesitate to ask!
Stay strong!!! :)

I don't think I necessarily had a drinking problem a few years back, but then again, maybe I did and just didn't want to admit it.
What i have learned about addiction (personally speaking of course) is that we don't think we have a problem until something HORRIBLE happens and then the only thing we can do is look at ourself. Its a rude awakening when denial no longer works and we're faced with self-awareness!

I too was "saved" by the angels with shiney badges and bright red and blue lights! As horrible as my circumstances, they got me CLEAN and for THIS addict, that's a miracle because I was the queen of blame redirection and denial!

Thank you all for your comments and support. I talked to a lawyer the other day and he's gonna get my court date pushed up within the next month. I'll have to go for an evaluation and to some classes, etc. I guess I got pretty lucky, they could have gotten me on a worse night. I told Jim lastnight when he called about what happened, he was so mad. I think he was just mad that I was going out and then he made the comment of of being anxious to get transfered to another facility so he can do some "real dope". He's a heroin addict and has been clean a year and almost 3 months now. I worry about what he's gonna put into his body, so I guess he worries about the same with me. I hope he doesn't start using just to "get back" at me you know.

uh-oh- hopefully he was just mad and fretting and playing the "how would YOU like it if I jumped in the river?" game

I hope that's all that was, I'll be talking to him in a couple days so hopefully by then he'll be over it. I worry about him but there's not much I can do, I just do my best to support him in a positive way.

I hope your court date goes well for you!! And as far as your man...I sure hope he sticks to his guns on staying sober, and was just "lashing out". I would hate to see him go backwards after all this time!! Keep us informed on the outcome of your case...we are all here for you!! Stay clean!!:thumbsup:

Cheryl

Well I went to court the other day and everything went well. I go tomorrow to sign up for probation and find out when I need to go for my substance evaluation and classes. I'm happily staying sober, the first week was the hardest I think because I knew I had to be tough and not give in. As for my man, I think he was just lashing out because he was dissapointed with me. I told him over the phone kind of how I felt about him using, instead of writing it this time and I think I got through to him. Things are much better now. We take things one day at a time.

Yna,
Glad you just got probation. I wish you the best in your. Sobriety is great! You can do it.

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Yana-Perhaps this will be a new beginning for you both.

Fantastic, so glad to hear this good news.

Remember Hope is a good thing, it springs life eternal.

Delighted you just got probation. Now use it as an opportunity to fix the problem so you never find yourself in a much worse position. I don't want to preach...but you have no choice. Fix the problem or just postpone a worse day! Professional's and folks here who know all about this can offer you good advice and support, as you know.
Good luck and a big hug!

Yana, I'm so glad things are better!

YANA - I ADMIRE YOUR COURAGE TO COME TO THIS SITE AND BE HONEST. I WISH I HAD IT.

But you just were!!!!!

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YANA - I ADMIRE YOUR COURAGE TO COME TO THIS SITE AND BE HONEST. I WISH I HAD IT.