As You Guys Already Know He Came Home On Friday. The First Day And A Half Was Great. But He's Already Showing Signs That He Is Still The Same Person That He Was When He Left. By That I Mean As Far As Like Talking To Other Females Behind My Back. This Is What I Have Been Afraid Of For The Past 8 Months. I've Been Through This With Him Before And I'm Not Trying To Go Through It Again. What Should I Do? Am I Being Too Insecure About Things Or What. I Really Need Advice.

Hey Q!!!

when you say talking to other females behind your back...what do you mean...like hanging out with them...when he says he is somewhere else...

mine just got out and was so changed..and now is back in for the same exact charges..and the same relapse he has been doing forever...

write back, hope your okay!!
francis

If he is doing things that disappoint and discourage you whether they are the same old things or new things you owe it to yourself to sit him down and tell him how he is making you feel. If your relationship is going to work you have to have trust and communication. Talk to him then make a decision that works for you.

Best of luck to you,
Patty

Patty gave you some good advice. Communication is so important. Even more so now. Don't assume anything. Talk to him about how you are feeling and what's going on. You stood by his side this long, your relationship deserves a shot at working out. Feelings are the most true and honest thing about us. Sometimes they can be confusing. If you are feeling a certain, there is usually a reason why and it should be addressed. It will all work out the way it is supposed to. Hang in there honey

Q I think you got pretty good advice from Patty and Ju and Francis! No relationship without communication, but if you feel he is the same ol same then tell him whats up! Dont stand for it sweetie, you deserve the wolrd! Always remember that!

If ya need me PM me!

Thanks Guys! You All Give Great Advice. I Understand What You Say About Communication. I Told Him What I Am Feeling. And He Denied Everything As Usual. So Now What? I'm Just Really Confused About Things. All That Stuff He Promised Me While He Was In Was Basically Just Something To Say And Write Just To Pass Time And Keep Me By His Side As Far As I'm Concerned. I Just Don't Know What To Do.

Baby Girl if you feel as if you were just there to keep his time and help him get by then you need to leave that man! I just saw a post, and it had a list of things a woman should do and never do in a relationship! And one of them was to not stand by and let him do as he pleases! Let him go girl if it was meant he will be back trust!

i agree here.
You need to sit down and talk to him about what you see happening. You need to make it clear to him what you want in life, which is obvious, to move forward and not deal with that type of life anymore. I would definitely remind him of all that the both of you have gone through and then let him know you don't want to deal with any of the old lifestyle anymore and tell him he has to make a decision.

You are the only person in the world that is going to make sure you are happy, so you have to do it. I know it is hard to make decisions like these, but if he is not going to change, move forward with his and better himself, you don't need that junk anymore. You deserve so much more! :)

This is what scares me - them being exactly the same after a few day, or weeks. Often makes one sit up and do a reality check. Mine comes home in 4 months, and i am so scared. I have this really great fear inside me that he will go back to the drugs. I hope things work out for you. I really hope they do.

You need to respect your self. You waited for him and did right by him. He needs to do right by you. You are the only one who knows what that is. In otherwards..........set standards. Do not let someone do to you what you would not do to them. If mine ever went to another woman for anything when he came out I would make sure he was carrying his suit case! Sorry I'm older and will not put up with much and he knows it. But he will not respect you if you allow him to treat you like this. But you have to make up you own mind. Be strong.....and believe in yourself. Good luck!

bumblebee makes a valid point. He can only DO to you what you ALLOW him to do. You waited patiently for this man based on your love for him and promises he made to you while he was locked down. If after sitting him down and talking to him about your needs and desires he is still uncooperative it may be time to reacess the situation. You deserve happiness but only you can make that happen. I hope things get better for you soon whatever you decide to do.

All the best,
Patty