No we're not married yet but you know what I mean or you will know once you read this...

Yesterday morning I realized we had reached that level of comfort that you have with your best friend, your man, etc. He had been at the house for two hours before I realized I wasn't wearing any makeup. When I went to remedy that he said and I quote, "Shawna (my best friend who could care less how I look) won't be here for hours," (as though the makeup was for her benefit!)

A few hours later he is sitting in my office off of the bedroom and I am sitting on the toilet, didn't bother to shut the door, my cell phone rings and I know it's Shawna calling to see what time we will go shopping for Sunday dinner fixin's so I ask him to answer it for me and I gazed over at the doorway where he stood talking to my best friend while I peed (can we say pee?).

In that moment I knew...we've moved on to the next level, I KNOW you KNOW what I mean...

Time marches on,
Patty

Honeymoon is great. :) Sharing and building a future to together is even better. Peeing the door opened, is the first step.... ;)

All my best wishes to you both.
Phil

Thanks Phil ~ I don't know why but when YOU say it somehow it's even funnier!!! LMAO over here. You're right, I couldn't agree with you more!

Hugggz,
Patty

ow.

reading that made me smile. and laugh a little too!
when the door's open it's all on that next level.. :p

i'm pretty quiet around here but i absolutely love reading your posts. so much hope and happiness and all of that stuff we all need. so thanks.
i really am so glad that things are working out so well for you.

:D

TsStar ~ I'm glad I made you smile and laugh, I enjoy that so thank you. Thanks also for enjoying my posts, what a nice thing to say and also for your well wishes. I hope to be able to "chat" more with you soon. The Illinois forum will be up and running again soon maybe I'll see you there. If you ever feel like chatting just PM me, I could ALWAYS embrace a new friend. Thanks again from me and Sebastian for stopping in.

Smiling,
Patty

I loved your story--when I read the title I thought something had gone wrong but I am glad things are moving right along. I wish you all the very best.

ONE

ONE ~ Thanks hon. =) Sorry if I had you worried, I have an odd sense of humor and I admit it! This feels so good. It's as if all I've gone through in my 42 years were in preparation for this. I wish I could bottle this feeling, I'd be a millionaire...

Rich in Love,
Patty

This is a good thing! *smile* Enjoy your comfort!

Aww so happy for you Patty! :) Great news about the no-makeup and open-door bathroom use...LOL. :ha: Seriously though, great that things are going so well for you and your man! ;)

It makes me so happy that you and Sebastian are moving in the right direction without the least little hint of problems.

This is exactly what we all hope for when they come home. Sharing your story really does give me extra confidence that is the right thing.

Girl, the title of your thread scared the crap out of me, I thought something was wrong! I am glad you guys have gotten there, now just give him a drawer and move forward! Love you girl

Angel

That's awesome! I am happy for you! As the kind and wonderful person you are, I wish you and your "best friend" (lol) the best. And thank-you for all of your kind words and support.

-Jay

Angela ~ Thanks I am enjoying him us this SOOO MUCH!!!

Celene ~ Thanks wish Randy well for me when you get to visit!!! =)

Shel ~ Thanks for stopping by girlfriend, you know I wish you and your man all the best and if my posting can help you or anyone else out then I'm gonna keep on, it helps me too maybe the most. I want so much for everyone to know and especially those who met after the fact of incarceration that it can happen that it is happening!

Angel ~ Not to worry nothing is wrong, sorry to have mislead you. Trust me you'd hear about it in a PM first if there was a real problem which I'm thinking is NOT gonna happen cuz let's face it I got me the best guy in the whole wide world. =)

Jay ~ Thanks so much for posting. You warm my heart in so many ways. I wish you and yours all the happiness this life has to offer. Stay UP!!!

Much Love to All Y'all,
Patty

I was another one who thought, by the title of your thread, that something was wrong!! Whew... I'm glad that things are still going great. I'd just written to my baby, telling him how your 'home' photos gave me the strength that was really needed. :) I'm so happy that things are still going great. :) Youre right... your relationship is definately on the next level... the right direction!! :thumbsup:

Sounds like the two of you are moving into that comfort zone. I was never a big fan of the honey moon phase. Too much work. Just want to be myself and not have to worry about all the little extras. The comfort zone is where you want to be!!!:thumbsup:

LMFAO Patty, you do know how to jolt a person...so glad life continues ever sweeter:)

Add one more person, who literally thought "the honeymoon was over"! I have read all your posts since Sebastian came home, and it has been like "see , someone stuck it out and now it is paying off"! Then the thread title grabbed me and I thought, "great, one of the few success stories has gone bad"!

BIG ?...does he leave the toilet seat up?? LOL

Gal, you know now you are as good as married!! :) :) :D

I didn't think anything negative of your title, I thought it would be about something bringing you closer, since he as been home for a little bit. Aside from that, my sista I am so happy for you, that the both of you are in that comfort phase, it is wonderful and there are so many phases you will have revelations on.

I love you sharing your stories, makes it more real for me and keeps me inspired the path I am on is right. Thanks again Patty!

2nice ~ Aww sorry for worrying ya everything is all good though. =) I'm glad you like my Homecoming Pics thread I'm hoping others will start posting pics there soon. Thanks for thinking of us...

MsAkbar ~ It's funny I guess we just slipped into it without knowing but I suppose that is the way it happens, just wanting to savor the moments big or small, loving the comfort zone!

haswtch ~ A jolt here and there will do us all good!!! Thanks for the support. =)

cookchik4sure ~ We're okay I promise you, heck we're better than okay!!! As to your question does he leave the toilet seat up? Yes there are times when he leaves the toilet seat up. Funny you should mention this because instead of annoying me I just smile and think "my man is home" Oh my God I am evolved!!! LMAO

qwerty ~ LOL You may be right I feel married we'll get to that part as soon as possible.

Larissa ~ I'm glad that my milestones can give you hope. I'm so pleased that things are going well and wish the same for all my PTO friends...

Hugggz to all,
Patty

wow, I thought when you said the honeymoon is over, you meant something bad! but this sounds like you are a typical couple, and it sounds nice, LOL....thank goodness, maybe the title should be something else LOL...

Okay Patty! I am gonna have to strap myself down when I see the titlr for your posts from now on I almost jumped outta my seat!!!!

LOL But I think it is great that yall have passed the uncomfortable part and can Pee in front of each other! ROTFLMAO!!!

SO GOOD TO HEAR A SUCCESS STORY... ENJOY , BE BLESSED:thumbsup:

MrsG ~ You are among those that got an unsettling feeling because of the title of this thread, oops sorry, I am different yanno??!!?? In our case the honeymoon being over is a very, very good thing.

Candy ~ Sometimes it's the little things (like peeing haha) that count, right? LOL

SAHAR ~ Blessed I am and blessed are we, thanks for stopping by and for your kind words.

Hugggz,
Patty

:thumbsup: Cool!!!!



:D :D Honeymoon over!!!:D :D lol

Hell Patty at least you had one, we just moved right into that phase LOL But what's funny is now we seem to be easing into the honeymoon. But that's another whole post. As for you and your makeup, ain't it nice, to relax all of that? Love it, love it.

I just love reading stories like that!! I am so happy for you!! It gives me hope and excitment for when my Boo comes home!! I wish you many more wonderful moments and please share. I just love a true love story!!

Mary ~ Yeah it's nice to feel comfortable and I do love, love, love it!!!

Big A's Girl ~ Thanks for stopping by and for your kind words, I'll keep sharing, couldn't stop me if ya tried! LOL =)

Hugggz,
Patty

Patty,
You and Sebastian remind me that we have so much to look forward to when my Brandon gets home. It's gonna be a while...a long while...but when you said you just smiled when you saw the toilet seat up and thought "my man is home"...I saw me in 7 years. I'll look forward to the snoring, the hogging the bed again, the 'getting in my way' in the kitchen, throwing more cheese on my nachos, and the seat up...I swear, if he was here to do that right now, I'd be the happiest woman in the world! Besides you of course! :-)
Thanks for sharing with us. I gotta go wipe the tears now.

Nancy

Awwww Nancy *handing you a hanky* Now dry your eyes and go write that man of yours a nice, sweet letter. =) It makes me feel good that my posts can bring you and others a bit of laughter and hope for the future. I know I felt the same whenever I read about someones homecoming while I was waiting for Sebastian's release.

Things are going great and only getting better even if by better I mean there is no real news to report, no news is good news in this case.

So In Love,
Patty

We had some of our best talks in the bathroom! Good for you guys- that's real love!

what I wouldn't give to pee with him LOL

lonelyliz ~ yeah now we seem to end up there all the time (I have a HUGE bathroom)...

haswtch ~ you're so romantic!!! LOL

Sweeter by the day,
Patty

Being comfortable with someone is so important..I need some of your courage..I'm happy for you!

Courage huh? I've heard that before, funny I don't see myself as a courageous person well not especially yanno? My mother used to tell me when I was a teenager that my greatest downfall was that I had no fear! :shrug: Yuo'll make your way Ash, we all will! =) Being comfortable is just one more step in the journey...

Hugggz,
Patty

Patty you are crazy as hell. I think we should be allowed to say pee, everyone does it. LMAO
Kesha

Kesha ~ I think I said it, several times!!! LOL

Patty

My husband is the first man I have talked to while taking a crap, lol...
Ain't love Grand??

ROFLMAO Mrs G! Y'all have really brought the romance back to my day! I can't wait until he starts peeing in front of me too. The dog's done a great job of covering for him in the snoring department for now.

:faint: (((Patty))) You had me momentarilly shook!! You know, thanks to you & Sebastian, I see the light at the end of me & Rodney's tunnel...Girl, if I have to pee while talking on the phone, he wants to hear me. And I couldn't go because I knew he was listening. How crazy is that :p Anyway, I think that's adorable you two are simply comfortable. I'm so loving your relationship. Thanks for sharing. And please don't use any more scary titles. :eek: Sabrena;)

LOL such a romantic topic ladies!!! Oh and sorry MsChiku I didn't realize so many would take it THAT way, just chalk it up to me and my bizarre sense of humor.

Hugggz,
Patty

Just saw this thread and had a good laugh; we all know exactly what you mean. But be warned, my dear: if you have reached the no make-up, non-private urinating phase, how long can it be before he decides the most amusing thing on earth is to fart in bed and pin your head under the covers??!!! :eek:

This really cracked me up because on the trailer I closed and locked the door and of course he tried to open it and then I was frozen and couldn't go!! I knew he was out there listening!! I didn't poop for 3 days! I have a long way to go to get past the honeymoon!
Your happiness is infectious!

sickofprisons ~ Oh Lord the things I can look forward to, huh? LMAO

NYYankee ~ I hope you get over that soon or you're gonna have a tummy ache. We all poop, it's ooooooooookay.

Tra la la,
Patty

that is so cool Patty , I am so glad you both are so happy what a great beginning to a great future. :yay:
Truly Patty

I am so loving this thread. I just pop in every couple of days to see how the world of Patty & Sebas turns:). I feel like I am reading a real life show, only the show is your life. Thank you so much for sharing with us. I hope you will continue. I think what we all love the most is thinking it will be all of us one day. Patty I am so happy for you:D. The end of a long horrible road is happiness and thats how it should be damit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

az tears ~ I'm with you, feeling very agreeable about things!!! =)

MsAkbar ~ Well it's comforting to know that we are not alone in this world. It's nice to have you along with us. I'm glad you enjoy the posts. I know I enjoyed reading about others ups and downs while I was still waiting.

All the best,
Patty

Wooohooo! Well, mine never cared about peeing in front of me. But I on the other hand....I have not gotten there yet. The day I tell y'all I let him in for that, y'all know I am really fixing all those broken little things in my life!
As far as the makeup, today was the first time since he has been back home that I put on my make up and straightened my hair. I mean I have done a little eyeliner here and there and my hair is naturally curly. It is easy just to wash and go. So today I had on some real eye make up and flat ironed the hair. I can't even describe his reaction. So I guess I will be straightening the hair for a minute now! I must have looked good, 'cause he offered to watch all 3 Lord of the Ring movies with me....in ONE day! Wooohoooooo!!!!!!!!!!

Wow sounds impressive!!! All three, huh? I'm glad you haven't run him over with your car! LOL Maybe the "honeymoon" thing works in reverse for you. It's worth a try, leave it to the flatiron to heat things up!!! Keep us posted.

Patty

Oh well, I guess I got excited for nothing. The very thought of LOTR in any way or form made the man run outside and mess around in my shed. By 9 p.m. we were having a nice yelling match. I told him I just didn't want to talk....but you know how peeps can be when they want to do something....So that led to me having a coughing episode that got really bad that led to me being outside at night trying to get air which led to the humidity attacking my butt which led to the hair doo looking like.....so much for that great idea....lol.....and how was your day?

Awwww honey it's not always gonna be like that. Somethings gotta give, you'll both find your way hopefully without too much compromise. My day was eh another workday...

Patty

Kace honey you are just going through it! Time and patience and a firm belief that love conquers all, you will make it girl. Patty keep on sharin' the love! :D

Well...another weekend. It was my birthday, so I got my present the day before. He bought a dvd player for my bedroom. That made me laugh because only one time while joking did I say I wanted a dvd player in there. With his schedule, I'll never be able to even use it. I think he really wanted for his Sunday's off so he can watch his off name gang movies that he loves to rent from Blockbuster. Y'all know those movies....they have no stars....they have names like "Drive By" and "Barrio Wars". Yeah, he can stay in the room with that for real! He actually took off early for my actual birthday, but he looked more dead than alive. I guess his hours are starting to catch up with him. It was raining, and I wasn't feeling well, so we stayed home. He did offer to take me to dinner. He went to work Saturday and I went on doing my errands. He attempted to watch a dvd with the family that night, but no dice. He was asleep within minutes. We took pictures of him, but I am sure he erased them by now. So we get to Sunday, and all day (although I have plainly announced to him and the whole house that I was not feeling well still and I HAD to get some cleaning done or else) he followed me around asking me to....well....y'all know. I said no. I kept saying no. I am bloated. My back hurts. My head hurts. I want to murder everyone. NO. But he continued on into the evening. It was so bad I was steering clear of the back of the house where he stayed all day in the bedroom. Yeah, he talked to no one and had nothing to do with us. But he found time to lewdly, may I add, ask for....that. So he finally went to bed at 11. I waited til around 1 to go to bed. I thought all may be well. This morning I got a nasty note about how f-ed up I treat him. Ahhh. Yes. It is always me. WE won't mention how last week I was finally feeling my old self (yes...in THAT way) and he blew me off after a quick interlude. No seconds. No cuddle. NO NOTHING. Just looked at me like I was a nymphomaniac. But that is okay. I was going to write a nice f-you letter back to him, but I don't care anymore. Yeah, it is getting to that point. He doesn't talk to me unless it is about his job, or the car he wants, or the bills he has to pay (cause only he has bills), or his new checking account. It is still that way after countless arguments. Sex is still sex. I refuse to bring it up again. I told him that it would end up this way...and here it is. I am just starting not to care. I care about him, but he is more a room mate than anything else. And I hope he doesn't plan on asking me to marry him. Oh man. I had a nightmare about that one. So how are you ladies doing?

OOH, maybe I should have vented somewhere else, LOL!!!!!

Sounds like your relationship is moving along just fine.LOL

Kace r you doing better these days?

I've decided I'm okay with the honeymoon being over...I love him so much and he feels the same. This is definitely workable.

Hey Kace ~ you hang in there girl, if you ever want to chat I'm only a PM away...

Hugggz to all y'all,
Patty