I got a letter yesterday... April 1 2016... so so very long but I thank God he has a day to be able to come home... Patty

i'm sorry...that is a long way off. but, like you said, he will be able to come home. you must have mixed emotions at this point...remember, we are here for you.

all the best, patty.

emme

The not knowing is always the hardest - at least now you know. You don't have to go through this time alone - we're here for you.

Sorry Patty, but yes, one day he'll be out, and we'll be on your side along the road !!

All my best wishes to you and Joey
Phil

I am sorry Patty. I know that you have been going through pure heck waiting. Please know that we are here for you if you ever need us

i HAVE TO AGREE THE "NOT KNOWING" IS THE HARDEST-NOW YOU HAVE A SPECIFIC DATE -- AND AS EVERYONE HAS SAID WE WILL BE HERE FOR YOU ALL THE WAY.

Hang in there, that day WILL come!!!

You do have a date even though it's such a long way off---you now have a date. We're here for you.....

Deb

NOW AT LEAST YOU HAVE A DATE AND I KNOW ABOUT THAT 2016 THING IF MY EXHUSBAND DOESNT GET A TIME CUT HIS RELEASE DATE IS MARCH 2016.BUT WE ARE HERE FOR YOU

Thanks everyone... I am having a hard day today but with all your help I'll be ok... Patty

Patty, like everyone has said now you have a date. Is there a way that can changed if he does what he is supposed to do and all. But anyways, we are all praying for you and we will always be here to ease your troubles.

Big hug
cherrie from tx

JOEY'S MOM, MY HEART CRIES FOR YOU, I FEEL THE PAIN FOR YOU, I HAVE HOPE FOR YOU, I HAVE FAITH IN YOU AND YOUR LOVE FOR YOUR SON TO BE OK. JUST GIVE HIM ALL THE SUPPORT YOU CAN, THIS IS A VERY LONG TIME, BUT AT LEAST YOU KNOW HE WILL COME HOME TO YOU, HELP KEEP HIS HOPE UP ALSO, HE AND YOU WILL HAVE YOUR UP AND DOWN TIMES, BUT THE LOVE BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU WILL OVER RIDE THOSE DAYS, MIGHT BE SLOW OVER RIDING BUT THE UP DAYS WILL PREVAIL IN THE END. I CONSIDER MYSELF LUCKEY, MY SON JUST HAS MAYBE 2 YRS AND 6 MONTHS TO DO HIS FIVE YEARS, AND I FEEL SORRY FOR MYSELF FOR HAVING TO WAIT THAT LONG, I WILL TRY REAL HARD TO THINK OF THE OTHER MOM'S OUT THERE THAT ARE WAITING LONGER THAN ME, AND I WILL SAY A PRAYER FOR THEM AND COUNT MY MANY BLESSINGS. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND JOEY AND MAY GOD WRAP HIS ARMS AROUND YOUR SON AND KEEP HIM SAFE FOR YOU UNTIL HE COMES HOME TO YOU. GOD BLESS US ALL.

Iris, thank you you are very nice... God Bless you also, Patty

PATTY........I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE I CAN ADD.....LIKE EVERYONE HAS SAID......AT LEAST NOW YOU HAVE A DATE..............PATTY....I AM THINKING ABOUT YOU AND JOEY AND LIKE I HAVE TOLD YOU BEFORE JUST GOT TO HANG IN THERE THE BEST WAY YOU CAN..........SHERRON

Patty, I am so sorry that it is such a long term for Joey and for you. You know we will all be here for you and Joey so just lean on us for awhile we will help. Love Barbara

Patty,

I am so sorry about the lengthy sentence Joey received. I know it will be difficult, but you will get through it. Just stay strong. As I mentioned in my posts, my son's parole eligibility is in 2031 and he's only 17 yrs old. It's a struggle for me every single day. However, it does get a little bit easier. We are here for you whenever you need to vent! Take Care!! PEACE!

Its good to know as the not knowing is by far the hardest.
Sending love and positive thoughts.
Gillian

Patty, I am sending you a hug, my prayers are with you.

*hugs*
Cindy

Dearest Patty

May God Bless and Keep You.... 2016 is a very long time, but, he could get out sooner. Go through the appeal process if at all possible. Also, never give up hope that he can get a parole.

Butch is in until 2013. That is his Max Out Date. He has been in since 1990. It has been a long hard struggle, but, we have made it so far. Keep your head up and continue your support and love for Joey.

My prayers are with you hon.... If you need to vent, send me a PM. I will be glad to listen.

Love Ya
Donna

PATTY, My 12yr. olds son's Dad is also in until 2015. He has been taking all the schooling and college courses he can, to pass the time. Stay stronge and never give up hope. My prayers are with you. TX. Mom

I don't knw what I would have done if I had not found this group... you are all so kind and caring... I hope that I will be able to help someone else through thire time and heartache... Thank you all... Patty

PATTY.......WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER......WE LOVE YOU............SHERRON

I know Sherron and we can do this because we have to... I just miss my son so bad lately... I got another letter today... He said that he had a tooth ache so they pulled two of his teeth... it made him sad... the other night he had a dream about his son and woke himself up yelling "JoJo"... I wish I could comforter him... His ex-wife got a restraining order on him so he can't even write to his son... She is a very cold hearted woman... But I wont go into that... I'll be ok don't worry... Patty

PATTY.....I AM SO SORRY.......SHE IS JUST HURTING JOEY'S SON.......BUT I BET SOMEDAY.....JOEY WILL GET A LETTER FROM HIM AND JOEY WILL BE ABLE TO WRITE HIM.....TELL JOEY TO HANG IN THERE........SHERRON

Dear Patty,

I'm a foster Mom and your son has rights and you should Fight for them! Don't let his Ex get away with this. And if you have to fight for Grandparental rights.

I know it takes money to do this, but I'm sure there is an organization that might be able to help.

I remember when my son got his sentence, I cried because his release date was around my 50th BD. Silly me! But, I just could not imagine him being locked up that long.

The Holidays are the hardest and Birthdays.

If Joeys' release date is in the year 2016, that means he is under the 85% Law. What was his sentence? 15 to life? Sorry for the questions.

I do not want to give you false hope but, I received this Note from the DA of Sacramento:

"As of this afternoon there is no proposal to reduced inmates good time level from 85% to 65%. However, this proposal was put forward by the Legislative Analysts Office last year. Because of the severity of this year's budget shortfall I am sure that this proposal will be recycled again this year. "

So there is HOPE!

Stay Strong!

Love
Kathy

Joeysmom also again my prayers are with you and your son, it may seem like a long time my son has til 2009 back it 97 yes it seemed like an eternity but we are now in 2003 time comes and goes who knows he may be home earlier than that i am not giving up...never!!! hugs. JER

Joeysmom about the exwife let me tell you I know the feeling Javier my son has a daughter Sierra my advise to you is to keep in touch with her the ex no matter what, is that possible? I myself couldnt ever imagine gettting over the issues I had with the mother she has realized that Sierra loves her daddys family and as times goes by she is getting older and requesting more contact with us, give her time things will change i promise me and this girl had some horrific encounters but all is in the past and i forgave her i love my baby Sierra she is so much like her daddy and i even love the mother too, we are now best friends and she calls me for advise or whenever she needs someone to talk to. Things will fall into place be patient, think about that baby a part of your son and all will be ok, take care hugs, JER

JER, My son's ex is so heard to read... they were married 13 years... I care about her and her girls but I never know if she is being honest with me or not... She is a big part of why my son is in Prison... And I am scared that she will do something to hurt him even more... I miss my grandson with all my heart but like I said before my ex daughter in law is a vindictive person... I can't give her the chance to hurt Joey anymore... Patty

Joeysmom, again I'm sorry to hear the sad news, I wish so many times I had the words to help people feel better. Just know you and your son are in my prayers.

*hugs*
Cindy

Kathy you gave my a ray of hope... maybe he will get out a little earlier :) thank you... Patty

PS My prayers are with you all too... and you are right we are all in this together... ((HUG))

Patty, I am sorry to hear that Joey's out day is so far off. But remeber we are here for you and will support you and Joey any way we can .


Sharon

Patty ooh if thats the case yeah i would stay away from her too gee why would she do that to the father of her child how can someone like a wife or husband hurt someone so close to them i would never understand that. a big hug from, JER

JER, The things Joey's ex has done to him are unforgivable... She is evil through and through... and the sad part about her is that when she is nice she is the sweetest person on earth but you never know what she might do next... It makes me sad because I really loved her... But drugs and booze have always been her priority... All Joey ever wanted was a family and a home for them... he worked his butt off trying to make her happy but t was never enough... Sorry here I go again... Patty

Patty, I am sorry that Joey's out date is so far away :( I don't have anything else to say that hasn't already been said here, I am wishing comfort and peace for you. Take good care of yourself, I know it's hard, especially now, but you have to be Joey's support now.
God Bless you and your son