I don't know why I didn't post in here before! I guess I just noticed this forum. Sorry, ladies and gents.

Anyway, I was writing my male inmate friend for about 2 months. He's a really nice guy. He's 26 but has been in prison for a while.

In the first few letters, he confessed that he had no family what-so-ever. I took that as a cue that he need a place to live once he got out.

I know, most of you will *gasp* at this, but I already made up my mind, upon the FIRST letter, that once he was released, I was going to let him move in with me, and help him out.

So, fast forward to 27 days ago. My penpal called me and told me he was being released. Not parole, just a normal release. He asked me if I knew of any place he could stay. I told him "I just automatically assumed that you were going to live with me."

He was so excited. So anyways, he was released, and I picked him up at the prison. When we got home, he almost started crying when he figured out that I rearranged the apartment so he'd have his own room. In his room, I bought him almost everything he needs. A nice COMFORTABLE, FLUFFY bed, furniture, bedding, I even bought him TONS of clothes from American Eagle / Abercrombie (I used to work for them).

You should have seen the look on his face!

Now, I am in the process of helping he obtain a Driver's License, and we are working with several employment agencies, and Monster.com so I can help him find a job.

After being out for about a week, he started to relax, and wanted to travel (local places) a bit. So, since I am unemployed (due to illness) we travelled everywhere I could think of that he's enjoy. We visited several haunted places (Like Bearahack, and Duddlytown (I live in Connecticut). He loved them. We went to malls, to movies, to local fairs, you name it.

While he was still in prison, he confessed that he was attracted to me. Now, you can tell from my other posts that I didn't want a relationship with him, because, due to my illness, I am going to expire in about a year or two.

But thanks to PTO and the wonderful members here, I have decided to say yes to him. Love is great!

Anyway, today we rearranged the apartment again, and we now share the same room. We're going to make the other room into a game room or something. Who knows.

He was so appreciative for everything I have done for him. I was totally stunned that he felt that way about me. I was certainly attracted to him too(being a bisexual male).

Anyway, thats my story for now. I'll keep you all updated on how this new roommate/partner is working out. So far, I am in Heaven. He is just what this 30 year old cancer patient needed. Love can, indeed, conquer all.

And thanks again to this wonderful PTO family for their generous support and wisdom. You rock!:thumbsup:

Aw Jay I am so happy to hear that you decided to go for it! :yay: Looking at this from the outside, both of you seem to be a godsent for each other!! Have a fun weekend with your new honey and enjoy every moment you have together!! :)

I am so Happy this worked out for you:D and to note I was one of the ones that voted for you to let him move in with you in the beginning;) !!! Congratulations and I wish you all the best!!:p

I am so Happy this worked out for you:D and to note I was one of the ones that voted for you to let him move in with you in the beginning;) !!! Congratulations and I wish you all the best!!:p
Hehehe.... thanks. Yes, i know you voted "yes". And I am so glad that you did, and that I chose to follow my heart and not my dumb brain.

Thanks again!

Hi
I just wanted to say sometimes we find happiness and love in the strangest places if we would just open up to it. I am glad you took a chance and followed your heart. I wish you both the best. :D

YOu ROCK!!! i am so happy for both of you... and just for the record... i have a friend that was diagonosed with terminal cancer 18 years ago...yup 18 years ago they told her she had a month to 3...she's cancer free today and has been been for , i dunno...a whole lot of years!!! like 15?? 16?? anyways the docs know alot but they sure dont know what the man upstairs has in mind... best wishes to the both of you...

What a wonderful outcome! You are both JUST what the other one needed. I wish you guys all the best.

Very,very happy everything worked out well :)

You sound like a true gift to him,what a very caring person you are!

What a great story! I am so happy for both of you!!!! If only everyone were so generous and caring the world would be a better place! Enjoy yourselves!!!!

In this world love comes in different ways trust me I know... I met my man by way of a misdialed call from the county jail... Fast forward a year later and he's home with me now, just as genuine as he said he'd be.

I am so happy for you, regardless of the time you will be able to share with your partner make every moment count. Thanks so much for sharing your wonderful news with us, you brought a smile to my face and for that I thank you.

All the best to you and yours,
Patty

This is a great thing. Maybe by having something good in your life, your health can improve a bit. I'm a nurse and have seen some pretty unbelievable stuff. You never know.....

I am happy that you are happy .. I am glad that he can make you smile.

You guys put tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat and awe in my heart. Some things can't be measured by time (quantity) but just by quality...

I just love love and I am so glad that you decided to give love another chance!! You guys are in my prayers, and I am so happy for you two!!

Update update we want an update!!! What's goin' on with the two of you? I am hoping very very good things!!!

Best wishes,
Patty

Congratulations sweety!! I hope everything will stay wonderful with your life.Take care Dee Dee

Update update we want an update!!! What's goin' on with the two of you? I am hoping very very good things!!!

Best wishes,
Patty
LOL... Okay, Okay. Updates!

Well, it's been an interesting week! We travelled to more haunted places. There is an abandoned small naval base in southern Rhode Island, near Connecticut. We went there. We also went Fairfield Hills, if anyone has ever heard of it. It's right near the Garner Correctional Facility in Newtown, CT. I actually grew up in Newtown, so finding it was no problem.

Fairfield Hills was a state mental hospital that also housed the criminally insane. It closed in the early 80's. The complex is HUGE. It's made up of about 20 buildings, all of them enormous. It looks like a college campus, honestly.
Sam and I went in and explored. There are underground tunnels that link all of the building together, so the hospital staff could move a patient in the winter (or for more covert reasons) while lowering the possibility that the patient would escape. It's a very scary place, full of odd medical instruments, electric shock rooms, you name it. Anyway, Sam and I had a great time!

We visited Malls, went to the movies quite a bit, went out to eat more times that I can count.

But then, the best part was Monday afternoon....

We were finally intimate! It took sometime for this to happen (personal reasons), but, let me tell you.... it was worth the wait!
I won't get too personal here with everyone, but this was my first time being with a guy. True, I am bisexual, but I only discovered I was bisexual 4 years ago. I've been with plenty (well... more like 4! LOL) girls in my 11 years of having sex (I lost my virginity at 19). So, I didn't know what to expect. I was very nervous. Sam was very understanding.

Everything went well. (That's all I'll say! Hehehehe. If you want more details, you can PM me! Hahahha. :D )

He has driving classes starting next week, we are going to get him his driver's license. He asked me to take the classes with him, he didn't want to go alone. So, it looks like I am going to take a refesh course! (I actually could use it! I'm a horrible driver! LOL)

And Sam has got me to thinking... I don't have much time left in this world. Sam is going to get a job, and he thought maybe it would be a good idea, since I don't want to work, to maybe volunteer my time in a soup kitchen or shelter. I thought it was an excellent idea!

Again, Sam improves my life! Is there anything this wonderful guy can't do?

Well, those all all the updates for now! I'll post here again, in about two days to let everyone know how Sam's classes are going...

And Saturday is a big deal for us! Sam is meeting my family (what's left of it) for the first time. I am very nervous! Do I introduce him as my partner, or no? Do I tell them about Sam's history? Or should I let Sam decide that? Sam already told me I could tell them, but . .. I think maybe he should tell them, if he chooses to. What are your thoughts?

PLEASE PM ME with your thoughts, or post here. I could, once again, use your advice. You people are very smart!

I'll post here on Sunday and let you all know how the meeting went. I am really nervous!

We have a couple of things against us... (in the eyes of my family)
1) They don't know that Sam is an ex-con
2) They don't know that Sam is my partner
3) They don't even know that I'm bisexual. *gulp*

Ahhh...!!! I am really nervous!

Anyway, that's it. Thanks everyone, I love all of you! This site and it's members are wonderul.

Your friend,
Jay

Well, they do know you're ill right? So another piece of news that will be new to them is, you have found somebody who really makes your heart sing! That said, I don't know if hitting them with EVERYTHING at once is even necessary. Maybe just bring him along as a friend, let them observe the closeness and good vibes...and leave the decisons about what to reveal when to be made as you both feel comfortable, rather than feel like you have to get it all out at once.
Families sometimes have knee jerk emotional reactions to things, which after people have had time to process, they realize they overreacted. But you know your family. No matter what- GREAT update, he really does sound special! and you sound, well, XStatic!

I'm gonna basically echo haswtch on this one. While I make a point of NOT hiding anything about my own life with friends, family, co-workers I understand completely that this is not in everyone's best interest. The fact that you express concern over how your family will feel about Sam's past, your relationship with him, even your sexual orientation leads me to the conclusion that these things are best left unsaid. I think there will come a time when you will be asked directly about these issues and then would be a better time to handle them. I know you want to shout your happiness from the rooftops but in this case it might be best if you just let them get used to the idea, they'll get the picture over time and it might be easier for them to handle if they deal with it gradually. I hope that their love for you will guide them towards acceptance and that they will eventually embrace Sam as the special person he is.

All the best,
Patty
P.S. I PM'd you Jay =)

:hands on hips, toes tappin': I need MORE, Jay! Update asap pleAse!!! =)

All the best,
Patty

LOL.... You're cute!

Saturday was no big deal... because we didn't say anything! We chickened out! We were thinking about telling everyone on Thanksgiving, but the majority of the members here are opposed to that idea. LOL, I guess I see why! (I am imagining the turkey fly across the room, and several pies smacking my father!).

Maybe we'll wait. Sam really wants them to know. He is proud of me (for some reason!), and wants everyone to know that we are together. The guy has drive! I am older, and I am still scared to hold hands at the mall. He's much braver than I.

Anyway, Sam is doing well. I am feeling excellent, for some reason. We are looking to get Sam a job. It's no easy task. Sam and I have a lot in common in this area. He usually won't get hired if he tells future employers about his conviction, and I NEVER get hired if I chose to disclose my cancer condition.
I made that mistake several times. Here, I thought I was going to be nice and honest, and tell them about my cancer, even though I didn't have to. Mistake!

Tomorrow (November 4th) we are taking a trip back to Newtown (where I gre up). Tomorrow is my Mom's birthday. She would have been 52; but she died 10 years ago. Sam wanted to see where she was buried.
And, he said, he wanted to see the woman (or the spirit of) who created such a great guy. Awwww! I don't think he was talking about me! Maybe my brothers or something.... hehehehe.

But that's about it. No other news.
I started writing my two new penpals, I didn't get a response yet, but I'm sure I will. Sam is going to write to one too.

I wish I had a picture of him! You would see how cute and cuddly (and damn sexy!) this man is! LOL.

Take care!
-Jay

Awww! you two both seem great! and perfect for each other.
Good Luck and I hope to see you update with how everything goes with your family.

GOD BLESS YOU! YOu are amazing! What an amazing story of love and hope and just pure kindness. God will bless you and shine on your soul. May you find good health and happiness for all the days of the rest of your life!!!!!!

i think you should let same tell your family about his past, if he's comfortable with it. i dont think you should tell them everything at once. as far as you being bi, i dont think thats anyone's buisness what your sexuality is, but if you want to tell your family, then i say go for it. hope everything works out good luck. im glad you found sam and he makes you happy. godbless.

Jay ~ Once again you make me smile in all the right places. I am so happy for you and Sam. Have a wonderful trip and return safely to us.

Hugggz,
Patty

You and Sam have such a wonderful feeling for each other. I love to read such wonderful Love storys like this. I hope that things keep getting better and better for you guys!!