My b/f and I don't have any kids yet together, he has one and I have none at all. I'm 27 and do want kids. He hasn't been sentenced yet so we don't know the time frame we are looking at. I am still exercising my faith that the Lord will shine on this situation. But you can't help but have thoughts that make you think...what if... How do those of you with no kids deal with the reality that if you wait there may be no kids? I have thought about adoption and foster parenting because there are so many children without loving homes but still I want to experience one of my own. :(

I will be 26 years old when he gets out...I am 22 now...I had always said that I wanted kids by the time I am 25, but I have to wait...I think I just trust that God is in control and knows what He is doing and when Marc comes home, we will have all of the kids we need!!! Good luck to you!

Well this may sound crazy but I am enjoying my freedom. All my girlfriends who have kids tell me to take advantage of this time in my life because I really dont have any responsibilities besides taking care of myself. I have 3 cats but thats about it. My soon to be husband and I will have kids on the Lord's time, not mine. So I am cool with it.

My b/f and I don't have any kids yet together, he has one and I have none at all. I'm 27 and do want kids. He hasn't been sentenced yet so we don't know the time frame we are looking at. I am still exercising my faith that the Lord will shine on this situation. But you can't help but have thoughts that make you think...what if... How do those of you with no kids deal with the reality that if you wait there may be no kids? I have thought about adoption and foster parenting because there are so many children without loving homes but still I want to experience one of my own. :(
I cant answer your question completely because I have kids of my own, but he doenst have any and I cant have more. I have often wondered if he will some day want a child of his own. If so then am I the right one for him. I would love to have a baby with him and it hurts me more so then it hurts him that I cant, but he tells me all the time that loving and having me is more important. If this is your true sole mate then you have two choices. 1) Move on with someone else who you can have children with, but may not ever love and be as happy with as the one you are with now or 2)Give up the chance to have a child with someone else to stay with your sole mate.

Its heartbreaking to think about the fact that you may never share that bond together, but at the same time its a easy choice. I would rather not have kids with him then not have him at all. I know that he feels the same way

Oh man can I relate! I am 25 and in my mind I would have already been married by now and kids at 27. Now I might be around 29 when he gets out and my whole life plan is screwed up! I had a rude awakening when this came to mind, however god had his way of sprinkling little miricals through out yur life. So I figure that it will happen when it happens and by God's good graces! My man wasn't the only one that had things to learn from this situation because I have things to learn too. #1 understanding that you can not control everything because that is God's job! I always took such pride in how sucessful I have become at such a young age! I felt my independence got me here but came to the realization that had God not given me the oppurtunities that he did I would not have what I have! He has taken care of me and in the long run things have always worked out so I had to learn to give God my complete faith and trust that he will do whats best for me. Maybe @ 27 I wouldn't be ready to have kids. Maybe something else will be in my life at that time that wouldn't allow children, who knows all I know is that I have to live in the moment and let the future play out itself! I would much rather be in a place of completly being ready to be a mom, then become a mom because that is the age I had in my head to be a mom! Being a mother is hard really hard and you can see some people struggle so bad to handle everything and then you see womaen that have it all together. I think that when you have children when you are in the perfect situation to have children you will be a lot more happier then if it just happens and you arn't emotionally ready to handle it! Does that make sense? Well girl don't stress off tomorrow focus and enjoy today! Don't bother stressing over what is unknown or things that you can't change! You will be cool, and God will take care of you some how!

Wow, this is one of the reasons that I love PTO. I was just talking to my friend about this last night!! I think I just had my rude awakening in the last couple of days or something. I'm 24 and when he comes home I'll be 29 and possibly older if he gets flopped. I've always wanted to have at least 3 children, but I may be 30+ by the time I have my first one, but I don't want to have children by anyone else so I guess my only choice is to wait. But it does make me a little sad when I see new babies.

My man and I have 1 child she is almost 8 month's old. About a year before he was incarcerated we planned to have a child. And now we have a beautiful little Daugther together. My man only got a three year sentence so he will be home before she is three years old.

I Don't Have Kids Either And To Tell You The Truth I Would Wait Until My Hun Gets Out If I Did Want Kids I Want Him To Be There For Them And Cherish Every Moment..

Well in my situation its different, I am 22 years old and will still be 22 when he gets out, If he has to go to AZ then I will be 23, but my situation is not about us having kids when he comes home and being young enough to have a few, its the fact that I may not be able to have kids. So like babieboo said, God willing we will have them on Gods time. And like TNC said I fear sometimes what if I cant have them I dont want him to feel as if he is missing something! So we talked about it and he told me he is fine with it if I cant have kids as long as he has me! So talk to him about it, he may want to adopt kids or something like that anyways!

I just love PTO......you ladies always put it back in perspective. :)

Thanks, and you are all right!!! I guess I just needed that reminder!

on a lighter note i have kids want mine

I'm sorry you are feeling this way, Yet I feel the same it kills me beause I love children.He and I had a miscarriage a year before he went in.I think it was God's way of letting us know it wasn't our time and to be paient..So I'm just trusing in the good Lord and not questioning it.Our time will come.Keep your chin up!

Well I have been a little depressed lately about me always wanting more kids. I have one boy who is 8. I am now 26, and not with the Mike anymore (who was in prison) I fell that I will be too old to have more kids I mean I have to find a man and start all over again But I have my faith in God that what is best He will do. I just get a little down when people talk about having newborns cause I always wanted 3 kids. I am very blessed to have my son, he is the best child God blessed me so much when he gave me him. So I am thankful for him, but I was only 16 when I had him so my family wasn't very happy about it, I wanted to have a pregancy that everyone would be happy about. But if its not meant to be than it won't. but faith in God will get us all through this. Sorry to go on about my problems, I say talk to him about it and see what he says. Best wishes

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on a lighter note i have kids want mine
Honeysgone4, :D hehehehehe, that cracked me up. I needed that, I just turned 31 today and I have no kids and it is a dream of mine that I know will come true one day. :)

We'll I have no kids and he has two. I'm 22 and he is 24. I used to think all the time that I would have kids by 25, but I will be that age when he comes home and I don't want to have kids right away. I want us to enjoy being alone together. But on the other hand I never planned on being 30 and having my first child. He always ask me if I want to wait to have kids when he comes home. He said it's my choice, but I know he wants a little girl so bad. I think he wants a child that he could be in there life from start to finish being that he is missing years in his children's lives even though he never said it. And plus he has two boys and boys are usually mama boys so he wants a daddy's little girl. So I'm kind of trying to decide if we should wait or not, but why stress myself out when I still have three more years to decide. I do get sad when my friends invite me to their baby shower's I always say I want one, but I then come back to my senses because I enjoy my freedom and I am still young.

i already have two and he has three. and as much as we would like to have a baby of our own, the truth is he is serving a 23-life sentence and i refuse to do it alone.

I know exactly how you are feeling. I am 30 years old and don't have any children. And not only does my husband have another 6 + years, he had leukemia, so I don't even know if he can have kids. So, we tried on our first trailer, and I was so depressed that I wasn't pregnant, that it made things worse and really stressful for us. So, now he is in SHU for at least another year, so we will have to wait again to try. SIGH.....
It makes me so sad thinking about it. I want children so bad. And people are so insensitive. They always say "when you have kids...". What if I never have kids? And it isn't like we can adopt!

I am 42 and I have no children. This will be the one thing that will always bother me.
I was single from the time I was 19 until 31 and married someone with kids who didn't want anymore. When I was about 35 he decided that we could. I did get pregnant twice but miscarried both times. I just came to terms with the fact that it wasn't God's plan for me. I do have one step son however who loves me just as much as if I were his own mother. He thinks of me as his mother and even now that his father and I just divorced we are still as close as ever and I can always count on him to be there for me. So I am blessed with him and I couldn't have asked for a better son if he were truly my own.

I dont have any kids yet and it hurts my feelings sometimes because I was pregnate before when I was younger, when I lived at home before I got married. My mother made me you know...I feel that I will end up taking it out on my mother if I don't ever have any. My exhusband had a son when I was with him. I am 32 with an rottwieler who is my baby but the good thing is Kevin don't have any kids yet so hopefully he will be my baby's daddy.

I have an 11 year old from a previous relationship and my husband has a 5 year old from a previous relationship. We have talked about having children when he comes home next year, but who knows...our philosophy is "if it happens, it happens, if it dont, it dont".....we arent doing anything to prevent it, so if its in the cards for us to have a child together, it will happen. I would love to have at least one child by my husband...but being as thought I am 31, if it doesnt happen sooner than later, Im afraid I might change my mind.

I've also thought about the children issue. Worried about it, even. I'm 33 now. I'll be 36 when my husband gets out. And if we conceive right away, I'll be 37 when the baby is born. I'll be chasing a toddler at 40! At that age a lot of women have grandbabies and I would be just having my first child. I try not to obsess about it because it depresses me. :cry: But sometimes it sneaks up on me--just like time has. I used to want a large family. Still do, but now I pray that we'll have even one healthy baby. Even if we can't have children, I still want to be with my husband. But we both desperately want to totally screw up our sex life for several years shortly after he comes home (i.e., have a baby :D )
I've recently taken up knitting for a hobby. I'm making a baby afghan for our future child. It is interestingly textured (meaning I've made a lot of boo-boos :rolleyes: ). I could look at it this way--at least I have time to finish it. No rush. I can put it down when it starts getting on my nerves. But most of the time knitting is therapeutic. Maybe by the time we do conceive I will have learned to do more advanced knitting projects and the baby will have a whole wardrobe.
When I do start to worry that we won't be able to have a child, I think of my best friend's situation. Her husband died when she was 2 months pregnant. She has their baby girl, but not her husband. And I know that I wouldn't want to trade places with her. And I think that I can't be with my husband right now, but at least he's not dead. And I remember to count my blessings. And my husband is at the top of the list. I have his love. Anything more than that is gravy. But we would make beautiful babies. :D And we would make good parents. But it's in Big Man's hands. I'll try to leave it there.

I'm 29 and he's 49....we are definately at different phases for child rearing. It's one of his regrets..."that he didn't stick around long enough to have kids". It's hard because I want them so badly....and he said that until he met me he never really gave it much thought. Holding down a relationship has never come easy to him. We agreed that if we ever had the chance...we'd have kids together *sigh*. Alas I don't think it will be an opportunity we will ever have...

I find I think about this topic more and more. I guess as I look around and so many of my friends are having children and my parents want to be grandparents. I do feel the tug at my heart. And it's easy to think put it in God's hands, but that doesn't ease my heart. :( I know that so many things could be worse, I guess the past week or so I've been on the baby kick. I'm sure this phase will pass soon. :o

this is an issue in my life daily...and you know the worst thing people can say? when i say that my husband is in prison and they say 'well at least you dont have kids yet'. that bugs me SO MUCH!! i have wanted babies for as long as I can remember, and we have tried and will continue to try every chance we get...which isnt very often...:(.

I am very close to my sisters kids. I love taking care of them and taking them out places with me, I feel almost normal, like I am already a mommy. I have had an ache for my own babies for so long!! my husband doesnt have any either, and we know that God will bless us with our own babies when the timing is right. We have had our babies named for about 5 years now, its about time they come into existence!! :)

We want to have kids together. I have one child and he has none. He tells everyone that my son is his son. I always said that I would have my next child by the time my son turned 3. Of course that didn't happen. Sometimes it's hard b/c we're both 25 and ready and of course willing. We talk about it and have the names picked out, kind of. When GOD is ready for us to finally conceive, that's when it will be.

I am 31 and have had several miscarriages, we have been married for 11 years this Jan. He wants one so bad and so do I. I will be almost 34 when he gets out. Will we ever have one?