I want to shout it from the rooftops, but because of the circumstances, I know I can't. She's in LA until 2006, and I'm doing all I can to love and support her. I've been writing daily, and we can talk about twice a week. I will make every attempt to actually meet her on 6 November, but she is everything I've ever wanted in a woman and am willing to wait for her.

I appreciate what I've learned so far on this forum, and have been instinctively been following the rules and being her support. She really is a beautful, amazing woman, a real survivor. But, am I wrong for not telling anyone where she's actually living? I want my friends on the outside to see her as I ee her, innocent and loving, and not be prejudiced by the sins of her past.

I guess I already know the answer to my question, but I feel a little timid not being able to share fully with my friends. I just had to tell someone, and I don't care that she's in prison, I hope you all understand.

Oh what a feeling!!

I am happy for the 2 of you, and I can understand being a little timid, at first, to tell everyone about your circumstances. Unfortunately, society tells us "it's wrong to love a criminal", so we usually need to be firmly established in our relationships before we feel comfortable to share that information. You will quickly become ready to tell the world the whole story!

I am not going to judge you.Infact I think it's wonderful.Hi, I'm Ashley I genrally post in husbands and boyfriends forum because Joe, My fiancee is incarcerated But I am really happy for you.It's good to know That you can look beyond those bars and find love ad appricate it for what it is, Who she is and not what she's done.May God Bless the both of you !

Thanks for the support! She really is quite wonderful, we talked again last night - the damn 15 minute phonecalls are way too short. She's going to be up for parole soon, can anyone tell me, is there anything a successful businessman do to help swing the judge in her favor??

I think that it is wonderful that you are falling in love with her. It is ok not to tell people that would never understand, it saves debates over alot of Drama and we need no extra added drama. Not everyone I meet knows that Louis is in prison.Alot do.
As for helping her out on parole look in the Cali forum and see if they have a thread on things to do to help out with parole. I know that the inmate has to show remorse and that they have changed. They did to show that they have support on the outside and a plan of action, as safe place to parole to. that kind of things. I wish the two of you best of luck!!!

For quite a while I didn't tell anyone about my girlfriend being in prison. But after a while it was starting to feel like I was ashamed of her or something, which I'm not. So I started talking about it. If your friends are worth having they'll trust your judgement and give her a chance when she gets out. Some won't be. Some folks just can't get past the thought of someone having been in prison. You can see it on their faces when you talk about it.

I wish you all the best :)

It is ok not to mention that she is in prison, it will come in time and like Louis' girl said: no need for extra drama!
It is great for her that she has you as support! Good luck with her parole,
abelle

"It's so good, lovin' somebody and somebody loves you back"
- Teddy Pendegrass

Isn't that a great feeling? Your FRIENDS should understand. My situation was different because my friends knew my wife b4 she went in and most of them had done some dirt in their life. They were upset and suprised that SHE went in. It helps that I can talk to them. This will test your friendships. As for co-workers, etc...may not be water cooler conversation.

Well, I must be completely mad about her, because I just contracted with her lawyer to schedule her parole hearing. He had done a lot of work for her gratis, and was not working on her case as a priority.


Thanks for the support - you'all are wonderful people!!!

Good for you. Sounds like an amazing experience.

I got a warm fuzzy feeling from your intro KD. I assume you are a man???There was some confusion yesterday about a guy that many thought was a lady. It really doesn't matter. You have come to the right place. I hope you and your lady stay strong. It is nice that men can make the same commitments that we can all for the sake of love. Beware of your friends, the comments may not be nice initially. So brace yourself when you first let the cat out of the bag.
Congrats!!!

Be so careful, I fell in love 8 years ago, and i am still in love, i have not regrets and please don't take this message as one of telling you not to follow your heart. in fact follow your heart, i did. i moved to illinois to be with my husband. I love him with all my heart. it's just the if's that follow, i ended my career as a 21 year cop. i live alone, with no family they disowned me. i am just a little drunk as i write this because i have lost yet another job and don't know where to turn too. but i do know that i love my husband. I just hope he realizes it after all the sacrifices we make the comments, the disownedment. the banishment. people think we have no feelings no life not reason. but we do we fell in love. i can't and won't stop loving my husband, because he is the best thing that came into my life. BUT PLEASE LOOK AT THE IF'S AND BUT'S, SO MANY PEOPLE DON'T LOOK AT THAT BECAUSE IF YOU ARE NOT STRONG YOU ARE NOT GOING TO MAKE IT. I AM STRONG BUT WITH LOSING MY JOB AND NOT KNOWING IF I AM GOING TO BE ON THE STREETS NEXT MONTH SCARES ME, I WRITE THIS BECAUSE NO MATTER WHAT I DID THE BEST I COULD TO BE THERE FOR MY HUSBAND AND TO LOVE HIM. I AM ACCOUNTABLE FOR MY OWN ACTIONS, I BLAME NO ONE BUT MYSELF, NO ONE UNDERSTAND OUR LOVE OR OUR ACTIONS. JUST BE HAPPY THAT IS WHAT COUNTS. I DO WISH YOU THE BEST.

Love is a beautiful gift from God. Congrats and tell people in your own time when you are ready.

I got a warm fuzzy feeling from your intro KD. I assume you are a man???There was some confusion yesterday about a guy that many thought was a lady. It really doesn't matter. You have come to the right place. I hope you and your lady stay strong. It is nice that men can make the same commitments that we can all for the sake of love. Beware of your friends, the comments may not be nice initially. So brace yourself when you first let the cat out of the bag.
Congrats!!!
Yes, I'm a guy, and I just got home from a month in Florida helping the hurricane victims there. I've been sending lettrs to her every day, and we got to talk a few times. I was able to buy her some sexy beach clothes, although she can only get pics till she gets out next year. I was also able to take her pic and have it superimposed onto a beach scene, to give hera visual image of he future. LIFE IS GOOD!!!!!

Does anyone have any recommendation of pre-paid phone services that actually works as advertised???????????????

First of all KD, thanks for all your help during the hurricanes in florida. I don't know what you did for us, and that really doesn't matter. All I know is without the help that we got from everyone we wouldn't have been able to survive.

Second of all, When you feel like telling your friends you will know when the time is right. I am so happy for you. Being in love is the best feeling in the whole wide world. She is real lucky to have such a caring person. I wish you both all the luck in the world and will be praying for you both. Love Jeanne

What a great post! I am really happy for you and I wish you and your lady all the best.
Ain't love grand?? :)

All i can do is :) Isnt love just wonderful. I hope that the two of you are forever happy, and that life gives you both what you deserve. Happiness, peace and a lifetime of goodness. Many blessings to the both of you.

I hven't posted in a while, but things are still going great. I've begun to write down the emotions, discoveries, events, and thought you all might enjoy seeing the story, and if you need some ideas to hel out your friend, you might get a few ideas. Feel free to read http://xtinahs.org/WaitingforSusan. Comments are appeciated. Praying for you all!!!!!!!! Happy holidays, both to you and your honeys

Wow... i just read your story. It is full of such happiness -- I love the dried flower part! I wish you both the very best.

Your story is so lovely! makes me happy for both of you- and for her mom too, at that!

HEY I AM SOO HAPPY FOR YOU. LOVE IS BLIND AND ITS SOO BEAUTIFUL. I AM SO GLAD THAT YOU GUYS ARE DOING WELL. I LOVE LOVE AND LOVE TO HEAR ABOUT IT BEING SHARED BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE. GOD BLESS YOU AND I JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW THAT YOU MADE ME SMILE TODAY WITH YOUR LOVE POST. :)