Hi

Well this is not the wedding of my dreams but I got my guy. I waited and worried while he was in and now our wedding day. It is a gloomy rainy day and we got into a fight this morning about money and our move from CT to OK. I want him to come out to me and the kids as soon as his PO says that he can and he wants to wait until he has enough money to get us another c...ar. PO says it may take only two weeks or maybe two months. Stan wants to wait the full two months to save the money. I don't care about the money I don't want to be all the way in OK alone with two kids. i love my man been with him for 6 and 1/2 years waited for him to be ready to get married and now that the day is here it is just not what I expected. We had wanted to wait to have a small wedding at our new church in OK but his PO said that he couldn't move unless he was moving to be with family or had resided in OK before. Only my family lives there so we are getting married so he will have family ( me & the kids) out there. I guess I'm just sad because I wanted people to be happy for us and be there to support our marriage and it will only be Stan, my oldest son, one of our friends and me at the wedding because it has to be done so fast. We will be able to renew our vows once we are together in OK but my Parents will not come they don't want us to be married, hell they don't even want Stan near me and the kids. I know that I jumped around alot but I needed to tell somebody all that was going on.

Thanks for listening
Colleen

Colleen, you need to look at the upside of this and thats that the most important people in your life will be standing beside you!!! You waited sooooo long for this, dont let anything spoil it for you...you ARE getting married, and no matter what, thats the bottom line. so many people dont have family to join them on this special day...you are blessed, your strong, be happy and most of all CONGRATS!!!!

COngratulations!!! Rainy or sunny its your day. Be happy. I understand your wanting him to come now but you all have to compromise. Do you work? IF not maybe you could get a temp. job to speed up the process of getting a new/newer car.

Dont be sad on this special day. Posts some pics after the wedding if you can and have a WODNERFUL HONEYMOON!!!

ONE

Thanks Cyndi and One

I am really happy that we are getting married only waited 4 years or so for this day..lol It is just that I am really going to miss having my lil one with me Jacob 6 I wanted to have him there with me. Stan isn't very good at compromise...MEN...but I think that not being able to be with the kids & me might just make him rethink his plans for the full two months after all that would mean missing his b-day, mine and thanksgiving after spending the last few away from us maybe he will come to his senses. On the other hand if he doesn't then I could just come back here to be with him for Thanksgiving atleast.
Colleen

Is the youngest at school or something being the reason he cant be there.

When J and I got married way before he went in none of my family came. I was my only son at the time J and myself.---family!


ONE

Congratulations on your wedding day. I know it is not your dream wedding, I know first hand because I married my husband while he was still in county jail behind the glass, and I was really sad because I did not get to kiss him, hold his hand, nothing. I went home afterwards and spent my wedding night with my daughter. All you can do is make the best of it and remember you are marrying the man you love. You can always have the regular wedding when he comes home, that is what we are going to do. My parents do not approve of me getting married either because my husband has about 4 more years to go and they feel it is a long time to wait.

Ultimately you have to do what makes you happy, and you cannot listen to other people, you have to follow your heart.

Again, congratulations on your wedding, I am sure it will be wonderful.

Laurie

My little guy is with my exs Mother she was watching him so I could packup the house for the move and I called to tell her that I was going to be picking him up she said that my ex took him to his sisters for the day. I have been calling his cellphone but he isn't anwsering so unless i get in touch with him in the next few hours he is going to miss our wedding. Thanks Lauri you really made me see the good things I will have him right there in front of me and can hold him, touch him and kiss him. Not to metion he will spend the night with me.

Congratulations girl! You are going to exchange vows with the man you love. It is hard for family to understand your position, so don't falt them. Sure you should be a little sad, but don't dwell on them. My dad hit the roof and really doesn't aknowledge my situation, but it is his loss. My family is first. So don't worry about them. Worry about you, your new family unit and your happiness.


Congratulations.............Don't let the moment be lost in saddness..............

Wow..not sure if it has really hit me yet. Going to take a shower and get dressed in a few. Still don't know if my lil guy is going to make it haven't heared anything yet. I'm alittle nervous about it but I guess that you are supposed to be I keep thinking that Stan isn't going to get home from work soon enough or we are going to be really late and the JP can't do it. I know I'm a worry wart it makes me nuts.

Stans,
Go take you a nice long bath. You are gonna be fine. If he is late there is tomorrow. Stop worrying -------pray and relax. God will do the rest. YOu cant get the ex mother in law to call where your son is???

Take care and enjoy your afternoon.

ONE

I don't know you, but congrats anyways.... If you really think about it a wedding is just a tradition if you guys love each other anyways why even get married if it's so he can be closer to you then so be it!!!

Congratulations!!!! I am so happy for you. I understand your misgivings because it's not exactly as you had hoped it would be but the end result is the same, joining together with the man that you love, that's what's important!!!

All the best to you and yours,
Patty

I was a nice wedding our friend came I was able to get my lil guy from his Grannys. It was pretty quick with the JP and I was so nervous that I started to giggle when I couldn't get the ring on his finger. I think the JP thought we were nuts. He was wearing a pair of nice shorts and a button down shirt. I was wearing a purple flowered dress and was giggling from half way through until the end I even tried biting my lip so I wouldn't start but that didn't work. Our frien that came with us took us out to dinner after and we had a good time. Leaving for OK on monday hopeing that Stan will follow in a few weeks. I am so scarred about driving so far, 1500 miles, just me & the kids. I'm getting one of those pre-paid cellphones to bring with me but am still scarred. It will be ok I just keep telling myself that. Now I can change my name to Stanswife...lol

Thank for the support
Colleen

Congratulations, glad your little one was able to attend.

ONE

Congratulations on your marriage. So glad it worked out for you so that you got you little one. I can relate to the giggling. I do that when I am nervous. Love Jeanne

Congrats!!!!!!!!

That's great your lil' guy was able to attend!

~m

Congrats :)

Congratulations!!!! I'm so happy for you and your husband and your family. =) I wish you all the happiness in the world. Have a safe trip. Keep us posted!

Hugggz,
Patty

Thanks to all of you it means alot to have the support!!!

(((((HUGS)))))
Colleen

Congratulations!

I'm sitting home on a Friday night wondering if THAT day will ever come and I'm lead to your post...Praise the Lord you are together, you are joined in marriage. Someday....someday...that will be me!

Praise the Lord stansgirl! You are married and that is what matters. My wedding wasnt exactly traditional either, but we got married and that is the true purpose of a wedding....not the flowers and invitations and all that stuff. :rolleyes: I went to the church with my 3 family members, plus the minister and his wife, and my husband called from prison and it was forwarded to my cell phone, so we did our vows over the phone and I went and visited him right then because it was a visit day. It was perfect because I married my love. :p So remember that is what matters, may God bless your marriage always...God bless! :)

Congrats and safe traveling! I hope he is able to join you soon...

Deb